Forgive and Forget
By shimi18
@shimi18 (98)
Philippines
January 23, 2012 10:17am CST
Forgive and Forget an old school saying, but is this really possible? If yes, is it that easy to forgive the person who had done you wrong and to forget the wrong he/she had done to you?
An old schoolmate made a lot of rumors and intrigues about me, just because the guy she liked didn't like her back, instead the guy wanted me. And because of that she made rumors and intrigues about me, that nearly crashed my reputation in school. that was two years ago.And I have forgiven her, I guess? my mind says yes, shes forgiven, but every time i see her, the negative feeling towards her is still there.
What do you think about this guys?
3 responses
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
i THINK that's just normal, we are only human and we have feelings. as much as we try to forgive and forget sometimes we can't forget the feeling of being hurt by them, specially if they never admitted their mistakes and they never showed regret for what they've done. Let's just pray to God that we can fully forgive 100%.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
maybe those people are plain jealous of you that's why they are trying to bring you down. they can't face their own insecurities that's why they always point these out to you. just let them be, they will get nothing but sins for what they are doing. sometimes it's really difficult to ignore but we just have to.
@shimi18 (98)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
Hi! everytime we see each other in school, she's always the first to say hi or hello, and i usually just smile back on her. i'm just not sure if she's being "plastik" hehehe I just hope I could forget her, or "them" for their misdeeds. It actually happened second semester when I was on my 4th year in college, before my graduation. I'll tell you the whole story when we meet. They even spread rumors like i had a kiss mark, where in fact it was my allergy at the back of my ears, and that was too big to be a kissmark.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
23 Jan 12
In some cases, you may forgive and forget, but a lot of times it's hard to do that. You may forgive someone for doing something to you but it's difficult to just forget certain things. Maybe it gets easier with time to forget things after you've forgiven them. But I guess we shouldn't hold grudges because it does nothing good for us.
@shimi18 (98)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Oh yes,I agree with that! Forgiving may be easy, but i guess forgetting the misdeed takes a long time. specially when it nearly crushed your reputation. I just hope i could soon forget her misdeeds and to finally forgive her. as in absolutely forgiving her, with no marks of any negative feeling against her.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
23 Jan 12
Maybe when you spend more time with the person you forgive it makes it easier to forget. I think that might help with forgetting some of the bad things and allow you to move on and truly forgive her.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
8 Feb 12
Have the courage to ask your forgiveness? You open your mouth and say that word that seems impossible to pronounce? "Forgive me" - a word so simple but complicated. We are so proud, full of itself that we are so hard to apologize and admit that I was wrong. Now, with fever and severe pain and chills, I realize that life is very short. In a moment, in a moment you could go. So ... what would remain after you? Love, love, peace? Or hatred, envy and jealousy? Perhaps we need to come to grief over us reflect well on our lives. I, at least, these days I had a lot of time sitting in bed and fighting me with different states. I thought many of my relationships with people around and I realized how much I had missed because I did not know at the right time to forgive or apologize.
Does disease should come upon us to be able to pronounce an "excuse me" or forgive? Necessarily have to go through pain to make things really important? How expensive are the moments when the tears are able to say a sincere "I'm sorry!"
