10day old lost due to co-sleeping

We had a similar incident here a few days ago where the mother rolled over on her child as they were sleeping. When I first became a mother I wanted my child in my bed, thinking it would protect him. My mom told me I could kill him that way and convinced me to keep him in a crib. We all think we can protect our little ones if we are just close enough, waking or sleeping, and that little girl probably though the baby would be safe. Any mother who would leave her infant with a girl that young probably has a family that is ignorant enough that they let infants sleep in the bed with adults. I'm sorry for this family but there is no fault here, in my opinion. It is just ignorance and carelessness brought about by the widespread disappearance of the maternal instinct.

I believe when you decide to have children, every small responsibility of theirs should be handled by the parents. When you go through so much pain of giving birth to them, then why not enough time to take care of them. I know some women have responsibilities of working - that is understandable. But atleast when you have a newborn that could be on hold. Nothing is more precious that your own child. Some people are dying to have children but God is not bestowing them with that gift. Some have it yet do not understand the value of it.

I would consider leaving a 10 day old infant in the care of a 13 year old for maybe half an hour to an hour ONLY if I was satisfied that the older child was responsible and understood the responsibility. At 13 (or even a little younger) some kids are well able to know what to do in an emergency; others (even what we might call 'adults' might panic or not care at all). I think that a great deal depends on the whole situation and how necessary it was to leave a younger person in charge. Unfortunately, cot deaths happen even with the most careful people. It is very sad when it happens and the parents inevitably wonder who was to blame (and usually blame themselves). Your link didn't work. I think that this is the story you meant: http://northwest.fox6now.com/news/news/100222-grandmother-infant-killed-co-sleeping-incident-speaks-out In the absence of other evidence, it seems that the 13 year old aunt did everything that she was supposed to do but she was NOT the mother and so didn't notice that the baby had stopped breathing (as a mother might have been a little more likely to do in the same situation). I don't think that 'co-sleeping' was really the problem. It's improbable that the baby was suffocated. I think that she probably choked on a reflux of the feed and may have even done so so quietly that NOBODY, not even a watchful parent, would have noticed until it was too late.

I had a rampant paranoia about having the baby in bed sleeping with me. There were many times when it would have been easier to just leave the baby there, but, there are too many incidences of babies getting accidentally smothered.

So very sad. I used to bring my kids to bed with me when they couldn't sleep....back then we didn't think of anything different! We just did it...I certainly feel for the family with the loss...and they probably will be judged and that is too bad!

hi 3snugglebunnies my heart goes o ut to them but such stupdity and carelessness among the adu lts. a little baby is less important than getting some Christmas present, give me a break. If there was an adult present where was he or she that the baby was not watched at all. why do people keep piling themselves in on tiny infants and not 'expect them to suffocate or die from being laid on,it should be obvious that is wrong to do., always put a baby in a crib or bassinet, do not ever sleep with a tiny baby. thats stupid and cruel. people just do not use the brains God gave them. terrible so tragic.