Do you feel like you and your companion are loosing touch with each other?

Yes it does. Have a very happy relationship, just don't use the communication or the contact. Thanks for the response.

dang I know I typed the word "lose" and it came out "use" sorry about that!

You need comunnication and comtact in a relationship as well they are also a keep part of any good relationship. With out talking you will never know what is going on in that person head or if there feelings hurt because you did something they didn't want you to do. There are many things that two people need between each other to keep a relationship going. Talking is one as well as seeing each other, trust and honesty there is more that I'm not thinking of right. But any relationship therapist will say talking is the number one key to a strong healthy relationship.

Congratulations, hold on to the communication and remember do not let it go! That was exactly I feel why ours evaporated. He always had a hard time communicating and many times I had to pull conversation out of him. Wasn't just me he did that with, his bosses even told him he needed to communicate more. Don't get so busy you forget to say "I love you."

forgetting,saying i love you. its a big mistake we can commit in a relationships, the whole relation is based on these three magic sentence and one who forget them then he must stop thiking about relationships and all.

We had been married in June of 1967, but the divorce was final in May 2002. His name comes up on occasion but it does not bother me at all anymore. Obviously, he couldn't stay true to what he said he believed. Thankfully, I have been able to move forward into a more fulfilling relationship with someone who loves me as much as I love them. Unfortunately, I was able to see where my ex acting like a single man in a married relationship way before the actual divorce. Thanks sister for loving responses to my posts. Will try to be as loving in return to yours. ((hugs))

oh my, I hope your relationship gets better. It does sound like it is in trouble and you are the only one working on the relationship. It isn't about one member understanding the other more, it is about both working together to have a happy relationship. I know when I felt ignored and alone, my ex wasn't doing a thing to help me feel loved or better. It was always about what he wanted and what he wanted to do, and his expectations and never about mine or what I wanted. We went to a marriage counselor at one point and I found out quickly he wanted me there so I would behave the way he wanted and not about what we could do to together to make the relationship better. The psychologist even told him that, but we'd leave and he would act like he never heard that part of the counseling session. Good luck, I hope your relationship improves quickly.

Unfortunately, he was the one sleeping with someone and claiming he wasn't. I offered to go on the road, but he didn't want his money spent on me traveling. So, he replaced me and paid for her instead. Today it doesn't bother me, but the funny part, he dropped all his friends too because he didn't want anyone telling him he was doing the wrong thing. His friends still ask me about him, and I tell them to call him, I have no contact with him. If what you're doing works for you and your husband, then go for it. It didn't work for our relationship!

That works if they are around for those things to happen, but when they aren't for long periods of time, it seems to come apart anyway on matter what you do when they are around. With as many years as I was married, it is always hard to retain the passion in a relationship especially when only one tries to have it. Both people have to work at a relationship, not just one. As the psychologist told my ex, before World War II, women were different than they are today and they did not have to help earn the money to support a family in most cases. Today it isn't that way and women will not be subservient to men anymore, but will be treated equally. Pretty much holds true with my experience.

IF you have good communication and don't ignore each other for weeks at a time, you probably will never have the problem. Love each other and continue to show the other one that you do. Just don't make assumptions, it is dangerous ground. Glad to hear things are well for you. My current hubby and I have a totally different relationship from my last one, but then he isn't traveling for work and we are together all the time.

lol....... it was not me who left, it was him with his girl friend. He asked for the divorce, but lied about the reasons. He was the non-talker. You cannot make anyone do anything, unless they want to do it. Obviously, he didn't. I'm handicapped and according to him, I was to handicapped for him, and his new girl friend he said wasn't. Funny, she has been sick since shortly after he told me that I was too handicapped. The door is closed now, and we've both moved on. He was the non-communicator. Just says to me how important communication from both people in a relationship is. I'm happily re-married and supposedly so is he. He married within 2 months after the ink dried on the divorce decree. So there wasn't any way for the relationship to work. I just remarried this last year. Pretty amazing when you consider we had been married 34 years, and he doesn't even talk to his children. Don't have a clue what that is about, but I sure can't do anything about it.

I think God had a hand in the divorce, because we are both remarried and I'm happy. My ex became unemployed after he was 50 years of age. The only job he could find that paid anything comparable to before required he travel out of state for long periods of time. When he was home, usually only a weekend, it was all about what he wanted to do while he was home, and not about the family. I think traveling on the time and not being around, he lost touch completely with being a married man and started acting like he was single. There really wasn't anything I could do about it. For several years, when he first started traveling, his company allowed spouses to go along and we did that and had a lot of fun. But his company's insurance became concerned about those types of arrangements and the company forbid it if you wanted to work for them. When you are over 50 years of age, and it is hard to find a job, if not impossible, you do what has to be done to keep your job. We stayed married for 34 years, and he found a lady much younger than I am who seemed to find a way to be with him on the road, even though we didn't find one. I've always wondered if he wasn't going through the change of life and flattered by the interest of another younger woman. I would guess the other woman had money of her own that she spent to travel around with him, and we couldn't do it strictly on ours so me doing it wasn't an option. It is long over now, and we are both remarried. I'm much happier with my current hubby who is home with me, and frankly, since my ex is 3 years older than I am, over 70 years of age, and still working to support his new wife, I'm happy he isn't my husband.