how often do you tell your children that you love them?

United States
February 7, 2012 10:22am CST
All the time, I hug and kiss them all day everyday, I make sure they know that I love them even after they have been punished I will speak to them and let them know that I still love them no matter what. I think it's important. I grew up not hearing that at all I also wasn't hugged or kissed and in fact I grew up feeling my parents hated me because I was always getting yelled at for even the littlest things, there are times I got in trouble for things that I didn't do and when my parents realized that they were wrong they never said sorry, instead said well I guess you'll know not to do that. now I'm 28 years old my relationship with my parents is not great. I don't want that for my children. I love them dearly and in fact when I yell at them or put them in timeout (they are under 8 years old) I feel terrible.
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• United States
7 Feb 12
I tell my kids I love them all day every day. I tell them with words, looks, smiles, embraces, time, etc. When my daughter was learning to speak, "I love you" was one of the first phrases she learned. It melted my heart every time she said it. I knew that it was merely a learned phrase and that she was parroting it back to me after I said it to her, but it sounded so sweet. Then, when she was about 3 years old, she looked straight at me, out of the blue and said "Mommy, I love you." It was the greatest moment of my life. My daughter had learned to express her love. Now my son is just over 1 year and I can't wait to start that process again!
• United States
7 Feb 12
oh I know the feeling, one day out of no where my now 5 year old which at the time was about 3 grabbed me around my leg to hug me and said I love you mommy, it brought tears to my eyes so dang sweet! :)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
I love my son. I may hurt him sometimes , but I do really love him. Love can't be measured on how often you utter the word I love you to them, It's on how you show it to them and care for them.
• United States
7 Feb 12
excatly like I stated giving hugs and kisses often, the caring for them and providing for them goes without saying.
• United States
9 Feb 12
I tell my son that I love him all the time. I tell him every single day. I hug and kiss him everyday too. I come from a loving family so I've continued to be loving to my family. I think it's good to let your children know that you love them very much and care for them very much. And I like for my son to tell me that he loves me and I love it when he hugs me. He's 5 so I know there will be days when he gets mad at me but I will know that he still loves me.
• Philippines
9 Feb 12
My son is only about 2 years old and we as parents tell him that we love him so much many times a day. Since he's just a kid, their are times when we get mad at him but we try to negate it by showing him that we really love him. Hugging and kissing were always there. I am aiming that these actions will continue until he gets older or probably when he will be the one complaining. :)
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
9 Feb 12
Well, I am only tell to my kid often time. My kid I talk to each other like a friend and sometimes I remind him why he did not tell "I love you" to me since when she is a child he always said it to me...? But I don't mind about it. As far as I know he loves me with my kid
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
8 Feb 12
One day I wrote a letter to my children. They are grown and gone from the house now but I wouldn't change a word of it to this day; I will always love you. I can only teach you what I believe is right. I know I can't control you so I won't even try. You can take what I've taught you and do with it what you will. I will always support you until you should be doing it for yourself.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
7 Feb 12
i tell them every time they leave to go to school or anything else, in fact, any time they leave me. they are both girls and one is 14 and the other 18 and they both tell me that they love me (and their father as well.)
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
7 Feb 12
When I get upset with one of my daughters, ages 29 and 23, I always think of what a very special friend told me........love them anyway. Which I do, no matter what. But, I tell them, I love them, I might not 'like' them or like what they are doing or did, but I will always love them, no matter what. Now, with both grown and one living in another state, I tell them I love them every time we talk on the phone.
@lilybug (21109)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I tell my kids I love them at least once a day. Today while watching television my daughter(who is 5) hopped up on my lap, hugged me and told me that I was the "best mama ever". I asked her if she knew that I loved her and she said yes she loves me too. Then she went bouncing into the other room to tell her 12 year old brother that she loved him and gave him a hug. He hugged her back and told her that he loved her too. My 12 year old hugs me every chance he gets and although he is at that rebellious pre-teen stage right now he tells me he loves me back when I tell him.
@salonga (27786)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
A child needs loving gesture - Loving a child
Well dear that's very good. You seemed to have been deprived of love when you were a kid but this did not discourage you from becoming a better parent. Sadly, there are parents who repeat the wrong things they experienced in their childhood so the wrong things can't be put to an end for it keeps repeating in every generation. But you did better because instead of repeating the bad history you made a change by giving your children what you did not get from your parents. Great! I must say your children are blessed enough to have you as a Mom. Hugging and kissing the children reassures them they are loved and secured. Children should not be deprived of these loving gestures because these help them become confident and secured while growing. When they become parents chances are they will repeat these good gestures on their children. Yelling at the child is not good. Even if they commit mistakes yelling at them will not help. Yes we can always spank them if necessary but yelling is not at all advisable. It is better to just explain the child the mistakes he did and that he should not repeat lest he gets punished.
@julia28 (140)
• India
7 Feb 12
All the time ! I agree with you kidz need lots of attention ,children should be treated with lots of love and affection. Positive parenting without physical abuse is necessary for better mental growth of child.Children are screaming for attention from parents , shower them love as much as possible , listen to their needs .Children do what they see their parents do.Parents should be co operative , tolerant and share collective responsibility.
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 12
I agree children need to hear it and need to know their loved... I did not hear or feel it much as a child either. I got yelled at a lot and I did not get much affection at all. My dad has hugged me two times my whole life! I tell my kids constantly how much I love them. I am always hugging and kissing them. Even when their in trouble they know I love them I just did not like their actions... My kids know I love them more than anything!
@thetis74 (1525)
7 Feb 12
Oh I really cannot count how many times in a day I tell them I love them even to my five months old girl. I say sorry when I raise a voice to my five-year old when I scold her and for that she also learned to say sorry when she makes a little mistake. It is good to know that you are very good to your children. We really can't help yelling sometimes. But it is always good to remember that talking to them nicely is a much better idea. Keep up being up the good work of being a good parent. And it is good to keep up also, with telling them how much we love them and hug them as many times as we can.
@sishy7 (27216)
• Australia
8 Feb 12
All the time and in every situation. Even if it's not in the form of hug & kiss (my teenage sons run away when I try to kiss them), parents have to show they love them by how they interact, care, and respect their children.