how to deal with "hypocrisy" in life??

@sayo13 (414)
India
January 23, 2012 1:04pm CST
as i am getting to know more and more people in life i am aware that people are not "real" what they seems and try to pretend. for a person its more important to make an effort to create a fake picture in front of others in order to accomplish certain personal claims.its getting more and more difficult to deal with people even for simple and petty issues, who knows what might you have to face without knowing what that person is up to. most of the time in my life i tried dealing with these "hypocrites" in a straight simple way but its of no use. either you have to be hypocrite or you have to get out of the whole matter or places by avoiding them or ignoring them. but in real life its not so easy to do such things.you have to deal with them and every time whether you like it or not whether you choose to do it or not. so my friends any idea how to deal with hypocrites and their game of hypocrisy??
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11 responses
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
23 Jan 12
When i realize that people close to me such as friends,relatives,etc are hypocrites then i simply go away. I might face them everyday but i do not feel anything about them, i erased them completely.When i am with double faced people that are not close to me, for ex. are strangers or people at work i just have a typical professional relationship with them, because i can not do otherwise, and ignore their existence.
@sayo13 (414)
• India
23 Jan 12
parascevi yes i do agree with you. these kind of people should have no existence or as such importance in our life. but it hurts when you realized that the person you have faith with turned out as one of the "hypocrites" !! it feels miserable. but life itself teaches us lessons and we get to learn to judge people by this.
• Greece
23 Jan 12
Yes i got hurt when people close to me are fake.. But i can not do otherwise and try to be strong and go away.I usually do not forgive easily the liers and hypocrites.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
24 Jan 12
My mother was a hypocrite, my sister used to be a hypocrite, my husbands brothers are hypocrite, I've worked with hypocrites, my husband works with hypocrites and we have three hypocrites here in my neighborhood! My definition of a hypocrite is one who will hurt anyone, step on anyone or abuse a relationship with anyone to better themselves. Some you can ignore, others you have to just remember what they truly are no matter what's coming out of their mouth. There are coworkers who will be mean to you or practically ignore you exist because you have nothing to offer them to achieve their goal, a raise. You will notice this coworker talk to their direct superiors coated with globs of sugar, if you know what I mean. If you have smart superiors they already know all this and I don't mean book smart! You may have to defend yourself. Have anything they say that you should do in writing. If you have an idea, put it in writing and send it to your boss. Even long time friends can turn on you. Even long time neighbors can turn on you! Amazing, but true!
@sayo13 (414)
• India
25 Jan 12
2004cqui thank you for your advise ,yes i would definitely try to do what you have suggested provided i keep my belief with myself and face them rather than escaping from them. tackling these kind of people might help in building smartness and ability to deal with any damn situation and people.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
23 Jan 12
Many people have what is called a public face. Is this what you mean by hypocrisy? If so, I handle this by recognizing that the person I am dealing with is really just a small part of the total person. Sales people are often this way. And after all how important is it that I know the total person, even if I could. When I am dealing with the sales personna that is really all I need at that time. As long as that personna is not lying about information that I need to complete the deal I have no need to dig further into the true person.
@sayo13 (414)
• India
25 Jan 12
savypat i am not sole talking about salesperson in general.well in your office or in your life there are few "hypocrites" whom you have to tolerate on a regular basis. you have no option of ignoring their existence in your life.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
the best way to deal with hypocrites is just to be who you are and keep a proper perspective of what you really want in life and try to make a difference by being fair and square. it is inevitable in our lifetime to deal with this kind of people as they certainly learn the art of pretension in order to have an advantage for them to reach their goals, not caring if they could step on other's interest. This is a real significant harsh reality in life that would somehow affect our lives on how we would be able adapt and assess people and carefully evaluating and assessing our own capabilities, and at the end of the day, one would realize how the vital lesson we could learn appreciably from these kind of people.
@sayo13 (414)
• India
25 Jan 12
you must have a real time experience i must say.and you are right in saying that we get to learn many vital lessons of life after dealing with such people but we have to rather smart not to let them "use" us for their own greed and benefits.
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
I think in this kind of world that we live, we can't oust hypocrisy. For me, It doesn't matter if you are an hypocrite. As long as that hypocrite won't hurt you and use.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
It's I guess part of being a mature person, I onced always showed my true feelings but people were not responsive to that kind. people are afraid of straight-forward people, people who are real, sometimes people are afraid of the truth..
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Well I guess if people live a life of hypocrisy, we can't do anything about it.. I encountered once, there was this one person and I find her Hypocrite, I don't ignore her, but instead, I became one also to learn her lessons.. during the conversation, i find her so annoyed and then I told her " I did this things because your hypocrite and you don't know how to communicate.. I hope you learned this lesson and won't d it again". I don't ignore them, neither will I let those attitude burst on their mouth..
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
23 Jan 12
I give up trying to figure them out, I just put it down to just another failure in human nature and carry on with my own little life.
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
Just ignore them and keep you head up. They're evewhere and they grew up to be like this because of ignorance.
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
Well, i avoid such thing, ..that kind of attitude is not acceptable to God.Its better we avoid,try to know real people and also those hyprocrites.
@jeetking (190)
23 Jan 12
Most of the person are hypocrite so I try to find out the originality of each of them and then interact.