11 year old child abandoned in forclosed house

United States
February 4, 2012 9:47am CST
I know desperate times call for desperate measures but I think this goes a bit beyond desperate. This man decides since his house is being foreclosed upon to leave his 11 yr old Son with a note to the effect that they will care for him and takes off. I'm sorry just because you don't a job and are loosing your home you don't ditch your child!!! If he entrusted the neighbors with his child perhaps the neighbors would have taken the father in as well til times were better for the family. http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/business/2012/01/minnesota-dad-abandoned-son-in-foreclosed-home/
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16 responses
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Feb 12
I'm glad he was charged with a crime because what he did was CRAZY!! I would never leave my child unattended in a home like that. This is terrible and people like this should NOT have kids! I am glad the guy was put behind bars where he belongs. I feel bad for the child though because now he has no mother OR father! Poor boy... =( No child deserves anything like that...
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@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
That father should be sued for neglecting his duty. And for gosh sakes, your own flesh and blood! He and his wife shouldn't have gotten a child in the first place if they knew they couldn't afford to bring him up!
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
4 Feb 12
I don't know what to think about this. When you're desperate, sometimes it's hard to think things all the way through. And I can see why he wouldn't want to have his son live in a van and be homeless. Maybe he thought that if he just left his son there, then the neighbours would HAVE to take his son because they wouldn't have much other choice.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
4 Feb 12
WTF! This father adondoned his child in foreclosed house! That is a new one on" how I can adondon my child" list! This father did a very selfish act and now he may never get his son back! If the father had any common sense he would of taken his son over to the neighbors explained the situation and he would of not gottan in trouble! Now he has been convicted on child neglect for being an idiot! I don't think he should get his son back!
@picjim (3002)
• India
5 Feb 12
This is going a bit too far.I don't think one ought to abandon one's 11 year old child like that.Imagine the trauma and ill effect it has on the psyche of that child.He could as you said give control of the child to neighbors for a few days.He could have left the child with a government recognized agency for a few days till he thought of alternate plans.This indicates bad planning of one's life and caring little for a young child.All in all it amounts to bad parenting.
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@Blkqueen (85)
• United States
4 Feb 12
They should of taking the father in that's neglect towards the child. Just because he couldn't keep his house he still has responsibilities as a father. He doesn't have family? Where's the mother? He should of thought of another way to resolve this situation with his son instead of leaving him there. That's a shame.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
9 Feb 12
Yes, I heard about this, and it does make you wonder. Why did he not seek help especially for the child if times were this bad? Just leaving a child alone like this in a house that is going to be foreclosed on. Personally it makes you wonder why someone would do something like this, but it is good that they found him and are getting the child the help he so desperately needs.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Feb 12
That is horrible. I feel for the boy. He will be so traumatized from that. In these times I can see how a person can get so depressed they feel they have no options, but I cannot see abandoning him.
@AmbiePam (85593)
• United States
7 Feb 12
What a moron to think he'd get away with it.
• United States
4 Feb 12
Isn't it sad that the world is curretly a place where parents, good parents, can't properly care for their children? The article did say the father was found and arrested in the van where he'd been living. Would it really have been better for him to bring his son with him to live in a van? I think not. Yes, he should have brought his son to the neighbor's house himself, but he really didn't harm the child. The father was sacrificing something to give his son a chance to live in a house with people who love him, rather than bringing him along to live in a van. I hope the father gets his child back, they obviously care about each other. And I hope they get some help!
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
4 Feb 12
That is horrible, that man wasn't in his right mind when he did that. Raising his son all alone for ten years with the mother stripped of her rights--how horrible must she have been?! I'm thinking he thought his son would go to family that lived next door and he would come back when he found a job. Poor choice of how to do it, certainly, but I doubt if he was thinking clearly. I would not do that to my children. At least he gave the boy instructions and was sure he would be taken care of. People are crazy these days. Other dads have killed their families in the same situation, at least he didn't do that. I can't judge the man but I would have done it differently. I hope the boy will someday understand how insane his father was driven and that he didn't abandon him because he didn't love him.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
5 Feb 12
That is a sad story. It does say that he was a perfect dad for ten years before this happened. I do not understand why he did not take the child with him. It is sad indeed. I guess he needs some mental counseling.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Feb 12
This is a very sad case. It is obvious that the father loves his son very much and did not mean to harm him. I think that he may have been depressed and could not see the wood for the trees when he took that action. No, a child should not have been left alone but in a depressed state people do not see what is obvious to the rest of us of what his options were. I am very sorry for the boy now sent to live with a stranger instead of the people next door that he obviously loved. The authorities are not doing the right thing either!
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• United States
4 Feb 12
That is so sad. He couldn't have been thinking properly. If he had just gone to the neighbor and asked if the boy could stay there it would have been okay. And yes, they might have taken him in too.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Feb 12
hi 3snugglebunnies oh how could he just walk off and leave his own son there.Was he so upset he could not think straight? What parent leaves a 11 year old son in a foreclosed house?the neighbors said if he had come to him they would have taken him in. I think the man was literally at his wits end but still that boy is his responsibility. I have been through tough times too but never ever would walk off and abandon my children ever,
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
that a bad decision for the father to abandon his child. he should make a decision or way out to let her child go to her relatives whom could take care his child. and he should try to seek for a job so when he s already he could get his child back to support him. abandoning an Innocent child would only make him a bad father as a child need a father who would take care of him emotionally not just his money.