Does A Listener Should Always Listen
By xien2xien
@xien2xien (1382)
Philippines
February 3, 2012 4:14am CST
I admit that most of the time, i'm not a good listener, i know it's one of my bad attitude, a friend told me once that sometimes in their down times all they really need is someone who would listen all along to their grief and miseries and to everything they just wanted to say to let the pain or agony come out to their heart. But the sad part was, i can't be like this at times cause i always thought that just by listening alone could never help them resolve something, i just always gives my opinions and some times advises, i just thought that somehow it could add to their options on what to do and what not to do.
I just wonder that is being a good listener should always just have to listen at all? please share your opinion on this thanks
6 responses
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Hi! A good listener will always be willing to listen but there are times that you feel that you have to say something than a person should do it. As long as it is for the betterment of a person or a situation. If your friend told you something bad he did, a person should reprimand him/her instead of approving with the bad idea.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
of course when we give advise we think of how the problem should be solve and for their betterment too, but somehow some friends doesn't like to hear anything they just wanted to let their emotions out and maybe it can give them some space to mend whatever their feeling was
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
I don't think 'listening' should be taken literally. It's actually being there for a friend. It's true you listen to your friend's problems without interrupting him or her. But it doesn't mean that after all's been said, you keep silent. It's okay to give some piece of advice or your opinion on the matter. This is what a good listener is.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
that is also what i thought it is, but somehow there's this friend of mine whom i've been referring in this discussion, she always wants to confide in me but in the end she just wants me to listen to just let it out of her system, but somehow i can't keep myself to just listening and don't give any opinions in the end
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
7 Feb 12
I was surprised when I checked y our bio and discovered that you are female. Always wanting to tell someone what to do is usually a male characteristic. I learned the hard way not to tell my husband my problems if I didn't want him to fix them. Usually I only wanted him to be a sounding board while I figured out how to fix the problem myself. I think it's something about him being the big strong protector.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
29 Feb 12
I am not sure I am a good listener myself. Like you, I always wanted to give opinion and views on anything friends told me. Unless, I am so bored with the topic (some issues that happened again and again), I would then just listen and would soon forget them, cause for sure it will happen again and the person would tell me once again...
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
A listener shouldn't always listen at all times. Why? I do know that you know that "action speaks louder than words" Sometimes what he hear is different on how one's act. Try to be open-minded. Be sensitive to ours. Always listen into their body language.
@Lucas818 (377)
•
3 Feb 12
A listener is a person who is able to understand, comprehend and focus when listening, isn't really a person who just have to listen but in the end get nothing. It's good that you always show your opinions and advices, but sometimes people would just expect you to be a person who they have a way to talk to, to express themselves, while they're not really looking for an answer nor solution. In future, maybe you can try to be more patient while listening to others but don't have to jump to any suggestions or solutions... : D
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
sory if i don't get myself clear, when i said i'm giving my advises or opinion to the matter i'm saying it after they confide on me about their problems it's just some of them doesn't need my advise after all i don't know but i don't feel like helping any if i don't give atleast some advise on how to solve it if things happen to me
