I'm considering asking my girlfriend to move in with me

United States
December 19, 2011 5:22am CST
We've only been dating 8 months and I'm certain that I love her. I don't want to ask her to early and scare her away. I've joked about it with her and she laughed:) I would like to go to bed and wake up next to her every day. Is there a minimum time frame to wait before I present it to her more seriously?
5 responses
@beki710 (949)
19 Dec 11
I don't think there is a certain time period you have to wait before asking someone. If it feels right then go for it. My boyfriend asked me to move in with him after we had been dating 8 months but because we are looking for a bigger place we have now been together a year and 3 months and finally we are moving in together! So maybe you can ask and set a date in the future to move so she can have time think about it. If you don't ask it may never happen so I suggest you do it!
• United States
19 Dec 11
Thank you very much, that is great advice! It is always nice to hear from a women's perspective. I'll feel it out and see how she responds. If all goes well then we can set up a timeframe. You only live once, right?
@beki710 (949)
19 Dec 11
I think you need to just have a discussion about where she sees the relationship going as well. You obviously want to move it forward but she might not be ready at this point. If you have a discussion about it rather than just asking her straight out it gives her an opening to voice her opinion rather than just giving you a straight yes or no. If you prepare yourself that she might say no then you can move forward from it. She might not be ready now but that doesn't mean she won't be in a couple of months. When my boyfriend first told me he loved me we had only been with each other for 2 months and I wasn't ready to say it back, it was important to me that he understood that and that we could move on and carry on the relationship until I did feel that I could say it. If you relationship is strong I'm sure it will work out :-)
• Bangladesh
20 Dec 11
Dont worry,just go ahead.If you love each other seriously,then it would not be a problem at all.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
19 Dec 11
No, I don't think there is a minimum time frame. If you believe that you would like to go to the next step then I say go for it. Just ask her right out and let her know how you feel. 9 times out of 10 she may feel the same way. Just pour your heart out on how you feel and hopefully she understands. If she says no, then be understanding about it, don't make a big deal about it.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
If you think that you both are okay to settle down, then why not ask her or talk to her about that matter. You sure really love her because you are serious to be with her. Now, just hope that she will say yes. It is hard to get rejected.
@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
don't hurry her to live with you..though 8months is long..but it's not enough..for me, it's better to decide to live together when both parties are ready and are sure of what they feel..living together isn't a game..of course, both of you must be ready of what's gonna happened next or the possible things that might happen..