sick of being lonely

Many people had experiences in which they suffered a lot and lost confidence and trust. At this moment you will not find a guy (or anyone else) you will care for since you are NOT able to care for yourself or love yourself. Only if you are willing to start with that, decide to make yourself happy in every way you can loneliness will leave you. And you will find someone who really cares about you (since you are worth it and you show this to the outside world) and you will care about too. But.. caring about someone else is not a must. Caring about yourself is! And this is something most people forget.

My advice is to believe in yourself and take strength from you.Life is full of dissapointments and really bad people but that doesn't mean that you can not find the true love.You should take all the bad experiences as a lesson from life and try to not to make the same mistakes again. For ex. when you see that someone does something that might heart you then you should be strong enough to take the upper hand and not let manipulate you.Let the others love you and do the same but at the same time not let yourself tottaly at their hands to make you whatever they want but try to take control the situation.With this way you will not get heart and the others will respect your feelings.

I believe that before looking for someone else, you have to learn to be happy with yourself, happiness does not come from other people, but from ourselves. I am sorry you have had hard experiences, I have had my own, and I am alone too, but not lonely, I try to see all the other aspects of my life, and get satisfaction from them, and, being happy, is the way to make happy another person, and receive love and happiness in return, otherwise, one can become dependant on the relationship,and this only leads to disillusion.

We all have the power to choose what we deem important in life. We can choose to value all the good, the love, the learning, the growing, and the fun Or we can choose to value the hurt if it doesn't work out. Which are you choosing?? Which is more important to you?? OK, you say you just don't feel it anymore. Don't make it about you. If you give the world unconditional love, it will return. Try it out. You might just be surprised. Life is about learning and growing as people. We are all also meant to teach others. Life has never been about never getting hurt. Give unconditional love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. If you really do this, you won't be alone for long.

hello there.it is always normal for a person to be protective for himself or herself after suffering from a painful breakup. take time to recover my friend. time heals wounds. do not speed things up.wait for the right person to love. patience will always be a virtue. good things come to those who wait. most importantly, pray to God my dear.

Hello swissheart..,try to open your heart, I know it is difficult but always remember that no body is perfect. Don't wait untill you find someone that match with your criteria, try to love what is arround you. If you keep pushing away people that try to be close to you, you'll never be satisfied with this condition. It's time to move on :). Try something new about your feeling.

Hmmm, love sometimes is complicated....I have some experience about this, you should get out, looking for new friend, and open your hearth to someone new. If you always feel afraid, it just make you lonely and weak...c'mon be strong and give another chance to someone no to fulfill your hearth

You will absolutely know when the right person comes to you. Your heart will melt and feel like it dropped out of your body. You will be nervous like never before and you will probably get super giggly around them even if you aren't usually. You will definitely feel it and when that happens all of those feelings of distrust and hurt will soon be a thing of the past. The right one will not let you go too easily. They will be by your side whether you like it or not. Lol. I hope he comes to you soon so you can stop being so lonely. =)

first of all you are not alone for this situation there are lots of people who can't find there best match...i am also loose my one of the best....gf....and really missed her....

Life is full of struggleness and it could't be stop in one place.if you got suffer in your past experience that does not mean that everybody should ditch you.so don't loose heart for your past experience. you just look forward to your bright future. because life do not moving in single race. there are lot of ways in life to recognize and learnt you perfectly.

don't feel like that swissheart because in mylot you will not be alone hahaha :) i ever felt that condition also. for many years i like to be a single because i can't do many things without to be bothered with things relate with relationship. juts believe that God will send a good man in the right time. so, just enjoy your single time. do whatever you want, increase your ability, make a changes and more. just enjoy it :)

You need to get out and look for friends Or else you will end up singing lonely I am mister lonely

hello there swissheart! While I was reading your problem, did it ever occur to you if you love yourself? There are people who can stand by themselves while others can't, it depends on how you were brouht up. I have heard this somewhere before, Fill the child with love at home so that she will not look for it outside. Loving is simply everything Darling, you get hurt, you laugh, you cry, and loving doesn't end at being hurt, make it as your guide for you to know on what to do the next time around. But what I said enjoy the company with being yourself, explore more about yourself, and maybe, along the way you'll find him or him finding YOU...:)

i can wait for the right guy, you will know when he is right guy for you n belive me swissheart i iwsh i had a boyfriend that would take care of me n my baby girl n i would take care of him in return

There is someone out there waiting for you just as lonely wanting someone too. They will not be the kind to use you or give you a bad experience. That person will make mistakes but will also seek your forgiveness because it hurts just a much.

Try to hang out with your friends and try to make your self busy. I think this can help you to forget the loneliness that you feel. Don't look for the guy that will love you it will come suddenly. I can also say that its hard to move on without finding new one but everything that happened has a reason.

Exactly the same feeling I am feeling sometimes. But I still try to find something to do to shift the feeling of loneliness and being afraid of getting emotionall attached with someone. Sometimes I would feel I can no longer love someone or that someone won't love me anymore. But life has to go on and if we think about it every time we will really never find the happiness. Find something you love to do and spend your time with people who really love you, like your family and real friends.