What causes lack of communication in relationships?
24 Jan 12
keeping secrets. there are things that you don't want to share, yes that's not bad at all. but when things that are supposed to be shared are kept in secret instead, it creates a barrier in relationships because it might hinder you to tell another thing that is related to your first secret. so then, you get two secrets. then you get a third connection , until it becomes a long chain and it will then create a misunderstanding. so we have to be careful and as open as we cold to the people that we have a relationship with.
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24 Jan 12
Wow!! I love your response. I never thought about lack of communication coming from something like this. But you are truly on to something here. I know that if I was trying to hide something I would step back from the relationship and pretty much shut down because I am trying hard to not accidentally share too much.
24 Jan 12
there are many things that cause a lack of communication in a relationship. I think one of them is about time together, the lack togetherness and meet face to face, certainly can make communication stretchable. Although there are now many ways to communicate such as via telephone, internet and more, but i think the best communication is to meet face to face, which is face to face communication will certainly make a person more able to express his feelings. Although there are many things also that can make the communication in a relationship is reduced, such as lack transparency, lack of trust, lack of mutual respect, lack of care etc
25 Jan 12
i mean like this.. lack of trust and lack of mutual respect: when in a relationships there is a lack of trust, it will cause prejudice, and then it would present a conflict that ends sometimes make people so lazy to meer their partners (including to reduce good communication between them). Likewise with the lack of mutual respect, which would be a conflict that led to the reduction in communication (ex. the wife doesn't appreciate her husband income/hard work, make the wife every day complaining or demanding more, it could have made her husband so reluctant to return home or telephone his wife when he was work, because he was reluctant to hear his wife complaints) lack of care: when the sense of caring is reduced in a relationship, it will make are both busy with their own affair, or selfish and uncaring to her partner, ex. if they are apart they were so forget to telephone, or even if they are in one place, they not communicate with each other because they are busy with their own affair
25 Jan 12
I'd say personality and personal view (romantic and friendship) like everything in life, relationship is what we make of it even in a long distance with language barrier and technical problems if we want it to work, it will work but I noticed that some people don't view relationship this way so they put all the effort to make money, and not so much on relationship they communicate when they want to. not when they can. when the partner leaves, they are confused and blaming the partner instead I heard this happened a lot in LDR I have to say, Nothing is free. you want money, you work for it. you want relationship, put work on it too. on top of it, some people are cons, manipulating other people for their own benefit they communicate lies, once they get what they want, they stop communicating it's a game to them and they just have to win then we know some people are badly hurt they can not open up let alone communicate they have to deal with this before they get into new relationship family life, as a child we usually just go along with family views but as we grow up we develop our own and if the family is mostly narrow minded personalities, less understanding, we may choose to communicate less, as most of the time communication turns into conflicts anyway
25 Jan 12
In my case, we're always holding back. There's so much to say but unable to say it. We're afraid of hurting the others' feeling or didn't know how to express it correctly. Then we just bottle it up, unconsciously giving cold shoulders and lead to misunderstanding. It would be easy to tell but we can't.
25 Jan 12
Lack of interests, knowing the other one is not interested in you(r opinion), too tired to communicate, thinking you know that person very well so there is no need to tell or explain. There are so many reasons. Also not everybody is such a great talker. Talking whole time, the never ending communications can destroy a lot too.