Having kids - when?

i have 1 kid, i was 26 when i have her..it wasn't a planned one for me and my partner..i think the best things to have kids is when we are mature, serious, and ready enough to handle and accept the responsibilities of being a parent and also having a stable job and financially stable..so we can really say we are ready to provide for the kids in terms of food, education, clothing, and being a parent and having kids is really not a joke..it is a big and serious responsibility..you have to be able to raised a good child..maybe around late 20s or early 30s is the right age..

I am 30 years old and my wife was expecting her first child, and this has been my plan since 2 years ago. some people say I'm too old to get a first child, but I do not care what other people say. the most important thing now is I am very happy expecting my first child at the age I am today.

No no no, No way just after college. No one wants to offer you a job, you don't have a house, you don't have a steady job and have kids ? That would ruin life forever. No I believe a couple should spend enough time together, before and AFTER marriage, appreciate life as a married couple and only after IF and only IF they really want too (both of them) proceed to having a child, provided at least one of them has a steady job and they can afford it (financially speaking). With all do respect to our elders, parenting should be the responsibility of the parents not of grandparents. Grandparents should be there to help, not take over the job, they had their share of it.

Don't even think about it unless you have a full-time job, and a good woman to have it with. If you have those 2, that's it ! Because alot of guys i know, didn't had a stable job when they got their children, it kicks you in the nuts in the long run.

I am 23 years old when I have my first baby and 27 on the second. A co-worker here told me that it would be the best for women to have babies before they reach 30 years old because they are stronger and healthier. For this reason, you would produce a healthier and more intelligent children. Not for the reason of bragging but only for this discussion, I would like to mention that both my daughters are honor students and very talented in terms of drawing, singing, dancing and even playing the musical intruments. At present that I am almost 38 years old already, I don't have plans of having another child though we don't have a boy yet. We are very much contented with our 2 beautiful daughters.

Im still young (17) but i know a lot about it. There are different thoughts about that topic. There are thoughts that its best to get married after you found a good place to live, and a job so you can have for proper living, and then after you settle you can think about that, a lot of people about 25- 30 year of life. But most of people wait to see hows their marriage going, because most of people divorce after 1-3 years of life together. Thats why some people dont marry to early 30's. they live through life alone, travel where they want, have fun and then they marry, becouse most of them say that you cant go through in marriage like you can alone. So what i think... first kid about 30year...

I think it is best to do a bit of living and enjoying fun times before having a baby. For example studying, getting a good career and doing some overseas traveling are important things to do. It is best to be in a loving and lasting relationship. The best age to have a first baby would be age twenty five and thirty years old. Then there would be the ideal time to have a second baby between ages thirty and thirty five years old. If the lady is having a very great career like one of my friends she might leave things a bit late. That friend got married at age thirty eight, had a baby girl at age thirty nine and a baby son at age forty. She was so lucky to get two pregnancies quickly and easily. Many ladies in their late thirties take a long time to get pregnant. I got married to an Australian man I met on my trip around the world. I had my first son at age twenty two years old. My marriage only lasted six years. I had another relationship. I had my disabled son at age thirty four years old. I went on to have my daughter at thirty six years old. I would suggest the idea age gap between siblings is two to three years. Twelve years is too large an age gap between siblings. I grew up with a five year age gap between me and my sister.

Hello menzis00, its really really nice to meet you. Interesting question. I think it is better to have kids when you are married and settled and your income or your husband's income alone is sufficient enough to raise a baby. Now in different cultures this age might be different. Girls in our neighbourhood and society have a baby at 24. Its an avarage. Boys on the other hand have kids when they are 28+. I have seen this trend and I believe it is a ggod one. I had my first kid when I was 24 and my hubby was 28. My doctor sister recommends that all women should complete their families before 35. Happy Mylotting.

Sorry this was so late but any ways. I do have a daughter that is 13 months old. I had her when I was 22 and I'm 23 now with my second baby on the way. I don't really think there is a right age to have a baby. Its what ever each women or men feels is the right time. Some times the time picks you and not you picking it. I know I didn't pick when I got pregnant with either of my pregnancy. Both just happened out of luck. There was indeed protection involved but some times someone much higher above has different plans in the works. We where going to plan our second baby in like another year to 4 years when our oldest daughter is 5. Instead my husband and my daughter will be almost 2 when her little baby bother or sister comes into this world in September. Me and my husband we left school way before we had our daughter. It just wasn't right for us. We tried college it didn't seem to fit us both so instead of wasting money of our parents and the money we saved to go to school we just left and started our lives together. Got married and a 2 months later found out we where expecting. So for us it was the right time even though we didn't choice it. My husband had job not the best job in the world. We went to the health department got government help even when certain family members didn't agree with it. It was hard on both of us one working and one night. Some times that meant my husband wouldn't eat so I would while I was pregnant. In the end we are happy to have our daughter and happy to have a second baby. My husband got a better job months before we found out baby number 2 was on the way. We just live by life what happens happens the good and the bad. Over time with hard work things work out. Your not ready to be a parent that is okay. Finishing school being with the right person having a nice job those are all good goals to have before having kids. Nothing wrong with that.