Why don't people cherish life more?

@bnsp09 (258)
United States
January 28, 2012 9:35am CST
I just went to a funeral for a 37yr old man who had recently had a kidney transplant from his wife about two months later she comes home from work and finds him dead on the couch. She thought it was kidney failure, later she found out it was a massive heart attack. He complained about chest pains in the hospital & the doctors said lets worry about your kidney right now. He could still be alive right now! So why doesn't any one learn a lesson from this loss? Why don't people start getting pictures done more often, worrying less about cleaning and little things that can wait & cherish the time two people have together? I want to get engagement pictures done with my fiance and he doesn't want to pay the person $25 he said we have enough pictures already. He wants my dad to do them, but I have to tell my dad what I want & I shouldn't he should know how to pose me & to do it. I just wish life was treasured more what do you think?
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10 responses
28 Jan 12
Hi, life is a funny thing we take things for granted and think that they are going to last and be around forever. This makes me think about my grandfather we would have him over for Christmas every year as no-one else would have him. We used to moan about it every year the main problem was that we had a small children and wanted to spend our Christmas alone with them plus the fact he would talk a lot. The same things we had heard over and over again. Dare I say it I would tune out so I did not really have to listen. Unfortunately, he passed away a few years ago and believe me Christmas is not really the same with out him. Each Christmas we think about him and how ewe used to moan about him coming but believe me if I could turn the clock back I would. The moral of the story is cherish each day, you never know whats going to happen. Get your man to pay for the photos because you will not be able to turn the clock back.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I got him to pay for them. He changed his mind after I wrote this & said he wanted to get them done! They were great! We got some of us & some of us with the kids! Now I'm going to have my dad do some & combine them on our save the date cards for the wedding! It is true! I want to cherish life! Most of life stinks but... there are special moments & I want to take the time to enjoy them!
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I'm sorry about your grandfather! That happened to my grandmother with my grandfather. They were divorced & she would give him looks that could kill. After he passed away she had so much guilt & regret for how she treated him. It's so sad!
@eljayo (1106)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
Hi!Maybe they are still in denial that their loved one is terminally ill.They still have high hopes that he will survive. But I think although it will be a different situation we should always cherish our loved ones.Everyday we should express our love and care for them, who knows anything can happen in a minute.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
He was not terminally ill once he had the kidney transplant. He was in perfect health besides the heart which the doctors didn't check.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
That's just sad, maybe he had problems with his heart before he went into kidney transplant. If he had kidney problems, then maybe this could also be the cause why'd he have some heart problems. Well, anyways, as you said, he could have been alive if the doctors payed attention to his chest pains or something. They've misdiagnosed him or something. I'm sorry for him. As they say, life is too short to be wasted.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
Yeah he should have been assigned a cardiologist before ever going in for the operation. To make sure his heart was strong enough to handle the operation. Then he complained about having chest pain & saying he could not catch his breath, which are the first signs of a heart attack & they said not to worry about it.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
Hello there bnsp09, I have lots o people around me pass away that i have not cherrished the way that i was supposed too, and i will always be regretful for that so now i am making all the efort in the world just so that will not need to regret anymore just be happy with person that i love so that when the time comes that they pass i will be happy to know that we were happy.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
That is a smart idea! I am doing the same thing! You need to cherish life! It's worth it in the end to take a little more time to be with someone!
@Cutie18f (9560)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
I agree with you. Let us all grab the moment while it's here, make the best of everything, see good things in ourselves, in others, and in our environment. Life is the most precious thing in the world. Let us not dismiss warnings given to us by the giver Himself. Let us take care of ourselves by being healthy and being kind to everyone. Happy Mylotting!
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
This is true! You can't take things for granted because before you know it they will be gone!
@MandaLee (3737)
• United States
28 Jan 12
I am so sorry for your loss. Each day is a blessing and a wonderful gift from the Lord. I think we move too fast. I think we need to slow down and take the time to enjoy the simple things in life.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I agree we really do need to slow down & cherish life & all that we do have! My favorite thing to do above going out to eat, bowling, movies anything like that is to ride around on the 4 wheeler with my fiance & have the kids try to catch us!Then we switch & they'll chase me. We all get a good laugh, great exercise & have so much fun as a family!
@_sketch_ (5703)
• United States
28 Jan 12
Well the doctors probably should've checked that out, but having a kidney transplant can make your whole body hurt. I don't think that this story is an example of not cherishing life. As for the pictures, there's a lot more to cherishing life than pictures. You can spend $25 to get professional pictures, but they really don't capture a moment. It just shows what you looked like. I think that it is much better to take a picture spontaneously. You can do it for less money and you can spend that money on creating a memory worth capturing. I think people cherish life just fine.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
Thanks for your opinion
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
I know what you mean. Sometimes we only value a thing when it is now lost. This is life and this is how it works. I do value them but I can't express my feelings to others.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
yeah. That happens a lot! I'm trying my hardest to live life to the fullest & let everyone around me know how much I love them!
@WakeUpKitty (8696)
• Netherlands
28 Jan 12
What is the problem with your dad making those pictures? Why you think someone you will pay will do a better job? I met many photographers at wedding and also shoots, they all make over hundreds of pics and you only get the handfull of the greatest ones. BTW with the digital camera and all the photoshop programms there are you can make the most perfect picture you want (even they use it) and even add your make up. I also think the greatest pics are the ones made unexpected not the fake ones you are posing for or when you are forced to pose the way the photographer wants you to be (which makes all his pictures of all the different couples look the same). But ofcourse you are free to pay the 25 if your fiance is refusing to pay. And your dad can make pictures too. I think nowadays most doctors are not interested in patients anymore. At least it is that way over here. They don't take the time for you, they don't take you seriously. You are just one of many. I don't think a doctor will learn from his mistakes since (at least over here) a doctor is not making mistakes. The hospitals have great insurances and way more money as you have and they will tell you it was your fault. If people don't care why should they learn?
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I did not want to have to tell my dad how to pose us that's a photographers job! He's the type that if he's not getting paid he just expects you to do all of the work. I know the programs my dad has them as well as other photographers. I completely agree with you on the doctors! That's why they call what they do practice b/c they don't even know if what they are doing is right! It's so sad!
@BLTLife (337)
• United States
28 Jan 12
People should cherish their lives but if we spend too much time doing that we don't live.