How do know that you're inlove?
By sethalex
@sethalex (153)
Philippines
January 17, 2012 9:47pm CST
Love is a hot topic nowadays. It's like earning extra income online. I have a problem and I hope that my fellow myLotters would be able to enlighten my troubled mind.
My girl fiend and I are living in a rented house together with our 5-month old child. I was in a 5-year relationship before her and we broke up. Fyi, my ex still loves me and ex and my girl friend are exchanging words through phone! We are just sweethearts for less than 2 years actually. We live in one roof when she got pregnant because I felt pity on her but I think, that feeling was only during those days. Now, I'm trying to love her but we're always quarreling each other.
In your case, how do you know if you're in love? I'm not sure yet because of the reason why I'm with her. But I love the child so much and I'm happy with the blessing that God gave to us.
Hoping to be enlightened! Thanks!
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8 responses
@sumatix (257)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jan 12
sethalex i think you should try and give sometime to your girlfriend as you use to care for her love her when she was pregnant or even before that.cause it may be possible that now unknowingly you are loving your child but you leave your girlfriend someway behind.
Secondly it is something called post partum depression this is the phase which a mother goes when a child comes in her life and everything changes as she has to look for her child and herself and all other things at the same time which gives her a feeling that she is not being able to do anything in right manner.There are frequent mood swings.It may be that your GF is going through this..So just spend some quality time with her when your baby is sleeping or is not around..talk to her nice things your old memories..she too needs love as women are not allways just to give love..
@girl_thinking (1959)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Why are you fighting in the first place? I mean are those reasonable fights even? Perhaps she's just having some emotional problems due to pregnancy.. But you know what, in our times, having a baby is not reason enough to stay together. That is, if you have worked everything you can to avoid fighting and you still cannot avoid fighting. It will just be hard on the baby's emotional development seeing his parents fight all the time.
Well, now, since the baby is still inside the mommy, why don't you talk seriously, like a real grown up talk with your girlfriend. Do you see a future with her? If you see a future with her, then it must mean you really love her? But if you do not see a future or if you think you don't want her in your future, it is time to make changes. Big changes in your life.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Being in love is when you feel that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with this person. Staying with her because of pity will never be a healthy relationship for you and even to your love child. I think you better talk to the girl so that you can both can make a mature decision.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
In my life I've been asking what the real meaning of love is but then now it is clear to me what love is. Love is not just a feeling but a decision. You love someone because of no other reason that you love her. There was this article that I read that just because you do have a child it doesn't mean that you are going to married. You're in love if that person you love makes your world goes round.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Misunderstandings, quarrels are all part of a couple's life. Normally there will be a lot of it during the first years of being together under one roof. It is actually hard to know if we are in love with someone. But if you are ready to be with her and accept everything in her attitude and the quarrels you used to have with her. And that losing her will break your heart - then I think you are in love. But in your case, I don't know but I do think you are not so in love with her coz you said you felt pity on her - that maybe is the reason you lived with her under one roof because of the child.
I have a friend like this, and she is actually trying to move out of the house now. She realized she cannot love the guy she's with - they have one child too.
@arjunm (439)
• India
18 Jan 12
A mixed warm feelings will play with me,don't concentrate with my any works for the feelings, my attention is going to only one person who arouse my feelings to make me very emotional. in every things i will find her face then i will realize that i must be fall in love.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
18 Jan 12
Hi sethalex...
I don't know but I want to cry reading this disscusion. It must be hard for you to live with someone you don't love. But you have to stay for the baby. Hope your love can grow for her.
When I am in love, I always look happy, I like to smile, I start to liston to pop music, love songs ( I usually listen to rock music ), I wake up early and start to sing some love songs. I feel younger when I am in love. Yeah so that's how I know that I am in love, sometimes I act stupid when I meet my crush.
