Easier said than Done
By dheckerz
@dheckerz (473)
Philippines
January 3, 2012 2:06am CST
I've been hearing these lines since young. My cousin just broke up with his girlfriend and right now, he is still in the stage of sorrow. He's been calling to me to ask for advise and just for someone to listen to what he feels. He told me that my advise are well taken but he still kept on doing what he's not supposed to. I guess it is true that in many cases. Have you had the same experience in life wherein, if someone asks for advice, you can easily give a sound answer but when you get confronted with the situation, you do exactly the opposite thing.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Giving advise indeed is easy. But when we are in the same situation and given an advise about it, we would really have a hard time following it because of the feeling that we are trying to erase, which cannot be easily removed.
@fratbroman10 (4)
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3 Jan 12
In life it is so much simpler lived from a third persons perspective. Had I done this, or if I hadn't of done that. Life is tough and relationships can take time to fully get over and heal. I'm not sure what advice you are giving him; but just being the person to listen to is important enough. Advise him to stay busy, to find other hobbies to fill the emptiness and to surround himself with good "quality" friends.
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
Thanks a lot. That is true, just by listening to a person with problem is a lot of help. But there are cases that you need to give some advise thinking if you would be in his shoe. But when faced with similar situation, you'd recall your advices and would realize that it is really hard to apply.
@yanzalong (18983)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
When we are in a state of control, things are easier to do. This includes giving others some advice. We can think clearly because we are in control. Someone who is distressed is emotion-overwhelmed. If you asked these people some advice, you would get nothing because he or she can not think clearly. Is that right?
@luckygrey67 (765)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
Some of my friends call me the advisory...to solve their problem or just listen to. I always listening and always understanding about their situation.
Yeah, if I get confronted those situation, I will keep it by myself and wait to heal it self.
I'm just pretending to have not any problem and I never tell them. Always easy to give advice and hard to done.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
I can totally understand where your cousin's coming from. Right after my break-up, of course I asked advises from my friends and honestly, things like "it's ok" or "everything will be alright" really irks me. I mean, I wanna shout at them "it's not ok!" but then, I refrained from doing it since I know they meant well :P Their advises are really basic and I already know them without even asking them. In the end, it's only me who can help myself. But I really do appreciate their concerns and company
Anyway, yeah that's true. Life seems to be easy and more stress-free if you're looking at a third-person point of view since you're not the one who's experiencing the problems and emotions first hand.
As for your question... No. I really don't give advises which I don't follow (as far as I can remember). If a person asks me for an advise which I totally don't have any ideas on, I'll simple say "I haven't been there but I think that..." then I give my own two cents about the matter. I only give advises if I mean them and if I've been through the same situation, otherwise, it's just sharing my opinion.
As I always say, advises are free to give but it's up to you if you'll actually follow them
@tabatha7 (187)
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3 Jan 12
Yes... people usually tell me that I give good advice, but sometimes I tell people what they don't want to hear. I am sometimes a little toooo honest, and the truth hurts sometimes. So as much as they want to be happy, they may not want to deal with the pain that the truth can cause. So they do what they want, and then they are sometimes sorry that they did.
Although, when I'm in the opposite scenario, and I'm the one asking for advice, I don't always take the advice either. What can I say? :)
