How do you go about handling disagreements in your relationship?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
December 29, 2011 2:50am CST
We all have our bad days. And we may view or look at things differently. When you and your partner or spouse disagree how do you handle it? How does your partner handle things? I think that if each person remains calm and talk things out in a loving way things will go over well even if we still disagree with one another.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Dec 11
My boyfriend and i sit down and talk things out calmly and share our sides. We decide the best solution on how to.accomp"sh a compomise so we both are happy. In the year and a half weve been together weve never yelled at each other but just talk about how we feel.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
30 Dec 11
I'm glad that you both are able to sit down and discuss things calmly. That does make a big difference. When we disagree if we are not careful our feelings can override our thoughts and the way we express them. It is good that you have a good habit of doing this. It will help your relationship out as you are together longer as well.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I am really glad that you guys do this Jeze. I think that makes a big difference in the relationship to be able to talk to each other calmly without yelling.
@Missy091011 (115)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Well, it depends what the diagreements are. First of all, if the disagreements are very important issues, it is better if both of you agree to have a time to think, then come back with the best solution. If your partner is not willing to accept yours and you don't want to accept his idea, it is better both of you to look a third obtion that will solve the issue...It always works for me and my husband. If the issue is not that important, then it is better to sacrifice for the sake of the beautiful life that you both enjoying at the moment and moving on with the next important thing. I honestly believe that there is always a solution, no matter what.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
30 Dec 11
Yeah you bring out good points. It is very much needed for both partners to have time to think about the things that are going on and what they think should be done about it. Once a person has their own thoughts together then they are better able to express them. For small things I too think that at times it is just better to let things go and move on. Being able to forgive minor faults is important to having happiness in the relationship.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Jan 12
The best way I know is talk by heart.
Talked about the matter openly and try to keep calm.
Listen to each other and not to listen to yourself alone.
Sometimes- we stops listening because we have the conclusions that our opinion is right and our partner is always wrong.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I completely agree we need to let out what is on our hearts not so much what is on our minds. There are two people in a relationship and both opinions are important and should be valued by the other. My boyfriend and I do take the time to listen to each other's opinions, but I have to admit sometime we do yell at each other.
