Been away but miss you my friends
@Masihi (4413)
Canada
February 5, 2012 4:48pm CST
I know I haven't been on Mylot, but I guess I needed a break from - well, people in general, but obvious that's not gonna happen as I live with people HA! Anyway life is really tough, you lose a few friends you gain a few friends, you disagree with people and you'd like to just agree to disagree but to the other person it's like you've dropped an atomic bomb because you don't conform to their likings....
Relationships are tough. Really tough. I think technology has a hand in that. You can't even see what the person's trying to get at unless you're in the same room as the person, you know, facial expression, tone of voice, body language.
Rambling on some more, I suppose, trying to sort out junk in my head. I'm glad I'm making new friends here on MyLot, though, in fact I logged in after a few weeks only to have 3 new friends requests, which put a smile on my face. I love mylot!
Missed you all, though, hoping to read some of your posts tonight.
2 people like this
8 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Feb 12
I missed you......on mylot that is..
You know it's amazing how when I look back there are like groups of people that have come and gone in my life, and I don't mean they leave by moving or dying, but it's like we grow apart or something. Then of course there are the friends who leave because they can't stand my beliefs, but that isn't my problem...
I am glad to see you in my newest group of friends and I hope you stick around A LOT longer than the others..
You know it's amazing how when I look back there are like groups of people that have come and gone in my life, and I don't mean they leave by moving or dying, but it's like we grow apart or something. Then of course there are the friends who leave because they can't stand my beliefs, but that isn't my problem...
I am glad to see you in my newest group of friends and I hope you stick around A LOT longer than the others..@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
Yes, I know people come and go, and it's sad that people ditch us for our beliefs, it's not good enough for them to agree to disagree with us and continue a friendship. As for me, I'm here finding out all these things in the Bible and seeing the mainstream churches teaching stuff that's different or adding to the Bible that sort of thing and I'm like, based on my research, and study of the Bible, there's no way that I can have a clear conscience and follow non-Bible traditions.
I believe the Lord has blessed me with your friendship, and you've been an inspiration to me, standing firm in your faith through it all.
1 person likes this
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Aww, thanks and you have been a great iron, (you know, iron sharpens iron?) for me, I took to heart our discussion on Shabbat and didn't go back to SB until after sundown. So you are really good for me, I need that..
1 person likes this
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
5 Feb 12
We all have good and bad moments in our lives but we should go on. Technology is great, without it we couldn't have myLot
But I cannot understand why I have to visit Facebook if I want to communicate with my good friend.
Why my daughter today sent me an email asking a favour, when she says that I DON'T leave my mail box open all the time?
But it is good to meet people from distant places that I will never visit.
It's good that you are here again.
But I cannot understand why I have to visit Facebook if I want to communicate with my good friend.
Why my daughter today sent me an email asking a favour, when she says that I DON'T leave my mail box open all the time?
But it is good to meet people from distant places that I will never visit.
It's good that you are here again.1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
True, technology does have its positives, however, nothing beats the face-to-face communication that people has been doing for thousands of years. I can understand it's good to learn about different cultures and meeting people from different parts of the world, that part is always interesing.
@GreenMoo (11833)
•
6 Feb 12
Relationships ARE tough, but sometimes I think that you can get valuable insights from somewhere like my Lot because people don't know you so well and therefore do not let their personal prejudices of who they think you are colour their responses. Some are rubbish of course, people writing purely for the few cents, but there are gems of gold in there
1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Feb 12
I like MyLot for the practical advise and the fact people don't know me so well and can be objective, ya, but I think I just plain needed a break from life :-p hehe
I initially joined to make a few cents but I quickly found the value of MyLot and it basically became a lifeline. I hope it stays around for a good long time because it's so therapeutic for me.
@lilblondiemjd (856)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I totally agree with you when it comes to the whole technology thing! I was thinking about taking a break from it as well since not only does it take a toll on people socially, but I also think it can make us sort of shallow. I mean, on Facebook, people always post pictures of themselves, write about themselves, get complimented on themselves, and sometimes it's easy to get wrapped up in - Well, I was getting wrapped up in it anyways. SO I came back to MyLot to take a little break from Facebook, or at least to even things out. Welcome back here! I know you probably don't remember me but I've seen a lot of your posts and I enjoy them. Hope you're doing good!
1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Feb 12
Ya, I'm doing good, I know I am because I'm learning how to be true to myself and my beliefs and also learning how to stand up for myself. And as for people who post about themselves allllll the time and such I end up unsubscribing to their posts because it's Hubby's family members and it's all so boring and such. FB is so addicting, isn't it. It can be stressful, and I sometimes wish FB has never took off like it is now, in all honesty. Perhaps I would've been able to keep friends that I lost.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Feb 12
I was wondering where you were...
I agree most relationships are tough. I absolutely hate when you text or put something on facebook because you can never really tell what the other person means, sometimes it sounds like they have an attitude when they really don't and such things like that.
I think people let their own desires get in the way of friendships. =( Any relationship is give and take not all giving and no taking or the other way around. People who are selfish in any way will not be able to have a long lasting friendship or any relationship...
I wish there were more people we can all count on in this world...Here at Mylot I have met a few though which is good! 
1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
I know I tend to get mean when someone is mean to me as well, but seriously, there's no need for people to get rude with us just because something didn't quite go our way. And yes, people should be able to tell stuff to your face and clear the air, it's the only way you can resolve a problem effectively. That's horrible that your ex manager called you names that's not even ethical, and is not what Canada stands for in the workplace. That's verbal abuse. Nobody should be subjected to that, I would stand up for myself as well. Besides, who cares about a person's size? Sheesh.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Feb 12
Ricki: You have always been really nice to me. =) Thank goodness. Guess I haven't crossed you, I hope I never do. Lol.
1 person likes this
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
7 Feb 12
Hi Masihi! Nice to see your back online. I'm not on all that often but I did miss seeing your posts.
You have to be true to your self. It seems people hide behind FB and other sorts of social networking because they don't have the nerve to confront the other person or sort out issues. You need to be face to face sometimes to resolve what's going on. Losing any sort of relationship is hard but if they are worth it, it will work it's self out!!
1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Feb 12
I'd rather be true to myself, and have few friends than to conform to other people's beliefs and have many friends. Ya, too many people hide behind the computer screen and sadly the people I have on my fb are real people that I know in real life and have relationships with and they turned out to be so shallow. Yet at the same time, I've found some awesome friends online, and even have a few on my FB and they stuck by me thick and thin, and even enjoy intelligent conversation about hard issues such as religious values, so ya this is a strange world, isn't it.
@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
6 Feb 12
I missed you, friend! How is your theraphy going? What have you been doing? Maybe I shouldn´t say this, but I´m glad you missed us
As for friends, you cannot pretend to have friends that last you all your life. Sometimes you just have to move on, specially if the other person doesn´t accept that you can have a different way of thinking than hers.
As for friends, you cannot pretend to have friends that last you all your life. Sometimes you just have to move on, specially if the other person doesn´t accept that you can have a different way of thinking than hers.@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Feb 12
Ya, I'm definitely getting harsh lessons in letting go and moving on, especially in the past few months, it was really intense. Now I'm in the process of discovering who I am and learning to accept myself for myself, which is a really hard thing to do. I wish the process isn't so gut-wrenching, it's giving me too much grey hair! LOL
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
5 Feb 12
Don't feel bad, I think sometimes we could all use a break from MyLot. For me it's just more of the same that makes me feel like I need a break. After a while it's just the same discussions over & over again. That's when I decide that I need a little break from MyLot. The good thing about MyLot is that no matter how long you stay away from the site it's always there to come back to when your ready. So welcome back friend
1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
I think taking a break is healthy, gives you time to think, reflect, and to learn new things, I would think. I suppose my post was rambling in general about the stuff that has been happening in my friendships over the past month and I'm just coming to terms about losing 2 dear friends and trying to reassure myself it's not my fault, that sort of thing. Sometimes I just want to crawl into bed and not have to worry about anything anymore, but I know it's not reality and when we crawl out of bed, reality greets us once again. So the best thing is to greet it back with a smile and determination with G-d's grace.
1 person likes this
