Getting over lost love
December 12, 2011 12:36pm CST
After A break up, it is usually very difficult to move. can you suggest some tips to help someone who have just broken up?
12 Dec 11
Make a list of all the things you did not like in that relationship. Write down all the positive things you can do now you are single (and don't need to ask for permission) Ask yourself what once were your goals in life. Did you make it that far or forget about them? Do you stil have your own friends? If not contact them and be active, go out. Make plans for the nearest future (going out, holiday, etc). Do 3 nice things for yourself each day and write them down! Decide to be happy from now on and do everthing what is in your power to make that work! Look at the situation/what happend as if it's a soap, this will make it easier to accept plus you know how the story will go on.. See this as an life experience. Without this you will not be able to recognize what real love, attention,happiness is.
13 Dec 11
I would say, that you should first step back and assess first. always be on a defensive mode - i mean this helped me cope, actually and maybe it would help others too. this way you won't be too weak to always want to get back with the person when you feel a bit lonely about a situation or about something in you. Next you should always see the good or the better side of you, that your relationship did not work because it is not meant to be.. and that all people go through such a stage in life and that people would talk, but would stop nonetheless. Always put yourself in the priority, there are always another love to come - especially if you have made yourself better. you will realize that you have so much love to give and you will never run out of it, always pray when you feel lonely. almost instantly you will feel surrounded by a greater and unexplainable relief and love.
14 Dec 11
There is no such thing that you can move on that very fast. For those saying that they have moved on after a very fresh broken up, their lying. They are just covering up their true feelings. Actually there are so much you can do to mend someone's broken heart. As a friend, just be always there for him or her. You go to the mall and hang-out. Or else, you go travel.