My mother and sister had a fight..

@jadoixa (1167)
Philippines
January 3, 2012 7:31am CST
my sister received a present on christmas that she really liked then my mother gave it to another. my sister got angry with my mother because of this but my mother said that my sister is selfish because of it and that she will just replaced it with another one..what do you think? is my mother right about what she did or is my sister a bad daughter because of what she felt about what my mother did?
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@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Argumentation is just a gate way for better understanding! Naturally your sister will get angry in the first place because of what your mother did, but sometimes we need to be optimistic into things and some circumstances! There were things that we love which is really meant for others that we need to give up and sacrifice. And every body normally make mistakes just like your mother, and she must be humble enough to apologize and put things right! they both need space to think and time to heal! Until they were ready to talk and reconcile again! The true essence of Christmas is giving and forgiving!
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Happy New Year!
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
yes that's right..but my mom cannot apologize and accept her own mistakes...
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
When a person commit or made a mistake,the guilt will linger to his heart that will cause him/her a syndrome wherein he/she undergo anxiousness and disturbance state! sometimes people are so awkward to apologize, maybe because of pride,hesitation and shyness to admit a wrong action! They express apology in some other way or in some alternative to make up and get over it! So it is up to your sister to find out what will be the peace offering of your mother. However, no matter how hard a person is,there is always a soft side deep inside him/her!
@kingparker (9685)
• United States
3 Jan 12
First of all, is your mother's fault without asking, she gave away her gift. Then maybe this gift means a big deal to your sister, and she loves it so much. Now, what is done is done. Your sister has the right to be angry, and hopefully your mom and your sister can straight this out. Maybe you can meddle in, and make things less worse.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
that is my mom..even if you reason out to her she won't listen and cannot admit her mistake but instead in return make you look and feel bad or blame you for it...i've been on fights with my mom too..i only get more upset because she cannot understand and listen..she thinks she is right all the time..nowadays it was forgotten though she didn't replaced the gift yet..maybe soon she will..
@trisha27 (3495)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I don't think that your mother was right. Especially when she already gave the gift to your sister and then what she takes it back and gives it to someone else. No it wasn't selfish of your sister and she has every right to be upset. I would be upset too. At least she will replace it though, so I think that your sister should be happy for that though. I think also, before giving away your sister's gift she should have mentioned to her first that there was someone else that she wanted to give it to and does she mind that she give that gift to that person and that she will buy her another one.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
that is right..my mom didn't consult my sister but only did what she did..she wanted to please the other one to give the gift too..but she didn't think about my sister..
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
If your mother who bought the present AND not yet giving to your sister, then it is okay. But if it is already given to your sister, then it is not okay. Any gift or thing that already given to someone is ethically already a possession of the person given. So ethically, anyone must ask permission to take it away from the respected person. If not, then it is just like giving a beggar money then you suddenly take it away after several hours, very bad.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
yes hearing their fight, i cam say it was bad thing for my mom but she cannot accept it but always blame other people instead..
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
It is very hard to say. Where did the gift came from? Why did your mom give it to another in the first place? If it was really meant for your sister then your sister should be enjoying it. I am sorry but I am not taking sides. I just feel that the story lack some details.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
the gift came from my mom..and then my mom wanted to give someone a gift too but didn't have anything on hand..she saw that gift from my sister and decided to give that without asking permission..just took it from my sister and my sister loved the gift so much...my mom thought after all she could just replaced it later...
@jaiho2009 (38988)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Your mom should have asked your sister first before giving it another. I am also a mother and I will never do same thing. I will ask my daughter first if it is okay to give the present to other and I will just but her a new one.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
yes you're right..she didn;t ask instead just give it away like that..
@manubla (472)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Since it's a gift for your sister, it's basically hers so it's her decision on what to do with it. Perhaps your mother should have asked permission from your sister before giving it away to another. Even though your mom can replace it, sometimes nothing beats the original item given to you. But hope that your mom and sis will reconcile soon.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
yes it was a wrong thing for my mom but she cannot admit her own mistake but instead make my sister look bad for it..now everything is alright but the gift wasn't replaced yet..
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
why did the mother think that it's OK to take another person's stuff and give them to someone else? even if your sister get the gift from your mother, the gift is already belong to your sister. I think your mother need to understand that it's not OK to take stuff from other person even if it was her who give the stuff to them. I don't think your sister is selfish, she just upset. If my mother ever do that to my stuff, i won't get a fight with her but i definitely hide all my stuff from her.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
yes my sister was upset and told my mom that the point of their fight was because she gave her present away without her permission because she liked it and she took it away from her..
@Rosa26 (2619)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I think that your mother had to ask her first abd if yout sister didn't want to give her gift, the mother didn't have to touch it, so the best she can do is buy her a new one.
@jadoixa (1167)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
yes, my sister ask my mother if she saw it and my mother said no..then my sister found out later that my mother gave it away..and my sister got upset and told my mom a liar..
4 Jan 12
i don't think your mother should have given her a gift then taken it back, it's called Indian giving, if that gift was meant for your sister then she has every right to be angry, and your mother was wrong for taking it back off her in the first place, so yes, your mum was wrong and your sister is right to be upset, i would be if someone did that to me.