Do you have favorites?

That would really upset me. How can he say that about a 4 year old? I couldn't tolerate him being treated like that. Your son will notice if he hasn't already. Your dad could really hurt your son's sense of self. Like something is wrong with me type if feelings.

My mother does this to my sister. My mother bends over backwards for my sister, but not my brother and I. My husband is not allowed to work due to a foot condition called Charot's Foot and and needs to be taken care of. All my mother can think about is how to pay the household bills and wants me to get a job. My husband has a lot of doctors appointments and most of them are scheuled last minute. I need to be there with him, but mom says I should go look for work and if I have to work when he has an appointmemt then he needs to be a big boy and go by himself. He is in a wheel chair anc has a hard time getting around. also, he will be on medication that can have a negative affect on him (temporary memory loss) and I want to be here in case it happens. The VA will not pay for a nurse and since we have no other insurance this would have to come out of pocket. I do not have the money to shell out for nurses. My sister works at night (even though her children are in school all day) and when she is off she goes out and parties. My mother allows my sister to go out whenever she pleases and stays home and watches the kids. I feel that my sister needs to take responsibility for her children and get a daytime job. She yells at her kids all the time instead of praise them.

I have three kids and I don't think I treat any of them as a favorite. My middle one tends to get under my skin a lot though. It's like she takes pleasure in getting me upset. I still don't treat her any worse then I do the other two. I hope that one day she'll see that and change how she acts. She's only 6 so I'm hoping she'll grow out of it.

I know of someone who has a son and a daughter. The son is the oldest and the Mom always comments on how well he is doing, how smart he is, how good he is in things. The daughter is absolutely adorable and smiles all the time. Anything she does wrong is announced to everyone.

Human relationships work in a strange way. We generally picture people as surrogates of others. Your father may seeing his favorite girl, you, in your daughters and my picture your son as your husband. I am not saying your father does not like your husband, but the man to man barrier is always there. You will very rarely find two men thick as thieves. In my case, my sons are in their mid-twenties and have been closer to their mother than me, all their life. I am an "object" to be respected and be polite to. Some times all the three gang-up against me and I really miss not having a daughter.

Not only em but it make upset in every one if we continue such a attitude. I think your husband need to change this attitude becuase this can cause an complex mind in you son's mind which will cause to bring a destructive mind in him. So you need to remove such favorites in you life. Love both of them equal care and love

Growing up my oldest sister was my dad's favorite..and it hurt alot of people even my mother who sometimes lost first place to my sister...it was a pain in the behinder. I have three kids whom I love equally but for different parts of their personality....four grandkids I love equally but for different reasons....I do know others one of my friends in fact that have a favorite grandson..and they are not shy about letting everyone know even his twin brother..it's sad.....for everyone!

All the people whom i know whether relatives or friends treat all their children equally and love all of them.My parents also treated me and my younger brother equally and without any favouritism.However in my country and especially in the rural areas and many times in cities the girl child is not treated well whereas boys are given all the facilities and are pampered to a great extent. Girls are married off at a young age,sort of getting rid off.This unfair treatment does disturb me and many others too.There are many organisations who look after girls who have been treated badly and thrown out of their houses and are given support so that they can lead normal lives.

I try as much as possible not to have any.. i think it would be unfair to have one. I have 3 kids and i love them in three different way.. my daughter is smart mouthed, hyper and smart and loving in her own way.. she is my cute little tinkerbell.. she loves to tinker and she can play with nothing and make it all seems fun. She can get a cup and turn it into something she can play with - she is that of a tinker! and i love her more for that.. my 4 year old son is the cuddly huggable one..he loves to be cuddled and kissed and always wants me to embrace him. When i got sick he was the one would care to give me a glass of water and asks if i have my medicines already... my future doctor. and my 1 year old..soon to tell what he will be..but for now, he is our little showman who loves to dance and sing. so hwo could i not love them? i do not love one more than the other.. i just love them differently :) on the same level. as a parent, if that is how your parents are to them, then give and show them what your son is and is capable of...

I love both of my daughters, but I never treated them identically as they had very different personalities. Sometimes it appears as if one has a favorite, but it does happen that we know which child is more resilient. But I do get upset because my grandmother has favorites between her greatgrandchildren. Until my last grandchild was born, she did not consider any of my gradchildren worthwhile. "Her" greatgrandchildren were my niece´s children.

For me, its not about my favourite but my least favourite. I thought my least favourite is my second but I remember that I used to be the least favourite child and it brought horrible memories. I made myself closer to her and now I think she levels up to the rest and also cant keep me from boasting about her. I also try to love every of my children equally, I do not know though if each of them feels equally loved. If I see someone treating my children different like you have mentioned, I do feel upset. And when we are alone, I will tell them its me that they should consider their self worth. That someone do not know them like I do so they should not feel any less special.

Yeah my mother do have her favorite child. It makes me upset because my mother always give my brother special privlages. I feel that parents should love all their kids the same way.

it is very difficult to do this but you must always tell them together that you love them and they must always share and learn to love one another

It would really break my heart every time I think about this favoritism thing. It is about my parents...especially my mother liking my sister so much that she would couldn't discipline her anymore. She doesn't really compare me to her but her treatment is so much different. I don't even know why she really likes her more than us...or even treat us equally. I even shared this one to her because of the pain that's in me. But instead of admitting it to herself, she keeps on telling that she doesn't and she doesn't know and that sort of thing on why she likes my sister. I am trying to be mature now. And as an eldest, I will just understand her...and just do all my power to understand my mom. Anyways,have a good day!

Do you have an brothers? If not your son is his first boy and he just doesn't like boys. I used to say it was better for me to have any daughter of mine get adopted because I wouldn't treat her well. I thought if I had to have children , it would be 4 boys , no girls. Some people have favorites.

I lost a friend a couple of years ago, her mother treated her like dirt. She blamed all her problems on her. I'm not going to say 100% of that friend's problems were because of her mother's treatment, but a LOT of them were. I have another friend who's parent's always told her that she had to take care of her siblings since she was the oldest - well, needless to say, she ended up in a tiny garage apartment where she didn't have a stove or hot water, while the siblings were living in much nicer places - at least - living in the folk's home.

I was 9 and my brother was 8 when our sister was born. She was always considered the favorite in the family. But we were fine with that. I would also say that I don't a favorite among my kids. The young one gives me great joy, but the older shares the same birthday as me, and has the same exact attitude in life as me. They're both special in their own ways.

You are right. I don't have a favorite child as I don't have one. Yet there are few children here and we treat them fairly. There is no sweetheart among them. If they did wrong, everyone of them will get punished. No one will escape. There will be no one better than another. If we treat children unfairly this will give effects to their emotions. They will feel like no one love and taking care of them. He just 4 years old...Your father should not treated him badly. Like my mom says, little children know nothing so we should guide them not the other way.(^^)

Well I will not deny it but my favorite is my son. But that does not mea I d not love my son and daughter any differently. I love them both the same. I guess I sort of favor my son because he reminds me of me. But I am always fair with both of them. If my son does something wrong, he gets punished and visa versa. My evil ex actually came right out and said that she like my daughter better then my son. She thinks my son is less of a person then my daughter. I even have witnessed how she is more lenient with my daughter then with my son. She is always punishing him. Now keep in mind, he has a mild case of tourettes which makes him a little more hyper. And I believe he needs a little more attention. I totally understand him. She does not. With my daughter, if you tell her something once she usually listens, my son does not. He needs things to be explained to him unlike my daughter. Now if my daughter does not listen she is being spiteful. You see, with my son, sometimes he spins out of control and does not always grasp everything you're saying. So, I need to sit him down and explain what I am talking about. Now I don't have to do that all the time. Just some times.

Hi LovingMyBabies, fortunately I have to beautiful adult children and oldest is a male...this is my story, when I was expecting my daughter I went through so much depression because I loved my son so much I didn't know where I was suppose to get more love to give to a second child...Well needless to say, when my daughter was borned that feeling left and I don't even know when it left...I loved my daughter with all my heard just as much as I did my son...and that feeling never seeked into my thought ever again... I think favortism really hurts when children are envolved and especially when they are able to pick up on the blatant difference of treatment. Children are very smart and believe they realize a lot more than we want to give them credit for.... I think its so wrong...