Baby names don't go.

By C
@ShyBear88 (59342)
Sterling, Virginia
February 7, 2012 8:50pm CST
Last night I was posting to a group of pregnant moms about the names me and my husband have been thinking about for our second child. We have already came up with Joseph as a boy name. Are oldest is a girl name Madison and we are stuck between two girl names. Either Rachel Michelle or Kaylee Elizabeth. Someone said that Madison doesn't flow well with the other two girl names. I was thinking why would care if my first born name goes well with the others child name. All we want is the first and middle name to go well with our last name. We like both names its just that the both of us like two different names more then one. My husband likes Rachel more and I like Kaylee more. What do you all think? Should your kids names flow together from one child to the other?
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8 responses
• United States
8 Feb 12
That is just a really weird thing to say. "Rachael" is a lovely name. I dislike the American tendency to drop the "a" in the name, but that's just me. When I see the name "Rachel," I tend to want to pronounce it the way it is pronounced in Hebrew, rather than the way it is in American English. I'm not fond of "Kaylee" in general. Now definitely isn't a good time for it, unless you really want your daughter to bear the name of an accused child killer. It doesn't matter if it's a "k" instead of a "c"; the pronunciation is the same, and it's simply too close in spelling. Some think that "Kaylee" may have been derived from the Hebrew name "Kelila" (others think that it was pretty much randomly made up; personally, I'm of the latter camp). I would suggest considering that as a possibility. Of course, "Rachael Elizabeth" would be a nice combination; it would be a decent compromise between the two. "Kelila Elizabeth" would be a love name as well.
• United States
8 Feb 12
That should read "lovely name as well." I'm dropping letters here.
• United States
9 Feb 12
timetravel, that it was. I'm wondering if I'm coming down with something, because my brain has been feeling extra foggy the past couple days. Hmm... Maybe I shouldn't type while getting sick... Still like Kelila better, though.
• United States
9 Feb 12
Caylee was the baby's name. The mother was "Casey"!
• United States
8 Feb 12
You don't have to do what Kris Kardashian did! I think all the names you mentioned are good. I'm hoping it is a boy so Hubby can have a son.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
No I don't want all of my kids having the same first letter of there names also that is a Dugger thing and I don't do that. I'm hoping its a boy too just to prove hubby wrong and also its a different experiences when you have a little boy then a little girl. You raise them the same way but you get to do different actives some times with them that the other some doesn't want to do or try.
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• United States
10 Feb 12
ShyBear is correct. When I was born my mom wanted a girl , my dad a boy. In a way they got both. I was never into All the girly girl stuff. I had dolls but I also had a cool tiny car garage. So you never know.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
I know sarah she is a lot like me we are both kind of tom boyish she is more then I am. So yes some times boys will do things girls will not and other times some girls enjoy doing certain boy actives. There is a slight differences in how you raise treat them some times. I do also think some times parents assume that a boy should act like a boy and a girl act like a girl. I don't think they have to but if that is there personality that is all fine with me.
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@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 12
Congratulations on your pregnancy news. I think that Madison and Joseph would sound nice together. So too would Madison and Rachel Michelle or Madison and Kaylee Elizabeth. I know a lady called Elizabeth Joyce. She hates the name Elizabeth and calls herself Joyce. How about Kaylee Rachel? That one might appeal to you and your husband perhaps. I like to have my kids names beginning with a different letter. When I was a child I was friends with Tracey and her sister was called Tiffany. When a letter arrived for Miss T then both of them wanted to open it. I know a lady that has three daughters and each has a name beginning with A. Whilst I wouldn't have chosen that for my family the names sound sweet. My kids are called Amber, Leo and Ryan. Good luck naming your baby when he or she is born.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Feb 12
People did suggested that and I hate and it doesn't go with the family tradition of using a family name as either the firs or middle name. Rachel and Kaylee or both none families. Elizabeth and Michelle are so the first name and middle aren't bring switched around in any other order. They stay the way they are weather my child like's it or not that is the name given to them, they can have us all them something else later on in life. I'm sure we will settle on something before the baby is born.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
8 Feb 12
Hi ShyBear, first let me say congrats to you and your hubby.. This is one of the mose ridiculous things I have ever hears. and maybe I feel like this because I am from the old school and believe in giving a name to a child that you have decided to give...WHat the heck is name flowing...that really sound a little wierd.. I think you should choose either one or the other names that you have picked..forget the flow,,, Now I an going to throw some mess in the game, I like both of your picked names but what about Rachel Elizabeth or Kaylee Michelle...? HHHUUUMMM
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I just seen your post bjc and had to laugh. (I guess I really should read all the posts before I respond. I tend to just read the original poster and respond, then go back to read other posts). I said the same thing about changing the names around. Great minds think alike, huh?
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
When I say name flow I mean they sound good together when you say them out loud. I don't think each of every body's kids have to have there names sound good together. If you think the name the first middle and last name go well or even if only two go together and it makes you happy then it's good. Each individual child having first names that go well together I couldn't care less when it comes to that. I don't like the middles switched around they don't work well together when you add in the last name. We have always like Rachel Michelle and Kaylee Elizabeth together. It was easier with our daughter we automatically both like the name Madison and the middle name we picked for her. That's okay Deedee most people don't read what others say and it doesn't bother me if people say the same thing. I might change around what I say when I get there but that is just me.
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
12 Feb 12
I did want my kids' first and middle names to go together. I never gave much thought to the the names going with the last name. strange huh? I was lucky, I guess, I had two boys and could choose amongst the other male names in the families. Had I had a girl, she would have been Heather Christine. It just worked out that all the names worked well with their last name. I am sorry that I can not be of more help. When are you due? If you and your husband can't come to an agreement before the baby is born, I say pull rank, and choose the one that you like best, after all you are the mom! lol.
• United States
8 Feb 12
wow. That's ridiculous. Name your children what you want. Oh, man, I can't get over that LOL! Here are names of siblings in families that I was friends with: (each line is a family of siblings) Roxane, Lori, Shelly, Pam Liola, Joyce, Scott Cody, Chris, Dallas Matthew, Kyle Hunter, Harmony, Keyra I think we, as parents, tend to 'group' our children. Not consciously or intentionally. When parents get together we say "we have 3 kids" "we have 3 girls and 2 boys" You're right to just be concerned with first, middle and last name going together. And even if they don't, it's your choice.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
I know there are families that use the first same letter for there kids or a rhyming thing. We use family names so someone in our family is what we use as either the first or middle name. My daughters middle name is my middle name which comes from my great grandmother and that was her first name. Me and my brothers we where all named after someone in our family and my husband loves that and he wants to keep that kind of going so we try to pick one as either a first or middle name. I don't really like Michelle as a first name but I do love it as a middle name. I like Kaylee as a first name love the name Rachel I think Elizabeth is a pretty name but over used so that is why I wouldn't use it as a first name. As long as the first middle and last name go well together or at least the first and last name go well I'm happy.
• United States
8 Feb 12
ooops! Need to clarify - the reason I wrote all the names was to show that not everyone does the 'flow' thing with all their kid's names.
• United States
23 Apr 12
dear, I really like Kaylee Elizabeth.If you want your children's name to flow together {personaly i don't think this is importent}but if you think this way then i reccommed that if you have a girl to name her Michelle because the names Michelle and Madison flow very well together because they are both "M''s.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Apr 12
No I don't care if the names flow together others care that they do but I don't. A name is just a name weather your kids share a common letters or not or if they sound close together. Me personally oh hell no it aint happening. I don't want my kids with the same first letter unless by chance I like that name. I hate the name Michelle as a first name I would never use it as a first name. I like Madison which is why I picked that name as a first name and my husband liked it. We both like the name Rachel and Kaylee so those are the first names that we are sticking with regardless of how others feelings. I was talking about how others feel the need to give there thoughts to me about my own kids name when its none of there busyness. If they want to know the names I will tell them but other wise I don't care if they think they go together or not or if they feel the names are stupid or should be spelled differently. I like my husband likes them that is what matters. Me and my siblings none of us have flowing names at all. Either does my husbands family kids. Some of them feel that because we live out in the country that it should be the way it should go is having all the kids with same first letter or same sounding name I don't think at least not for me.
• United States
8 Feb 12
I don't understand why they should go together. I didn't really even know people thought of those kinds of things. But I also never understood why it was any business of anyone else's what you name your own children (with the possible exception of asking Great Aunt Ellen if she would mind you naming your daughter after her...or if you ask a trusted friend for their opinion). But just to chime in that they don't like the way kid 1's name and kid 2's name don't flow well together... No one's business but your own.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
I really don't care what people think of my kids name if they don't like it that's fine but you don't have to tell me that there names don't go together. Who tries to make your first born child name go well with there second child's name? That to me seems odd but if that is what they like that is cool with me. I don't ask people if its okay if I use there name for my kid if they don't like it too bad. A name is a name and lots of people have the same name. I get asked my other moms if I like such and such name and I'll say yes or no but I never tell them not to use it.
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I like the name Joseph for a boy (my oldest son's middle name is Joseph). I think both girls' names are pretty, but I think that the Rachel Michelle has too many repetitive sounds in it. I think I would change it around to either Kaylee Michelle and or Rachel Elizabeth. I realize that this does not solve your problem of deciding between Rachel and Kaylee. I am like you, I did not care about my kids names matching. I wanted the first and middle names to sound well with the last name. I certainly don't think my kids names needed to match or flow with the other kids' names.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
Well when you change them around they don't go well with our last name at all. My first name and middle name have a repetitive sound and some times that is good thing to have names like that. For my daughter Nicole was the only name that went well with Madison and our last name.