Making changes within ourselves.

Hi Pose: You are definitely right. We should not expect that other people change, but we can make an effort to change ourselves. Instead of complaining about the wrong things people do, we have the power to evaluate what can we do to make a difference and not just wait for others. Happiness is in our hands. ALVARO

Especially in close relationships we often find ourselves responding before we have had a chance to consider how we should do that. These responses are vey often based on privious interactions and have often little or nothing to do with the present situation. The sooner we realize that this happens the better we can prepare ourselves for the next interaction. If we go into it with the intention of remaining calm and controled we have a much better chance of doing so. Certianly if we can do this the outcome will be much more useful then just responding in the same old way.

Yes I agree, we should try harder to find peace and we can only find that within ourselves, sometimes we let silly little things that do not matter take hold of our senses.

A very wise man told me once......you have to set your course for where you want to go...you can not control others or their actions.....only yourself. And that is so true.....its starts within....

So often this is true, we just don't realize it immediately! Most of the time, we can't even realize this at all.

Hi Pose, This is exactly what my mother taught me as a child. Her exact words were: what you don’t like in others is what you don’t like in yourself. I have always tried to remember that and when I find something I don’t like in someone else, I try to work on me a little bit more, because it might be something in me that I really don’t like.