I am into a lot of stress right now!
By Jaymie Suh
@cherriefic (10400)
Philippines
January 9, 2012 8:13am CST
I have finally made it! I'm back in the city and I will start working again next week. As a single mother of two children, I need to leave them behind with my relatives in order for me to get back to my feet first and rent our own apartment so that we can all be together again. I will also need to hire a nanny to look after my 4 year old daughter and the baby. Now, they are forcing me to take the girls with right away. I would love to do that but I have some financial difficulties as of the moment. I am a mother, not a magician!
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8 responses
@srik11 (482)
• India
9 Jan 12
In my opinion a working mom is one of the hardest jobs to do. My mother who is a teacher, had to look after me and my brother and it was not easy. I can only understand it now that I'm 21. She still one of the most hard working people i have seen. Wakes up at 5 or even 4 in the morning and leaves to school around 630, traveling some 30 miles on bus. In your case, i guess you are still learning to take care of your children and your job. But that's the best thing about any mom, she will always find way to take care of their children.
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
You're right about that! Mom's will always think about their kids before anything in this world. I just hope that I will be able to take them with me sooner so I no longer just have to worry about them from a distance.
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@microengineer (587)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
Agree with you srik11. My mother was also working mother, but even now after retired from her job, she is always hardworking. And much more, when I go home she always try to cook food that I like so much. I hope I can take care her more than now. Thanks to all hard working mother that love their family so much.
@moakamsg (114)
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9 Jan 12
I am not a single parent but I know the stress of of having two small children and trying to balance kids and work.
It would be nice if your relatives could be a little bit more undestanding to your situation, it's not you are going to leave your children with them FOREVER.
Have you given your relatives a time frame that you will be back on your feet? How does your 4 year old feel about you leaving for an extended period of time?
Prayer always works in stressful situations, do not stress and just stand firm on your decision deep down in side I'm sure your relatives know there is no way you can take your kids with you and you are working on establishing youself.
Good Luck cherriefic!
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Yes, I provided them a time frame but of course, they also need to do somethings with their lives. My 4 year old understands what's going on and she knows that I will be back for them very soon. It's just stressful sometimes that just when you thought everything seems to be alright, things will just happened not according to plan. I hope God will help me find a way not to prolong the agony for everybody. =)
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Its already hard being a mother with a husband to help out...what more of a single mom. I salute you for being able to raise your two kids. 
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As for your relatives, I do hope they would understand your situation and take care of your kids as you settle things out.
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As for your relatives, I do hope they would understand your situation and take care of your kids as you settle things out.@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
I am actually sending them money for the kids. The hardest part is how to keep them happy about taking care of the children for the meantime. I hope that this will be resolve very soon. Well, if they can only wait, that will eventually happen.(sigh)
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Thank you for the encouragement. Maybe these things happened for a reason or maybe it just really happens.=)
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Time is my enemy as of the moment. I have already started into having a better like for my children. It's not like I am just trying to be free from taking care of them. I am working so that we will not be a burden to anyone. Sometimes our own family cannot understand what we are going through.
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
Hi! I understand your situation. I too is a working mother in the Philippines and I also hope that there is a nursery station at the company where I work. It is hard to leave your child to a nanny alone with all the news about yaya abusing the children left for them to take care. Right now, my goal is to find a stay home job that can sustain the needs of our family.
I hope it works out for you.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Your relatives might be having a hard time with the finances specially that they are also considering your children in the house. The children are not really their responsibility, so you really need to try your best to get on your feet the quickest way possible so you won't have problems with your relatives anymore. Good luck!
