Will you pursue with your studies when your parents are having a hard time...

Philippines
January 22, 2012 8:00am CST
Will you still pursue with your studies even you know for a fact that your parent is really really having a hard time sending you to school? I've already graduated from college. But I am currently taking up Law and I am now on my second year. The pressure,the terrifying professor-judges and lawyers, the cover to cover exams, the 4 inch thick law books,the avalanche of case digests, the very long provisions to memorize, and the everyday 3 rounds recitation I can handle them. Whats bothering me is that, We (my familyand I) are facing financial crisis.I want to stop and work first, the problem is, my parents wont allow me. What am i suppose to do? :( your opinion would be very much appreciated. thank you!
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10 responses
@ritzz07 (788)
• India
23 Jan 12
hi shimi18 thats great you have a willingness to complete your studies however there are ways.....need to think i can understand that your family and you are experiencing some economical problems but you can come out of this.........i was going through same condition while pursuing IATA FOUNDATION course that time i took education loan from bank and started doing part time job...you may think like this to support your family and yourself.......and rest of the things leave on Jesus he always take care of his children. i always keep in my mind one sentence written in bible "if one door is closed i will open the another for only you have to knock it...." and always remember Jesus helps them only who helps their-self.... thank you have a great day
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Yes, despite the difficulties were going through, Jesus never left us, and i know he never will. I am still searching for a job, even for a part time job, but its really difficult for me to find one that suits my schedule. and a job thats not too heavy for me, so i can manage both my studies and work at the same time, specially the law course is a very jealous course. you really have to devote all your time, if not all atleast 3/4 of your time. Thank you ritzz07! your advice is a big help, it inspired me.
@ritzz07 (788)
• India
25 Jan 12
hi shimi you can join callcenters...........they are paying good......also part time jobs are available there....
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
hi there friend, of course i understand you, galing tayo diyan di ba? sabay tayo? just be strong, if they insist that they can, they will do everything do send you to school, God will find a way na mkatapos ka, kya don't give up!
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Thank you so much, you know our situation, my mama being the bread winner of the family, and my papa......?? (you already know that.) She doesn't want me to stop, but, i want to help her,because i can feel her, the difficulties she's going through, and all the sacrifices. Sometimes i feel guilty too, i cannot do anything to help her.:(
@mselin (77)
• India
23 Jan 12
Hi shimi, It seems you are under a huge stress. Don't forget that you have to cool down a bit to be able to do your best in your studies. As you said, if a part time job does not pay enough, don't go for it cause it will adversely affect your studies also. try to get a scholarship with your merits, that would be like killing two birds with a stone. Or take an educational loan which will ease your worries and you can repay it later once you get a good job. I think it is completely unwise to drop the studies after starting on a good career path. you could also try to write some articles or such things based on your legal field for extra income.
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Hello! yes, youre right, Im really bothered with our situation, and no matter how i try to concentrate with my studies,I still get distracted. often times i find myself thinking of our situation at the middle of my review or even when i'm in class. It affects my concentration..:( thank you for the advise, I'll try to look for the educational load. tanx for the idea!
@kaylachan (5727)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jan 12
I chose not to continue schooling after high school. But, if I knew for a fact my parents were giving up everything, I too would be torn. Because I understand what both parties feel. Your parents, just like any other want you to lead a happy successful life. Any parent wants that for their children. And, they don't care if it puts the strain on them as long as they honestly believe you're happy. But, on the other hand, if you feel unhappy and can't continue to finish your training in law, then you should make this clear to them without making them feel guilty... and feel like all the time and money they've spent trying to put you through school was wasted. Many people persue careers later in life. If you want to be secure in yourself and less dependant on your parents, you need to explain this and take no shame in it. Its normal.
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
I already told my mom about this issue, she never asked me to stop from my schooling, however, i am so bothered of our situation, i can see my mom is really really having a hard time, and i want to help her. but she doesn't want me to stop, she said she will do everything (but of course everything that's legal and right), even people sometimes looks down on her. For now, i have to study well, and i wont stop looking for a job. thank you for the advice! :)
@cttolledo (5036)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
You and my ex-office mate had the same problem! she is studying law also and had financial problem,but she is really determined to pursue, she got a job to sustain her expenses and go to school after work. why not try to find a job....
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
I had a part time job immediately after graduating from college, i worked as a part time academic tutor, however, by the month of december, we had lesser number of students, and by that time i was only handling 2-3 students, so the management removed me from work, being a part time, i was removed, of course the management prioritized the regular employees. two months after, i was employed as a legal aid clerk, and unfortunately, i wasn't regularized from work yet, since there were legal matters left unsettled regarding my predecessor. So after almost 6 months of employment, still i wasn't receiving my full salary, then, i had full load in school, and unfortunately,i got sick. so i decided to stop from work. So, now, i am searching for a job, and its really really difficult for me to find one that will suit my schedule.
• United States
23 Jan 12
I think it is great that your parents want to help you with Law school. I am in graduate school and have student loans, but my parents want me to quit because they want me to get a job and help pay their bills. Both my parents work full-time jobs and have a lot of credit card debt (this is their own doing) and my mother wants me to pay off their debt. I refuse to pay off their debt since I have things of my own to pay off plus my husband is out of work for a while due to a serious foot condition called Charot's Foot. I am my husband's care giver (I bathe him, I help him get around and I take him to his doctor's appointments since he is not allowed to drive). My mother wants me to get a nurse to take care of my husband and I refuse to do so because I am capable of taking care of my husband. I would finish school because that will help you get a better job. I think it is great that your parents are so supportive of you and your education. I wish my parents (primarly my mother) would support me and allow me to grow up and make my own decisions.
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
awww... i'm sorry to hear that. I wish i could be as brave as you are, If i were in that situation, perhaps i have already quit from the very start. You are such a strong woman. Your story made me feel very very lucky, that despite these difficulties, my mum is still very supportive of me. Thank you very much randylovesdar! may God bless you.. I know you will be very succesful with your goals.. And i also pray that your husband gets better from his condition.
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
You are very blessed that your parents support your academic goals. If your parents are not even letting the same financial crisis stop them to support you attending law school, then, a simple way of thanking them is to continue hitting those books. Your parents must have looked beyond the money issue. They fully know that a person cannot bring back time, opportunity and effort that you have in front of you right now. A chance missed can never be retrieved. Do not let this difficulty stop you from snatching this chance to reach your dreams. You can always think of some other ways to help them out once you get the hang of these academic requirements.
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
My mom is the only one working in our family, and i pity her so much. I am not the only one studying in our family, she is also sending my sister who is in college and my brother, a grade schooler. I do get good grades, I know that makes her happy despite the difficulties we are going through. I am in continuous search for a job, however i am also really having a hard time to find one that will suit my schedule. Anyways, thank you so much for your advice, you're right shouldn't quit. i wont let these difficulties stop me from reaching my dreams...
• United States
28 Jan 12
I graduated from school already. Just the bachelor. Now I am planning on going for masters. My parents never paid for my tuition fees. I got scholarships and loans to pay for my school expenses. I think it is better if you just continue. You are in the middle of finishing it up. Suddenly if you work instead of studying you will not feel like going back to school again. It is a very natural psychological thing. We all can have that same feeling. Why don't you just take up an odd job? It will not interrupt your studies, but will help you ease your financial problem.
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
oh i think we have been through this situation. too bad my brother was not able to finish his studies because he has to give way to me... and to our younger brother. i guess when our parents cannot provide anymore we should at least understand them and the situation they are in.
@jeetking (190)
22 Jan 12
Yes definitely I will study side by side I will work so that I can help them a bit.