My husband's Christmas gift to me....
By Nadinest1
@Nadinest1 (2016)
Canada
January 8, 2012 8:02am CST
I don't want to sound ungrateful because I'm not. For 24 years, my husband has always bought me Christmas gifts...he's very thoughtful that way.
But the last few years, I have been helping him a bit my mentioning a few things that he could get me. This year, I told him how my jewelery that I buy at walmart or some such place will not keep it's shine after 6 months or so...and a nice gold necklace that won't tarnish from a jewelry store would be nice.
Skip to Christmas morning...I open a gift and it is a matching necklace and hoop earrings. I though great...until I looked closer....they are both made of both yellow and white gold. Normally I would think this looks pretty, but the 2 together just makes them look like dull, unshinny, tarnished gold.
Now, i didn't say anything to him...I talked this over with my sister...she said tell him you don't like it. I said I can't do that, because last year i returned most of the clothing he bought me and exchanged for totally different clothing...and I felt bad for doing THAT.
I have cleaned the jewelry, thinking that is was a bit dusty or something...but it looks the same. I finally got the gold necklace, but it still looks dull.
I decided to wear it around home, but probably not out, because it is not a pretty sparkling necklace.
Most would be happy with their husbands buying anything for them for Christmas...so this is the reason why I feel bed for even posting this.
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12 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Jan 12
Hi Nadine,
I'd feel bad too. I don't like hurting peoples feelings. Still, if he bought it at a jewelery store, he probably paid a decent amount for it. If you really don't like it, then I think you should return it for something that you do like and will wear. Of course, he may get discouraged from buying you future gifts since you returned a lot of your gifts from him last year also. I'm sure his only objective is for you to be happy with what he got you. I think you should talk to him about this and maybe in the future suggest that he get you gift cards instead.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
8 Jan 12
I mentioned gift cards to him.....but he said: then you'll have nothing under the tree to open. Well, you have to open gift cards, don't you? I told him, I am not a child.....i do not need to open gifts....gifts cards would be fine.
Here's hoping for next year. Thanks.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Jan 12
Oh he just needs to get creative here. I have a daughter that is like you and very particular with her clothes and jewelry etc. I just want to see a smile on her face at what I give her and yet, like your husband, I also enjoy watching her open the gifts too. Last year, I gave her cash but instead of just putting it into a boring envelope, I bought broke it down into 5.00 bills. I put it 5.00 in a cool wallet and gave it to her. I got some perfume she liked and tucked a 5.00 bill in the packaging and other small, cheaper but things I knew she'd like and use. I actually even just put some of them in little boxes and wrapped them. This year, there was a pair of boots she wanted. I told her I'd already gotten her gift and doubted I'd have the money to buy them but maybe after Christmas. A little white lie never hurts...right? I went back and had the store hold them for me and I hid them at my other daughters house so there was no chance of her seeing them ahead of time. One year I did get her a bunch of gift cards but I've come to like the cash even better because it offers her more options. I have 3 other daughters that are so easy to buy for but this one...not so much. For little gifts, I do check out her make up and hair products and replenish them knowing that I can't go wrong there.
@muliercingarus (60)
•
17 Jan 12
Hi Nadine,
You asked for gold jewelry - and hey! That's what you got. Do you know that two-tone gold is more expensive than a single colour? Also, you say you don't wear it out - well, you know - there's people out there who will know the difference between Wallmart trinkets and the real stuff - and not think it dull at all.
I think he took advice from the sales assistant - I expect it was sold to him as 'classy'.
However none of that can make you like it - but there's always next year isn't there? Be more specific. Browse the shops beforehand and tell him what you want. Another way of getting something you want, is to suggest the two of you make a list of what you want - and add a couple of the pieces on that you've seen that you like.
I've been married for nearly 30 years, and there's been times when the pressies I've received have not been what I want - it's part of life really isn't it?
Just a thought - I wonder if there's anything you've got him that he's really hated, but never told you?
M.C.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Jan 12
Honestly, I wish that my husband would even take the initiative to buy something for me instead of just telling me to go out and buy myself something that I want. There is nothing that I can do to get him to buy something for me.
With that said, I would make an effort to wear the jewelry that he got for you. Even if it isn't the sparkly, shiny jewelry that you were hoping to receive, the thought that he put into it is a great sparkle right there.
@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Jan 12
My hubby always buys gifts too. Like me, he likes to give practical gifts these days - and for me he usually gets clothing. See, I am the cheap one, and don't spend much on myself . . . so he will get me "nice" clothing because he knows I won't buy them myself. I actually do like his choices - but he always gets the wrong size - all the time!! The past couple years they've been way too big . . . the last time it would have been too big too, but he bought a kids large by mistake. And since we're both trying to be "practical", we tell each other if it's a fit or not - so we can take it back asap and get what we can really use/wear.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Well, i think you can say thank you to him even you do not like it,make a joke that you don't like but show him you like it..
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
8 Jan 12
Well, I think that you need to sit your husband down and explain this to him. Explain that while you enjoy the jewelry, that you really would like to have a nice shiny necklace that you could show off more. Maybe suggest that he buy you some perfume or something next time and like gifts said, put a gift card in with it so that you have a gift under the tree. I like that idea and I am working on something right now for gifts for next year.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I feel the same way as you do about getting a gift like this from my hubby. Usually in jewelry he does well, but that's about it. Anything else unless he's heard me talking about it I can assure you he may as well not get me anything. This year I had him get me gift cards. I always dread when he asks me because I have to pick something the kids will leave alone yet something I want and something we can afford.... which equates to didly squat.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I am really sorry that his gift was disappointing. At least you can wear it around the house and let him think that you really like it. I hate situations like that where you just kind of feel trapped! YOu are grateful for the thoughtful and kind gesture - but don't really like the product. Maybe later he can figure it out!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
8 Jan 12
In behalf of all men out there, who have no clue when it comes to what jewelry or what clothing is not right, I would like to apologize.
You see men (well, most that is), don't have an inkling on what women want. Even if you drop not-so-subtle hints. You'd have to spell it out for us.
I suggest to just let him know, and explain why. Then exchange it for something else. That way you two will feel better.
You see men (well, most that is), don't have an inkling on what women want. Even if you drop not-so-subtle hints. You'd have to spell it out for us.
I suggest to just let him know, and explain why. Then exchange it for something else. That way you two will feel better.
