Create your own self esteem.
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
December 30, 2011 6:42pm CST
A lack of confidence often leads us to disregard our aspirations and conform to the whims of others. We sometimes feel compelled to seek approval from authority figures or loved ones by adhering to their wishes rather than concentrating on our needs. Such efforts often lead to dissatisfaction if what others want from us or for us, is not in alignment with what we want for ourselves. We will feel happier and more fulfilled when we believe in and validate ourselves.
Believing in yourself can free you from a need for outside approval. When you are the source of your esteem, you don't have to spend time worrying about what other people will think. You won't be tempted to mold yourself into someone that you're not. You are free to live your life your way. It's amazing how quickly others begin to reflect our sentiments once we approve of ourselves. We become free once we realize that other people's opinions have no bearing on what we do, rather,they are the mirror that shows us how we see ourselves. If we cultivate self-worth today, we can craft our life without worrying about pleasing others. Do you agree?
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12 responses
@jaihobalodiji1 (949)
• India
31 Dec 11
yes , i agree with you completely creating self esteem will help you in building up persona and this persona will help you to go on the heights of the life. cheers
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@bc08018 (4)
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15 Feb 12
self esteem is a term that explains how a person worth himself or herself. it effects our behavior attitudes, thinking. it can affect a person outlook positive or negative. self esteem helps to succeed in life. a person potential to achieve what he or she desire is directly related to self esteem of the person.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
31 Dec 11
The urgent need for friends in our society stems from this same lack of self confidence. Many people lack the self confidence to place control their lives in their own hands and run with it. Friends are an easy way out, in that we can dodge life's responsibilities by following another's (sometimes not so good) advise.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
31 Dec 11
Very few babies come into this world with a strong sense of self. The rest of us must learn. How and when we learn seems to be somewhat under the control of others. If you are lucky enough to come from strong supporting influences you are ahead of the game. If however you have never been supported and all you ever get is the feed back of others in a negative way it can be a long time coming or never. The best thing we can do is lend a helping hand to all we come in contact with. Just a small comment or thanks for a small job done under any circumstance
will help someone else, and by doing that you will get feed back that your contribution counts. This way the chain works and your own self imiage grows.
Blessings and Happy New Year.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
31 Dec 11
Hi Pose: Of course I agree. I remember that when I was a teen, I had this problem as probably many teens have, which is to look for other persons approval before making a decision which lead me to some self esteem problems. Of course, looking for a figure that inspires you could help us in our way but we need to have a dialogue with ourselves to know better what we want and in that way we also will feel better with ourselves without feeling more than what we really are nor less.
ALVARO
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
31 Dec 11
I absolutely agree with you on this view. We can't let people influence control our thoughts and our behavior. We must learn how to think wisely and sanely. We must learn to make our own decision to determine our better future. That is what we grow up learn to do. Once again, don't lose faith on yourself, and always have it within your heart.
@vanessa (90)
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31 Dec 11
Yes, I absolutely agree in what you said. Coupled with your other good qualites, confidence will help you flourish and become the best that you can be. Once you begin to believe in yourself, others will begin to believe in you. Once you place a high value on yourself, others will value you as well.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
31 Dec 11
Sometimes it is difficult for people to get over the hurdle of recognizing their own selfworth. And that's what prevents them from achieving their goals, even the small ones.
But I truly believe that if someone takes the time to show them a little care, and showed them their own importance, then they can develop their own confidence.
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
31 Dec 11
You have done a masterful discussion, I will make my compliments!
I moreover are perfectly agree with your opinion, have confidence in ourselves, it's almost essential in life. We must not fear over after the judging of others.
I declare that unfortunately still lacking a little of trust in myself and I'm still looking for the right way to find it fully.
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@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
31 Dec 11
hello,
Yeah, that is true, I agree. You really made me feel confident and believe in myself that I did not used to do because I feel that every decision I make is wrong. Which what you just said that believing yourself is one tool in succession. I will try to start in believing my self now Thumbs up for that.
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@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
31 Dec 11
Yes I do agree, but for many people this is easier said then done. For years some of us have had people put us down & insult us until we started believing these things to be true. Now we feel insecure when compared to family or friends. Even people we work with. Our feelings are not like a switch that we can turn on & off at will. When a person has had years of verbal abuse they feel that it is well deserved & that they can never be as good as or as smart as others, whether they are members of our family, friends, or co-workers.
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