Breaking up

hello, You been together for 5 years and you should know each other more. You need to open to each other what was happening to your relationship because communication is really important. I know how hard you are going through but instead of fighting make some space first and think if you can live without him in your life. In 5 years of your life you should be more matured enough to think of this times because this happened to many couples that I know.

It would really be painful if a relationship for 5 years would just end. Try to have a heart to heart talk with you bf. Analyze , what's your fault and what's his. Then compromise on how to solve the differences. Sometimes, it's just a matter of compromise on the couple to be able to maintain a good relationship. But when love is really gone, then it's really to be ended already.

it's normal to feel that way you have been together for 5 yrs that's a long time it will take time to recover from it just take your time and don't haste making decision to break up if you are not sure I remember your post if not mistaken I've replied to it before

I also been in a relationship for almost 5 years also but we also decided to end it. We are always together because their village is just on the other side of our village so it is really easy for us to see each other. When we end up our relationship it become really hard for me to move on because i i know it will take a very long time before i can move on but i'm still lucky because when we end our relationship i become much closer to my friends and they always support me. They always invite me to hang out so i even in short time i can forget the hurt feelings inside me.

First before the breakup, I would suggest to you to sit down and think about those issues that make you argue. Try and find out ways to work on the issues. If both of you are willing to work out on the problems, then it is better to give the relationship another chance.

i think you are still in love with your bf...and you should really reconsider your decision. i know its not easy but you can try to make things right. its going to be hard ending a relationship of 5 years. my break-up literally broke my heart, if you have no other way except for ending your relationship, then just make sure you have a strong heart and get on by having a good hobby or something, hobby really helped a lot for me... i started making me busy as much as possible, like i did many things like redecorating my room, to going out a lot with girl friends, that really helped me a lot

Hi do you know what's the reasons or causes for all these conflicts? If it's because that the two of you are really different, I mean different attitudes or opinions towards life and relationship, then it really means that the two of you do not match so well. Otherwise, if all the conflicts are due to misunderstanding then all you have to do is to explain to him clearly. So I agree that you should have a heart to heart talk. To discover the causes of conflicts.

After being in a relationship with someone for that long ending it would be very difficult. I can imagine how hard it is. Especially if you both leave together. Seeing someone everyday and sharing a life together takes a lot. So to end something like that does cause heartache. I think that should really talk with your boyfriend and see what he wants out of the relationship or if he thinks that it should end as well. You have to remember that when you end a relationship like this starting over means starting your life over with someone else. And everyone has faults. So the question that is very important for you to know and him is can you live with each others faults and work on your relationship. Every relationship has it's faults. So breaking up and being with someone else a person has to deal with their new relationships faults as well. I hope things work out for the both of you in whatever decision you make.

Hi! Once in a long term relationship things like that really happen. I also felt that with my 6 years boyfriend but we were able to surpass it. You just need space. But in other cases where it cannot be resolved, then breaking up is the only choice. Better break up than lose your friendship and hate each other forever.Better to break up if you really feel that you are unhappy. Anyway if love brings you back together than good. Its not an easy decision especially if you are in a long term relationship. I hope you can make a good decision.

Well i do not understand why you want to break up when you feel vulnerable even at the thought of breaking up. Rather try to figure out what is going wrong, be a little more understanding and have patience. You can give it a try once if you think the relation is worth it.

I'm sorry to hear that. I know that it's gonna hurt breaking up with someone. Well, 5 years for me a very long time, you should have know each other well in the past 5 years. But, if you know you cannot continue anymore and if breaking up is the only solution and for the best, then do it. But i still hope that you'll able to work it out and still save your relationship. I know that arguments are just normal in a relationship but if this is not making a healthy relationship then let go of it. I also had some break up too, i was so depressed. But as time passed, i've already forgotten that. And luckily i met my husband. So it's up to you my friend. Try to talk it out, it's both your choice.

Breaking up with a loved one, especially one you've been with for 5 years can be painful and scary. I've had my share of breakups and sometimes it is for the better. To lessen the pain and get you used to the idea of being single again, start off by giving each other some space.

i think what you need is this thing we call a "cool off". maybe the 5 years has exhausted you both being together the whole time. maybe you need to get back to yourself and think of it all over again. when you are alone, that's when you realized how much you need the other. if you two are meant to be, you will be together again.