Did your husband or partner watch you give birth?

United States
January 23, 2012 11:38pm CST
yes, My oldest sons dad watched the entire time. He did nothing just stood there not saying a word, didn't help me with my breathing at all and I was in such pain (I chose not to have meds) and in fact he said if screamed or cursed at him once he'd leave the room. He's a jerk and I'm glad we are no longer together. my second childs father and last (I have 2 children with this guy) he's my current boyfriend, the first time with our 5 year old he kept leaving the room and almost missed me giving birth. With our new baby he was watching a movie on his laptop, talking on the phone, or in and out of the room, he didn't help with breathing or talk to me to distract me from the pain (again both times chose not to have meds) although with my last baby at the very end the pain was so intense that I asked for medication. he too is a jerk and unfortunly still with him. but yes he did see the birth of both his children with me.
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@asyria51 (2869)
• United States
25 Jan 12
My husband was there for it all, and very supportive for most of it. He did have the audacity to complain about not getting any sleep. excuse me, but who was pushing out a bowling ball with arms and legs attached. He cut the cord. I went with an epidural, but it only worked on one side.
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@youless (98210)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 12
Here not every hospital can provide this service. This is why finally I have checked several hospitals and decided which hospital I would give birth at last. I wanted my husband to be with me when I was giving birth since I was a person who was afraid of the pain. I hoped that he could support me and realize it was not easy for me and therefore he should cherish me. But finally I had an operation. Therefore, he couldn't be with me once I was sent to the surgery room. I love China
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• United States
24 Jan 12
Yes my husband was with me and very supportive. We were very young and he was very good. I am glad he was there.
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@Luciano63 (157)
• France
24 Jan 12
Hi I am an husband and I did not wanted to watch my wife giving birth to our tweens boys...I know all of you are thinking that I was a bad guy not giving support to my wife in such important moment of her and our life together. However, knowing myself and my weeknesses, I would have not liked that experience. I could not watch, however I was behind the glass door watching sometime and I did see my tweens just after they came out still up side down being slapped to start crying...I'll never forget that moment and their eyes.
@LLWolf (119)
• United States
24 Jan 12
My husband watched the birth of our son. We went to child birth classes and everything but he became so overwhelmed from seeing me in that much pain that he really wasn't that helpful. He was beside me the whole time holding my hand but he was very quiet. Or maybe I was in so much pain that I didn't notice him saying anything.
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• Canada
24 Jan 12
Well I would have told him to leave. When a woman is in labor she darn well needs help to keep her mind off of it as much as humanly possible LOL I had a c section with my youngest and his father was with me but he didn't have to go through the naural thing lol We are expecting again this april and we are supposed to have natural so we will see how my hunny does LOL I am pretty sure he's going to be there for me thoogh that's just the type of guy he is.
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@dodo19 (36789)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Jan 12
My husband and I have a two-month old daughter, and he was there with me. He was there to see me give birth. I didn't get the chance to have an epidural, or anything. But my husband was very supportive. He was there for me the entire time, which I really appreciate. He's a really amazing man.
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@mauve02 (133)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
When I was giving birth of my baby I don't have any family members beside me. Only the doctors and nurse who are there beside me and helped me to breathe and count. Family members even my husband is not allowed inside the labor room and delivery room, its the hospital's policy.But I didn't felt any pain at all because my anesthesiologist gave me enough anesthesia to that I can give birth painlessly. Even though there are no relative beside me when I gave birth it is still fine with me because the doctors and nurse guided and helped me all through out the process.
@txgrl21 (819)
• United States
27 Feb 12
My ex husband watched me give birth to both of our kids and held my hand the whole time with both but only because I begged him too lol. I was terrified the first pregnancy but I think he was more scared than I was. He does not like hospitals, never goes to doctor, would rather operate on himself than go to doctors. The whole birth he had this face, like he was going to faint or something. He was trying to calm me down but I just kept screaming at him 'Shut Up!' lol.
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
I was alone with the nurses and doctors when I gave birth to our daughter. Husbands are not allowed in the operating room unless they are certified through what they call Lamaze seminar or is oriented by how to go about in the operating room. I was so scared the whole time but I prayed really hard. And thank God I had a very safe delivery even if our daughter is premature at eight months.
• Lenox, Georgia
30 Jan 12
My husband was there for me for all of my labors. I went with natural too for all three. My husband rubbed the washcloth on my head and talked to me to try to get my mind off the pain. He was helpful. I was kinda mean to him from what my sis said and I felt bad about that! When your in pain sometimes you just snap at people but he was still nice to me and understood. =)