Mad at roommate
By C
@ShyBear88 (59342)
Sterling, Virginia
January 9, 2012 11:00am CST
Right now I'm mad at our roommate. My husband cousin she lives with us. This weekend out rent was due me and my husband had our money ready to go and turned it in. My husbands cousin well she didn't go to the back till satuday and got the cash for her part of the rent and out if me and my husbands other bank account we wrote her half and was going to put the money inbht she never gave it to us on time. I kept telling my husband this was going to happen if she didn't give it to us on Friday now we have to pay a late fee which is a $150.
I told my husband he needs to talk to her or I'm going to blow up like no other women will. She is beig irresponsible and she said she wanted to be out on her own. If he is spending $500 $400 a every two weeks then she isn't doing something right. She works at the same place as my husband. I know her car us a gas eater but that should make her stay home more instead o goin out every night hanging with friends. She is 23 and needs to act like an adult because I'm not letting her get me, my husband, and daughter kicked out of our apartment. I also told my husband if I have to I will kick her a$$ out of our apartment I don't care if she signed the lease or not when we need the money for rent she needs to go get. They get paid right before rent is due. She hasn't even give me money for our utility bills. She owes me half of two months.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Jan 12
I have to say this, Cousin Is acting her age! You , my friend , you are more mature than she and you always will be! I'm sorry she is getting on your last nerve and I agree you should tell Hubby to talk to her. Give him a time limit, If he hasn't talked to her within the time limit, Then just kick her out! Hubby may not want to be seen as the bad guy but you are so correct, if she Wants her own place , she Has to pay All her bills On time!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Jan 12
Woo. She is acting how Most 20 somethings act sadly. You ,my dear sister , are rare. You are more mature for your age group, sorry. I wasn't trying to give her an excuse , I was trying to praise you!@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 12
She is paying for everything right now that she hasn't paid yet.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 12
No you wrong she isn't active her age she is 23 acting like she is 21z she has a job and bills to pay. Her name is on the lease that means it's a bill she pays for don't make stupid excuse for her. Just because a bill isn't in her name it doesn't mean she is t just as responsible for.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
10 Jan 12
Hi ShyBear and welcome to my lot. The longer you let this ride the more she will take advantage of your generosity. Nip it in the bud now or you will regret it later. She is old enough to be more responsible. You and your husband need to sit this young lady down and tell her how the rules will be followed or she will have to move on. Don't be mean about it just set the rules and tell her that is how it is going to be. Good luck and God bless!
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
12 Jan 12
Well not all families are a like. She is still young and coming out of a young persons mouth as well yeah things like this happen it's part of still developing and growing up. She is good and all it's about getting things on track and she is having a hard time with that. Me and my husband did all in a hurry last year since we where having a baby then rasing a baby.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Jan 12
Thanks but I've been her for over a year just new account with new friends. We already do that when we moved in she just needs a reminder its not easy on her own it's our 3rd year at this and we are still new at it but mire experienced in the money rent department. She already told us with out talking she is paying the late fee on Friday when she gets paid as well as a little bit of the utilities she can with out going broke.
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@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
10 Jan 12
If he don't want to talk to her, take matters into your own hands. I have a similar situation. I'm constantly on my sister about paying her portion of the bills. We also have a big calendar on the wall with all the bills posted on it. We know when she gets her paycheck. The sooner you handle the situation, the better it will be for everyone. If she doesn't want to grow up, then let her know that she don't need to be living there. No matter where she goes, there will always be bills that need to be paid.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 12
My husband has talked to her tonight and she is going to get the money and stuff.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
14 Jan 12
Sorry to hear that your husband's cousin is not pulling her weight with the bills. You and your husband have every right to be mad. But, if she signed the lease this could be a problem. I am not sure about the legalities on this, but I would look into it, if she is on your lease.
I hope your husband does have a talk with her about this. If she was paying her bills then it would not matter that she goes out. But, since she is not paying her bills, then I would say it is time for her to be on her own. Because if she lived somewhere else and did not pay her bills, they would evict her.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
14 Jan 12
I know they don't care who signs the lease as long as they get their money. I am behind on some discussions. Glad to hear that most things have gotten sorted out.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Jan 12
No matter what they dont care who sings a lease as long as they get paid and the money is one time. There is nothing in the lease saying who pays what. It's only been a problem onces. More then once is a problem. I post this almost a week ago things have been sorted out for the most part and pay date was today for everyone.
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@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
9 Jan 12
I say you have every right to be upset with her. She is clearly taking advantage of both you & your husband. You need to stress to your husband to have a talk with her & tell her that either she comes up with the money that she owes you by such & such time or she is out on her butt. You have your own family to worry about. There are no free rides in this world. We all have to work for what we have & she's no different. Yes she has a job, but obviously she is spending whatever money she makes to go hang out with her friends. It's time you & your husband set her straight.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 12
There will be a talk I dint have to stress it to my husband to get a point across what she does doesn't just affect her but all of us. I know a lot of things are in my name Whig is fine because it was that way before all three of us got this places. My husband brought her to work today so that means when she gets home a talk. I don't think they talked about it on the way to work. I have told her she can't just talk the talk but do the walk all of her money is going to driving to all of her friends houses and eating. We had a deal any good or Sri ka need she leaves me a list for and I'll try to get them depending on funds that week and staying in aves tones of money. My husband helped her get the job she says so she owes me still for utilities one month of it isn't enough. I told my husband this week when she gets paid she is going to the bank getting an account paying some of the utilities not all of it because yes she needs money to get to work but a $100 should work and she can always go with my husband. We have bills to pay still I mRNA me and my husband so someone her utility bills help with those and the rest is for it.
@angelako (280)
• Italy
10 Jan 12
Its really hard when there is someone we share in our house,ver stressfull.for me i better want to be alone at home than to be with this kind of people.why dont you talk to her on that matter so you can solve it,i think thats the way because sometimes they are not aware what they are doing,or they think its ok for you.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Jan 12
She made a promis when we moved in thT she would stay on top of her payments. We have talked an she knows that she has to pay the late fee as well as her part of the utilities ibhavent gotten yet in the next few weeks.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 12
Of course she is going to give me and my husband money or I'll take it to her mamaw and she won't be happy about that at all. I don't deal with her that's my husband job they are family. I'm not her family I'm just married to her cousin. She has to take living on her own seriously and she isn't doing that and my husband let's it go cause he doran see what I see till I yell at him about it. She blow us off last night we where suppose to have a talk well today she got brought to work by my husband so shell have to talk with us when she gets home.
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