Still Very Close toh My Married Best Friend

Philippines
December 23, 2011 7:07pm CST
I am female and my online best friend happens to be male. As he works overseas, he gets to communicate with his wife daily but for 20 minutes only. I, however, get to chat with him for an hour or so but 3x a week. My question is, can one retain a very close relationship with a married guy? I consider him to be my soulmate, is it wrong to still communicate with him when we are very very good friends?
5 responses
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
Hi, there. I have the same opinion as those two above persons. It is not wrong, being friends with anybody is really good things to do. But it is better for you to limit your time in talking with him cos it would bridge unwanted feeling between both of you in the next time. You are a women so you will know what is his wife feel when she know that his husband communicate with others woman so intend. It will hurt her heart, it will be better communication if three of you talk together, having laugh together, and it will reduce the bad effect could happen in the next time.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
i agree.. It might the time will come that she and the wife of her friend have misunderstanding thats why they need to know their limitation as a friend. Even the wife know that they are just friend it may have the tendency that the wife get jealous on her.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
It doesn't matter if you communicate with him as long as you knew in the very first place that he is already married. Things will get complicated if you both had already exceed more than being friends. You should be aware of the consequences.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
I think there is nothing wrong to be friend in a married guy as long that both of you know the limitation. When his already your friend before he get married whats something wrong about it..
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
As long as both of you don't put any malice on it and his wife know that you two are very good friends I don't see anything wrong in that. In fact you could be friends with his wife too.
@Nebel23 (46)
• Chile
24 Dec 11
There is nothing wrong to be friends, if you two enjoy spending time together you shouldnt stop to talk to each other. The problem begins when somebody starts to feel things that can end his marriage.