When do you criticize people?

You mean to defend yourself, that's very fair of you. Nice.

That's nice. I realized I'm seeing in the other person so many times I reflect, think about it or try to fix it and I don't remember about criticising anymore.

I noticed as well, after becoming adult I realized that was in me. Good criticism would be just when we worry about someone we love and that they are going in a wrong path perhaps, more than that could be just a mirror

Yes, we have to take care about WHAT words to say cause taking criticism is kind of hard but with the bad words might be received as some for of agression.

Hey there jordq7! Sorry for the late reply. That is true. There are people that can't listen at all, I see most of them are actually those who most like to criticize actually so if they don't like they are not having a good motive then. I listen when I hear criticism, even if I hate the person but if I have to say it I do, specially if I care. But we always have to be careful in "the way" we are going to say it, we don't want the person to be traumatized by that. But it's true, if the person is not open minded...there's not really the point. Or humble!

That's constructive, and even welcomed. If we speak nicely and explain our point most of people do understand. We just have to have some level of intimacy for that I think Thanks!

Hi dear, yes it can feel like a victim sometimes when it's too harsh. I like good criticism, wich is a person who loves me and KNOWS me come to me and say they have to tell me something and that's for my own good, then sit down and tell me nicely but truthfully what it is to open my eyes. If the reason is told we surely can understand why someone is criticizing, now people that gossip and criticize others for no reason are just not good people, it doesn't mater if they pay taxes and go to church, a bad word can really stain or destroy one's reputaion. So many times I met the target of a gossip and the person was amazing, the one who started was just jealous.

That is beautiful. Yes, kicking when one is down is mean. And for example we should never state an obvious thing and specially a thing that will not change, for example if we see someone is obese that person surely didn't miss that and we shouldn't even mention otherwise would be just bullying. But constructive criticism can be realy helpfull. Recently I begun to write stories in English and it was really hardly criticized on the grammar, I keep studying and trying and fine people don't see that, but the beautiful thing was that once again I see how much I love it cause I thought I should give up, but once I let it go I came on writing again and now I found a beta for my fiction ^_^, and out of nowhere there are reviwers asking for me to continue. The first was painful, and then gradually it didn't hurt that much. The good thing was that I am reading even more fiction from English writer's authors, and I look up for their strange and different words in the dictionary more often. Criticism in something that I love: writing, made me grow. And I know about my creative points as in my language people were asking next chapter, that it was all about grammar on a language that it's not mine and not about being a bad writer. But either way in the end, we must decide if we are good or not, not people.

Yes it can feel like that but when well said criticism might not hurt at all. Sometimes those who are close to us will have to say one thing or two as we might be blind to the whole picture, we also have a haaard time to see our own flaws! Your criticism actually seems constructive.

I also think that criticism often comes from jealousy as I witnessed that. When I was naive I thought about what did I do to make a girl angry or watched others going through this thinking "What she did so the other girl is talking about her like that?" Most of the times it was about jealousy, the jealous person cannot afford to leave their enemies alone, they talk about them, live their lives, watch them...

That's good, I like people that do it for conserning, it is actually nice of you It can be preatty constructive and a real eye opener. I needed a shake or two through life and I was gratteful for those who worried and said what was needed. We kind of "get the feeling" when the person means well.

That is also true friend, it was really rare but I had those moments that I was thankful for a friend, family person opening my eye for something I didn't see. We need warnings cause sometimes we might lost track in life.