Of all people, why is it my mom cannot understand what I really want?

If you are doing what you want and are happy right now, you are doing good. It's too bad that your mom thinks her way is better. I think I might know where she's coming from. She's experienced more and knows what 'could have' been for her. Like most parents, she doesn't want you to fail and she doesn't want to watch you fail. Even though parents know it makes people stronger, we don't like to see family members struggle. She probably just wants you to be in a job that is completely stable and secure. Are you enjoying the challenges of owning your own business? Maybe you could tell her what you like about it and why you like doing it. Maybe she needs reassurance that you have thought this through. Do you have strategies to get more business? Do you have strategies in case something doesn't work? She's a mom. Children, no matter what age, are excited to tell their parents about new adventures. Parents sometimes, have 'done that, been there'. They have too much information. Do you feel like you can talk to her again? Maybe it's just not a topic that either of you should bring up when you are together. Don't get to the point where you resent her, or she resents you. Enjoy the time you have together. If she tries to impose her job ideas on you, do you feel comfortable enough to say (in your own words) "Mom, I respect your ideas, and I hope that you will respect mine. This is what I have chosen to do." I had to put some distance between my mom and myself awhile back for very similar reasons. I didn't want to, but she wouldn't let up on her advice for me. Since then, she hasn't brought it up except to ask how it's going. I just give a 1 - 3 word answer and we leave it at that.

Remember always that mother knows best. Their is something to be done. Follow first your mother, then tell her about the things or plan that gives you happy. Parents is the guidance of all children. Maybe she have seen things that are not good. Hear first the suggestion of your mom, and tell her what you want.

The simple answer.....because she is your mom (this coming from a mom of two grown daughters) However, your mom needs to realize that you are an adult, that you have obviously thought this through, and that she needs to let you make your own decisions, and whether you succeed or fail, it was your choice. There is that moment in a daughter's life that a mom has to come to the terms with the reality that she is an adult, and can make her own decisions, and will make mistakes, but who hasn't. For some moms they want to live the life they missed out on or were afraid to attempt, through their children, even though it is their dream and not the daughter's. Good luck, and go with your dream, your choice, even though she doesn't understand or thinks she has better plans for you. If you don't, you will end up regretting it, and in time you can prove to her that it was a good choice. Good luck

Actually not matter how old are us, inside our mother's eye, we are always a child to her. I think your mother is worrying about you, so she wish that you could have a normal job and stable job. For me, i also fly here fly there, seldom stay in my country, even i am not stay together with my family, but my mother also wish that i could have a stable job and can stay at home. What for that is just worrying about us, i think you should not be upset, but you have to explain slowly to your mother. Just take some time to comfort your mother, i think she will understand one day later. Happy mylotting

Moms just want the best for their children and sometimes this can be so different than what the child wants in some cases. Either one or the other doesn't see it as a good choice and conflicts will come about. Still, if you're given the chance to prove yourself worthy of your decision you should have the right to. Do what you think makes you happy, no one else can live your life for you, and only you can take the responsibility for your own actions once you are an adult. My parents have not always been supportive of my decisions either and there have been both good and bad ones I have made. I think the ones they haven't been supportive of have been life saving for me in ways but in some other ways not, too.