Do you agree if Girl don't need flower anymore?

Indonesia
January 3, 2012 3:33am CST
This is old proverb : "Say love with flower" but now, as everyone know and realize, modern girl could not afford by only flower.many of girl ( I don't say all ) will easily date with the man that she doesn't like as long as the guy can afford herd with worthy dating containing dinner, have fun and fantastic shopping.Well, must be underlined, this is modern girl, not all girl, but can't deny this number is very big and bigger.I also don't want to deny, I'm not materialistic but I'm happy if my man can buy me something like a doll or else and ask me to go every beautiful place.I'm also rarely dating with man since I'm not easily in love now, what's your opinion?
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
it's really sweet for a man to think about giving flowers. But I still would rather have chocolates or being taken somewhere to eat or have an adventure. We never needed flowers from the beginning.
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• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
same with you, chocolate is my favourite thing from a guy. not matter of thing, but I just love chocolate and the man who try to give something simple but make girl happy.don't you thing girl who choose chocolate or dinner than flower is materialistic?well, I don't think so
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• Indonesia
7 Jan 12
do your man typically romantic guy?? it's sound so nice that he sends you roses and chocolate in particular regular time.hhe's really sweet! he really treat you like a princess.... and of course I agree those little thing should not be titled as materialistic, that's what man did to make you happy and show his love
• United States
5 Jan 12
I eat chocolate pretty slowly, so I prefer flowers. However, the best is when you get both flowers and chocolate! My current boyfriend got me roses one week and then a basket of chocolate two weeks later - I love how it makes me feel like a princess :P I don't think any of these small things make you materialistic. I think it shows that your man cares about you and wants to do small things to brighten your day. I think it would be materialistic if you wanted him to buy you expensive gifts so you could show them off to your friends.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
i always believe this proverb had ambigous.. in one side, the meaning flower is real flower.. but in one side, the meaning flower can be defined as something that similar function with the flower.. for the second opinion, the term "something" can be defined as something that can make happy the girl..and the something for every girl of course is different..and it`s okay
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
i dont bring their flower because they can eat flower.. of course money, money and money if i had married.. flower is only "basa basi" and sign that i love her.. but she more need money, my attention and not flower chocolate??hm, before i give her, i eat the first the chocolate
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
you must love those chocolate than those girl
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
adhyz, hmmmm... smart answer. as man, do you prefer to give your lover flower or may be something sound modern to give such as chocolate and ice cream?? for you, what does the meaning of flower for girl?
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
5 Jan 12
I think the people that say;'say it with flowers' is the people who are selling flowers. Personally i dont like getting flowers. The are like a waste of money. All they do is die ina couple of days. A plant would be more appropate. They would live longer. I would rather recieve something that last a long time. Anyway thats just my opinion.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
6 Jan 12
If i absolutly HAD to choose a flower it would be lilac because i love the smell and color of the purple ones. If i had to choose between flowers and a doll i would choose a doll. Hopefully a troll doll to add to my collection.
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
I'm with you as you said that a plant would more appropiate.but anyway, both may have the same meaning, which is show that the man give some notice and attention for you. if a man ask you to choose which one between flower and may be like a doll, which one you choose and why?? what is your favourite stuff to replace flower anyway?
• Indonesia
7 Jan 12
troll doll would be so much worthy, and the most important thing is his sincereky heart
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I don't like flowers because it's sad that they are picked just so they can die in my house. I would rather get a live plant. As far as a dinner and shopping. That's not really my style either. I don't really like eating in restaurants. I would rather be cooked for or get to cook together. And I can shop for myself. I don't want food or things. I would rather have fun. I would like a date going hiking, playing laser tag, going to a concert, etc. My value is on experience. If I can't have fun with a guy, then I don't want to spend my time with him. I get bored rather easily. I mean, I like staying home too, but I like to switch it up. If someone is not creative with their dates, then I will quickly lose interest.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
5 Jan 12
I'm not entirely girly, but I wouldn't really say I'm all that boyish either. Yeah, I have known a few guys that would cook and go shopping with me, but not all. Yes, I would accept a gift of chocolate and flowers, but I wouldn't really be impressed. It all just seems so generic. I would rather have a more personalized gift, something picked out special just for me. It shows that he is listening and trying to get to know me and that he is interested. Everyone knows that I love Mountain Dew, so I have often been given that by admirers, not often for holidays or birthdays, but just randomly. They know that this specific item will make me happy and that is their goal, which is what makes it so flattering. It's the thought, not the gift, that counts. Giving a generic gift doesn't take thought and I am not materialistic, so I just don't really care for it.
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
hi, sketch, you are sounds so unique and creative to arrange your date.something that not all of the girl able to do it. most of girl like who love hiking and daring adventure may boyish, so are you boyish?? based on experience, do your boy happy to shopping and cook together?? if he already buy a bucket of chocolate and flower, would you accept it?
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
I got the point. sounds nice for me to know that you are one of who more care about the sincerely than faboulus thing. it's rather hard to find right now...
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
My response was, probably like crap, but I feel, and experience all of this. If I was still unmarried, and establishing relationships with men. I do not want him to give anything. What I want to ask of a man, is proof that he really loved me, and will not change after getting married later. Roses, or any other things, just something to be discarded. Man's love after marriage, it could change at any time.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
It is difficult, for shows feelings of love. But the feeling of love, can not be demonstrated with the goods. But, the feeling of love must be demonstrated by action. What kind of action, which can be done, I'm not sure. Because things like that, can not be planned. Action will present itself.
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
may be you are righ that those stuff are something can be discarded, but for me sometime that what man do to show their love.complicated to explain since this is about feeling but I agree a lot that feeling is the most important, may be will seen by the way he treat us different.. may be you can give me example how man proof his pure love with sweeten stuff such as flower, bucket of chocolate and others?
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
wow..love is love..goods is goods...sometimes we can show our love with goods.. but during the time, human can change..goods can`t be represented that we love someone maybe
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
When i was still single, i like receiving flowers, specially when my office mates can see them being delivered to me. Their eyes are filled with envy! When my husband and i are in our earlier years as married couples, he would usually give me flowers for Valentine's Day in addition to us going out for dinner. . But as the years passed by, i told me not to send me flowers anymore so he can save it for a more fabulous dinner for us. My boss also used to give me a bouquet of roses on my birthday, but lately i told her not to anymore. Instead , i just want her to treat us (4 other staff) to a dinner. And that's what she did on my last birthday. I guess, as we grow older , we become practical.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Yeah, bragging aside, when i was single i have received lots of bouquets of flowers . And that only shows i have lots of suitors then. Last year, my boss gave me a bouquet of roses, a box of cake and packs of pancit , sliced breads and 4 liters of soft drinks. I have to bring home the cake and some packs of pancit. But the flowers, i leave it there in our office. SO, last December i requested that treat with her other staff instead of the flowers and foods.
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
it means that you are her lovely staff! what a lovely. you are very lucky having that kind of boss. it's a niec life you have!
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
hmmm... nice experience, symplyd! you've got both, flowers and another stuff you need for you and your friends ( when you ask your boss to treat you ). may be you had receive many flowers in your life and it sounds pretty cool, especially when you said your friend envy you! you had passed the sweet moment and very wise to alocate those flowers to another stuff
@suzzy3 (8342)
24 Jul 12
There has always been girls that only date better of men.If they had a nice car and plenty of money to spend on them.I feel sorry for men like that as they are being used some don't mind.If you are seriously looking for love then money does not matter .I know this is an old post but I was looking through and liked the look of it.I always say love comes from the heart not the wallet.xx
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
for me love and wallet is two different thing, even sometimes this have relationship. right, out there, many girls date a man for cash, but I believe that they are only play some games and will get the impact from what they've done -some of them will say this is what exactly teenage doing. I'm not such as materialistic woman, but do you believe that every woman will so much happy to receive gift from man?? gift is not matter of wallet or money, but this just symbol that a man try to steal our attention and show how much they care about us.
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Every girl is attracted to beautiful stuffs, material things, wonderful environment, as long as it look sweet. In my part, I am simply living with my boyfriend, we shared lots of memories together and doing more until eternity. I like presents, but what I appreciate more are flowers. It is pure and I feel good with it, the blossoms, the color, the scent, it's everything to me. ^_^
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
hi, baanadetto, hmmmm.... sounds like a very beautiful relationship for me. do your boyfriend frequently give you a flower??what is your favourite flower and what does it mean? I ever hear that different flower have different meaning, is that true?
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
hard question for me since I'm not familiar with flower and never receive flower from the guy -wooow... pity me!! why do you prefer the white rose?
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Hi red..thanks for the response..when he gave flowers, surely it's a surprise and it always will be..he he he...sometimes when i thought he would give flowers today..and nothing comes but if I won't think it just buala! he he he..I like the most common flower, the rose but i prefer white color. Yeah, I think every flower and it's color have meanings...how about you? what flower do you like? :)
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
THere is nothing sweeter when you receive a flower from a guy you love. But I do think if you love someone, there is nothing if you receive something or not. As you said, we shouldn't be so materialistic. We can just understand whether the guy can afford to buy a flower or treat you out for dinner. It won't depend on what a man can give to ladies... it's what they feel for each other, i think.
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
I agree with you that we shouldn't materialistic. many girl easily in love with the guy who can afford her with pearl or something else and forgot what should presence within them. yeah, flower sound very sweet, but for me sound too ancient. give chocolate is a better sweet which one you choose, flower or chocolate?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
For me it's okay even if a guy don't give anything. If I like or love him he doesn't need to show off what he can give me. I've got flowers and chocolates before, even a treat to dinner or movies, a gold bracelet, watches and some stuff... but that doesn't matter if I don't like or love a guy... I would try to give those things back.
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
me too and this is what we should understand. love is about take and give, not about receive. it's important for us to re- understand, especially in this modern time
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
I agree with your word that girl don't need flower anymore. They need the real not just dream. In my opinion, if a girl also consider about the money had by those man, it is only directly mean that they are materialistic but they are realistic. Life is not need love but also need money to fulfill the daily need. But I don't agree that love is the only thing needed in life, or money is the only needed in live. Life is so complex, so it can't be fulfilled with single thing
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
hi, areskya, flower and girl actually remind us with the love fairytale which was happen in time. it's very sweet that man give a flower to girl, but just what you said, modern girl is not living in dream or fairy tale. modern girl is close to glamorous but need affection too.hmmmm... still depend on each person but money, love, affection are three things in triangle of life
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
areskya, i dont think only woman is materialistic, now even man is materialistic too... yes, life is not only love..but need an sacrifice and money of course.. sometimes we can`t i love you, if we are hungry
• Italy
21 Feb 12
My opinion is that flowers, dolls, and any other thing have different meanings depending on which person gives you that item. For example if a boy gifts a doll to his girlfriend it will have a really big importance to her, not for the doll itself but because it's something related to "him", that means you could instead gift her a hand written letter and it will have the same value as a doll to her for the simple reason it's still something related to "him", perhaps more than a bought doll. I think materialism doesn't really exist in love, you can be materialist, I am a bit after all, but if you really love a girl, anything related to her has the exact "huge" importance no matter what the item is. Of course if you have many items from the same girl (or boy) you love, the favorite one will be the one which holds the most beautiful memory you have with her/him, so if you have both a doll and a hand-written letter both could be worth more than the other because of its "memorial value", while for an external person the doll would be worth more because it has a "monetarial value" or because he likes dolls without considering the hand written letter which has ONLY memorial value which doesn't belong to him/her. The example above answers to pretty much why most girls "fall in love" (fake love I'd add) with boys which buy them dinner/dolls or rely only on "how much money you spend for them", they use them.
• Indonesia
23 Feb 12
you're right, darkhoppa, the point is not gift but, something about "him" and the fact that when we in love everything he gives seems to be very special.I think those attitude can't say materialistic, because it's something normal that boy give something to spoil his girlfriend and in other moment girlfriend will give something for boyfriend. everyone can through this moment with anything related gift, representative the feeling. do you had such a this gift habit?
@bharsil83 (114)
• Indonesia
22 May 12
Yeah well ... love is not only expressed in flowers, she is also entitled to more than flowers. For example, although the dolls or other small gift each day is different but if it is the most beautiful thing that is owned by a woman.
• Indonesia
5 Jul 12
agree, small gift such as dolls is sometimes becomes very worthy for woman
@litvillegas (1274)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
Well, I'm not a materialistic girl too, but of course woman appreciate if a man buy something for their woman. Even just a simple thing. But of course if he can't afford to buy those things I guess it doesn't matter. The important things is "LOVE". :)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
hi, lit, sorry for lately response.. I agree with you, every woman would be appreciate for every gift because sometimes we can read a the man feeling by their attitude. there's nothing more important than it meaning of love, but gift will taste like the candy
@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 12
well, it isn't materialistic one . Being materialistic is different from being a money oriented. Money oriented means we are be able to pay , but it is a real man's role to be able the one who could release a woman from financial things . So the woman could feel more secure and could love & serve him totally without worrying anything that isn't her role duty. And remember, women always love being surprised by their men. A real man knows how to treat a real woman, not just dought but a show. :) And that woman will give him the world :)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
I agree with you. that's one of essential point of this. man should know how to treat woman and know how to show it. this is not because woman is materialistic, but because every woman is special and must treat as well
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
Yup! So the "flower" could be both of real flower and another "special treatment" Have a good relationship! ^^
• United States
4 Jan 12
I Never want Any flowers from my guy. Why? I have seen too many movies / t.v. shows where a guy does a bad thing anf instead of confessing what he did, he brings flowers to his lady love. I see flowers as a coverup. I wouldn't be happy , I would be suspicious! So I told my guy No Flowers!
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
woww!! you are the victim of movie series, hahaha... I can't believe this is your only reason to reject flower from the guy. do you believe flower may describe their pure feeling for you?
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
when i was still courting my wife she was very clear she is not for flowers... she has asthma and the smell or scent of flowers triggers the attack. but because i wanted to give her flowers so i bought something in a box and she loved it. my wife is a very independent woman so she buys what she wants and sometimes she is the one who asked for a date and insisted to pay for the tab. i guess different people different traits.
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
wooo.... you have very great and smart wife, se7enthbird! you are very lucky because now you would hard to find independent girl like her!! smart wife and must be she threat you very well
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Flower means love - A girl still needs flower.
Well it actually varies. Some would prefer something more than flowers while others would be happy with just flowers. Now those who don't prefer flowers are not necessarily materialistic, although there may be those who could really be. I believe some of them are just more practical. In the first place flowers wither and when they do they just have to be thrown away (although there are creative and romantic ones who would keep and preserve even the dried petals). Well if you love doll or anything long-lasting more than flower I believe you are a practical woman. Now those who love flowers are more sentimental I believe. As for me I love flowers that is the reason why I have garden at home and I also do get thrilled if I receive flowers from my husband but as the flower withers I throw them away and don't preserve then anymore. Nevertheless even if the flowers that my hubby gave me withered already, the sweet thought remains in my heart. It is not actually the flowers but the sweet thought that goes with it that I value more. Now if my husband would give me something else like a dress or a shoe instead of flowers then it is still alright with me. What really matters to me is the thought not the gift. For as long as he is giving me either a flower or another thing out of love and not because he is only obliged then I am happy. As I said, to me it is thought that matters most.
• Indonesia
6 Feb 12
hi, salonga, cute flower anyway, wooo...you really have flower garden in your home? I think it's really nice and no wonder if you apprecate flower much.there's special value inside of flower, even I'm not so familiar with receiving or keeping flower, I can see that flower has occupy special space for woman.and just what you said, it's not matter of flower or gift, but it's matter of thought and sincerity that make each other happy and feel like threat different
@dhawanbm (3705)
• India
3 Jan 12
hey Its roses all the way for girls, they just love to be among flowers and they are their best friend. If you could say with rose then its all over there, girls and roses, they want some love some care and thats it, you could get all you need.
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
hi, dhawanbm, woow... you sounds like very experienceful with girl and rose. do you think rose works very well?? how could you do it? can it beat chocolate, ice cream and glamorous date/ dinner?
• India
4 Jan 12
Small small things make a girl happy. Now this is the case when the girl is truly in love with you and not after your money. She doesn't want pricey gifts or big surprises... all she wants is that she gets small small things from her loved one that will make her happy. Flowers are one such thing that no girl will reject and each and every girl loves flowers. There might be some exceptions but in the end girls love small things that will make them happy.. Unless she doesn't love you and is with you for your money...
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
of course if she loves you she will appreciate each little thing you gave to her.it' simple theory that we believe.but, do you believe if gift is like the candy in your relationship.it's needed but don't be too much. what do you think about the fact that rich man will easily get a girlfriend than those who never spend cash for a date?? do you think those girl only want fun or they will easily in love with the man who can afford her with many stuff?
@drambits (96)
4 Jan 12
With the modernization of the dating scene nowadays women rarely receive romance from a man anymore and that's what they're looking for. Nothing is much sweeter than a man giving a bouquet of flowers or even a single rose to a woman. It's the best opener for a date in my honest opinion so the my answer is a definite "No, I don't agree that girl's doesn't need flowers anymore."
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
hi, drambits, hmmm... do you really had your rose from someone you adore?? don't you think any stuff such as chocolate and ice cream can replace flower?? me, actually prefer chocolate than flower because I'm not familiar with flower and those, other stuff I mention is my favourite... the modernization, most of problem comes from girl who wish glamourous date. but I think man always do best for the couple....