To quit or not to quit?
By shylade
@shylade (3132)
Philippines
February 6, 2012 1:09am CST
i'm very confuse at this moment after what my husband told be this morning. my husband and i are working in this company for a long time and i want to quit my job now. why? because i thought people here have changed already. they are still the same people who are fond in pulling people down. and i'm getting tired of it anymore. imagine, you are working for the company and even taking them first rather than our son then for only those people whose interest are for themselves only could make an bad impression out of you. what really hurts is our lady boss believe. is that fair? have you experience it?
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6 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
7 Feb 12
hi shylade, if things are so unbarrable for you and you are so
unhappy, perhaps quitting is your option or do you have another
option like switching changing to another location in the company.
Can you really afford to just quit your job without bring on
hardship..if you can then go for it...If not I would really suggest
you not quit until you at least have another job prospect lined
up..
What do you think will happen to your hubby there at the job once
you quit...do you think things will get better or do you think they
will try to get some sort of revenge on him....because you quit..
Give it some serious thought and Good Luck to the both of you....
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
actually, its my husband who is being pulled all the time. he is quite-type of person who will not fight back. that is why i said one of us should leave and that's me. but again you are right. i need to find a new one before i resign. i know this too shall pass. thanks for your advice and i appreciate it.
@samrie29 (112)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
I believe this happens in all office settings and one way or another you will encounter people like them whether you like it or not. If you're hesitant in trying to confront these people then try talking to your superiors about it but be professional as well by telling her both sides of the story. If she still doesn't believe you then decide if this is something that you are willing to pass up since I understand you that you love your job. See the pros and cons if you leave your job and if you have decided to leave the company, make sure that you have a fall back. Good luck! By the way, they have a saying that the best revenge that you can give these people is to kill them with your kindness. :)
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
6 Feb 12
I'm sorry, but I am not the kind of people that let's this happen! When I run into people like that, I confront them in person, and ask them to quit what they are doing, either quit on their own, or I will physically make them quit, eventually they will quit doing or talking harm about other people!
I have done it before and I will do it again and again, I can't stand a bully either, they must be confronted head on or they will keep picking on or doing harm to other people!
And as long as you let them , they will keep doing it!
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
you are a very courageous person musicman! it is not easy to confront them knowing they can just talk to our boss and create any false story. that's sad. but what else can I do, but pray for them. God is with us and soon all their wrong doings will turn to them in anyway they can't imagine. thanks for the response an dhope you are around here so you can help us fight back :)
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
6 Feb 12
There are so many people like that in the world. I have experienced it myself. I couldn't even believed they could do it, but they did. They pull people down in order for them to go up. Yes, it's really unfair moreover when we know that the Boss take their side. The Boss should have go in between. But you know these bad people have the ability to persuade the Boss to believe them. Then! Wow bravo! They succeed of ruining your reputation as a good employee.But hey! God is not asleep. He knows everything we do. No matter how little. So don't despair. God will bless you. If you think you can still take it, then why quit? But if you find that you are no longer happy with them as your colleague then go find another job. But then I hope jobs will be available for you then. It's hard to look for another job but if you really think it's the best thing you can do then go for it. Whatever makes you happy and at peace. God bless you and don't think much of them instead pray that they will realize their wrong doings.Take care!
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
These people are so selfish right? Anyways I know God will never leave us and He will be with us because we have strong faith in Him. I read somewhere that I must be proud if someone try to pull me down because the fact that they are trying to pull us down is an evidence that we are above them. But I'm only human. I'm already searching for a new job. You know what, I just love the company that even I could get better opportunities outside it, I don't grab them. It is really unfair for us that's why I was so devastated. My husband and I are praying for the best and for them too. May God touch their heart and soul so that their wrong doings will turn into something good. We are not the only people their trying to pull. We had another office mate and I pity her but I'm proud of her. Because despite the fact that they have done something wrong on her, she still manages to talk to them and smile at them. I wanted to be like her but for now I can't. I know God is cooking something better for us for we never had do harm to anyone just to get by. Thanks for the response, I appreciate it much. Good day!
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
The situation you are in at the moment is normal in almost all companies especially when you have been there for a long time. Everybody gets comfortable with each other that we tend to tell co-workers even the most personal problems. Even friends will try to pull you down when they see that you are starting to get ahead of them whether job related or in your personal circumstances. You can never get rid of these kind of people no matter where you work. If you quit, then you are on the losing end not unless you can afford to do so financially. Think about it and don't rush into a decision.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
yes yahnee, they are everywhere. i really want to move and look fro another job and that triggered by the current situation. i have been faithful to the company, even my husband too. that during our first baby's delivery he is still on the meeting and could not go home yet. thank God, our baby waited her. just thinking of all the sacrifices we had done makes me feel so sad. but again you are right, if we'll quit, they will be happy. we are the loser and so i told my husband to just stay and I know God will never leave us. thanks for the response.
