Relationship Intimidation?

United States
December 21, 2011 12:33am CST
how could someone love you but be intimidated by you???? no let me ref-raze dat how can your girlfriend be intimidated by you ???? is this a good thing ? does it mean im doing something wrong ???? i mean help me to understand this
4 responses
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Intimated by what reason? It could be because of financial standing or probably girls flock around you that she grew intimidated or maybe you don't give her enough attention or because you get a high paying job, etc. There are different reasons why your girlfriend can get intimidated by you. I don't think being intimidated by your partner is a good thing. It's unhealthy! Some of my friends are in this situation and I notice that it's because their partners are not giving them enough sense of security and stability. It could also be that they are being compared to another person. Personally, I think you need to talk with your girlfriend to settle this issue. It might start small but the longer she feels this way, the harder it would be for the both of you. Make her feel more loved and more secure. Talk to her and try to fix this thing. Both of you will have a hard time growing as a couple if this "intimidation" issue will not be answered.
@Woody7189 (247)
• United States
22 Dec 11
I wouldn't want my girlfriend to feel intimidated by me. I am not sure why she feels intimidated by you, but perhaps she feels pressure to live up to your expectations. My advice to you would be to try and be more understanding when she makes a mistake. Let her know that you love her regardless and that you don't expect perfection. I hope this helps.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
Well, it means your partner loves you, but she is afraid of not following any thing that you would want her to be or do, lest you will break up with her/him. It's an emotional blackmail after all. It's not a healthy thing, because you are restricting your partner to grow and be freely happy in the relationship.
• India
21 Dec 11
If your girlfriend has said this to you, then you should talk to her about this. Firstly you need to understand that if any of the partner feels intimidated, it is not good for a relationship. There should be no place for any such thing in a love relationship. Ask your girlfriend why she feels intimidated, what is it about you that makes her feel frightened. If you love her truly I am sure you will change yourself to make her feel that she need not to be afraid of you. Take care, and tell your girlfriend how much you love and care about her.