Am I too choosy or is it just normal?

Philippines
December 11, 2011 1:28pm CST
I've only had 1 girlfriend. And I haven't had one in a year now.. And now, I'm trying to find someone.. which is a hard task.. well maybe just for me. Or is it hard cause, I'm too choosy? Like, I like a girl, who's clean. Who's fun. Who's sensitive but not too sensitive. Like, if ever I tease her, she won't turn it into a big fight. or whatever. I set these.. standards that I think I couldn't find. Should I just forget these standards? or is it just normal and that I should just wait?
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@boyuancy (1708)
• India
12 Dec 11
How old are you? I am 20 and haven;t had a single girlfriend till date. When I was in school, I used to think that it wasn't the right time to indulge in all that and I'd get a girlfriend in college. Let's just say things didn't turn out to be the way I planned and I ended up being disturbed. I have defined the 'My kinda girl' in my head. She is not the perfect girl, put perfect as I want her to be. It is so well defined as, I know what she should sound like to what her hair should look like. If that's not the height of being choosy, I don't know what is . . .
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
12 Dec 11
Sure please tell me. And about the voice, I hate girls with squeaky voices. I want her voice to sound really mature and awesome. And her hair matters a lot to me. As much as people would say looks don't matter and personality is everything, we all know deep inside that if we had to choose b/w two girls of the same personality but different looks, we would choose the better looking one.
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Hmm, now that you mentioned squeaky voices, yeah. except that, Haha. But we don't know. Maybe you'd learn to love it, :) Well, I didn't like my ex-girlfriend at first. I liked this other girl, her friend. If you ask me who was more attractive that time, It was her friend. Even until now, to tell you the truth. But, Over time. I dunno what happened. But I fell for her. And we lasted 4 years, and I didn't expect that. Well we didn't so yeah. And about the two girls with the same personality, Yeah. probably I would go for the better looking one, BUT. We're already having a hard time finding ONE girl with the personalities we like. So finding another one with the same personality..mmm..sooo rare.
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Ohh, I'm a bit older than you. I'm 23. Really you haven't? Hmmm.. from how you choose your type of girl, maybe you're more choosy than me, haha. The voice doesn't matter much to me and even not the hair. Though I like a girl who's a bit blonde, or a bit curly or wavy. But it's more of a luxury, than what I really need. I'm more on the personality, that our personalities would match. Maybe you'd like to know how I found my previous girlfriend which lasted long?
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Time will come and you will meet the girl that you looking for. Its natural to choose someone good ,for us. Same here I'm single for 3yrs because I'm too choosy. I want to find a guy , who can prove me that all guys are not the same. Something like that. But It still hard to find someone like that..But I'm sure God have plans for my lovelife.. And surely for you also ;)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Its my nick name .My friends used to called me " bashabasha" and sounds so unique to me that's why I used this name as my second name here :D .. yes 3yrs because I'm still inlove with my first love. For me, its really hard to fall inlove again and enter in a new relationship when I know that my heart is still belong to him.. BTW: yOur right !I rather to remain single for now till I found a good one :D
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Ohh, I see. I thought you liked a certain... movie character, haha. :D Awww. I think we. Are having the same problem. When you have felt genuine love, and lost it. It's one hard thing to find. Well, whenever we do find our "good ones", it's our second chance to make things right and last longer, and love stronger. :)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Oh I hope so too bashabasha. Btw is that your real name? Haha, nevermind. Anyway. Wow, 3 years being single? And I thought I took longer. Mmmm, your type of guy, is kinda like.. every girl's wish, haha. Though, I think you're the same as me. I hope I'd find a girl who's so different from the majority. I feel you, it is hard. Yeah, God sure does. Rather wait for the right one than hurrying to find the wrong one. ;)
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
12 Dec 11
I do not think your standards are too high. Also think of how youn will be a good boyfriend (though I'm sure you have). Good luck! I hope you find true love!
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Oh, good to hear that you don't think it is, haha. Oh, I sure will be if the right one comes along. Thank you!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Aside from being choosy it's love that matters most. Without love, how will you ever want to enter a new relationship. Just wait for the right person whom you will feel the love you are waiting for.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
12 Dec 11
When you quit looking for that someone special, that will be when you will actually stumble across the person of your dreams. When we "look" for something specific, we seem to set our standards to high. When we no "longer" look for the someone with all the characteristics that we want in a mate, we are opening ourselves up to people with many admirable qualities. It's when you least expect it, is when it happens.
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Come to think of it.. I wasn't looking for a specific girl before I met my last girlfriend. I just met her, and fell for her. So... it's like. You gotta be blind, AND Then you'll see huh? :)
@richric (16)
• Estonia
11 Dec 11
I think you should loosen up a little but not lose all the standards, I did that and lets say that the girl I got wasn't exactly what I wanted so surely keep your standards but remember to make exceptions as there is no perfect girl! Thats my opinion and doesn't mean it's true:D
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Haha, yes I've heard that kind of story before from a friend of mine. Saying that he wanted someone the opposite of his current girlfriend, but it worked out. Though, I understand that there is no perfect girl. But I was hoping maybe atleast a perfect fit for me. Hmm. Is it still too high?
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
12 Dec 11
difficult question nobody can really say what only those who know. I think when anyone tries to opencast his soul mate your mate must have some criteria though when you meet a man for you I forget everything and everyone seems to think everything just evaporates from your head than your thoughts. just wait and see that person will find for you the man who will love and you will love him. success. nice day.
• India
11 Dec 11
I think you are ok but you just need to losen up a bit...and you will find a perfect match for yourself,as someone just said nobody is perfect,you just have to to do with the available resources.