Awful night out
By GreenMoo
@GreenMoo (11833)
February 11, 2012 1:22am CST
My family and I were invited by a friend to go to his house for dinner last night. It's not often we get out, and it's doubly nice to be able to take the kids along and not have to worry about finding someone to take care of them, so I was quite looking forward to it.
Unfortunately, it turned into the evening from hell. I can laugh about it now, but I couldn't wait to get out of there last night.
Our host has an apartment in his Mum's house, but she works away most of the time and just comes home perhaps once a week. My partner realised that there was something amiss early yesterday evening when he met her coming home on the bus and she didn't know we were going round later.
Anyway, when we showed up he hadn't started cooking. He's obviously had a bit to drink and he and his Mum were arguing over the best way to cook. Our friend is appalling rude to his mother, and it sets my teeth on edge. So we sat there, in this tiny kitchen, whilst they argued back and forth and my kids got more and more tired and grumpy. Eventually our host got fed up of his Mum interfering in the cooking and left her to it, taking my partner off to show him some DIY he'd done. OK, but it left me alone with the Mum, who have nothing to talk about to whatsoever and I find it really hard to understand. I'm sure she thinks I'm a complete idiot as I am forever having to ask her to repeat herself.
When dinner was eventually ready our host insisted on handing around drinks and opening more wine. He'd obviously already had a skinful and his Mum was quite rightly trying to stop him. At one point she took away his full glass of wine and chucked it down the sink, at which point he started swigging out of the bottle instead. He also poured beer into my youngest son's glass of iced tea by accident (I drank it so as not to cause more of a scene, not bad!).
Anyway, as soon as I could politely get away I claimed that I had to get the little one home to bed and we made our escape. Great food, amusing to look back on, but a very uncomfortable evening's hospitality.
I'm guessing our friend didn't know his Mum would be coming back last night, and to give her her due she was suffering with terrible toothache and was very tolerant and hospitable under the circumstances.
Have you any horror dinner invite experiences?
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15 responses
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
11 Feb 12
Just reading your description of your night out has got my head to ache. What was supposed to be a happy evening could disintegrate into such a mess. But of course that is life. I am sure your host didn't mean it to go that way. It was just one of those days I guess.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
11 Feb 12
mine wasn't that bad. we had invited a family over to do a bbq. their little girl has a crush on my children's brother. she was following him every room he'd go to. this made my mother upset as the little girl wouldn't give my nephew any attention. when thekids would try to play with my nephew and his toys, my mother would stay in the room to make sure that they wouldn't do any fighting. when you put a 5yr old, 6yr old and an 8yr old together, there's going to be arguments. that's just a part of them growing, but my mother didn't see that way. she quickly reminded the other two that these toys belonged to my nephew and that they needed to share all the toys. she was being downright rude!
our friend was kind enough to share their capri sun with my nephew. he promptly got the straw in the pouch and started to squirt the juice everywhere!!!! when the pouch was taken away from him, my mother got mad! i don't blame my friends for taking it away from him. that's disciplining the boy and it's meant to be drank and not to be wasted. but they ended up leaving before dinner was completely finished and have told us that they would wait till my mother sister and nephew have moved out of the house before coming back over to visit. so now, we go to their house.
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@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Feb 12
Yeah, well, the story might be different after next Saturday (Feb 18). My friend insists I should do something special for my 60th birthday, so has invited some of my relatives to join us for dinner at a buffet restaurant...
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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12 Feb 12
Moral of the story. He should get his own flat! LOL. I have had embarrassing nights but the wors was the week that I turned up for supper a week early. The hostess poked her head out of the bedroom window (fetching shower cap I recall) and we had a long conversation that resulted in me buying a takeawy and the three of us (her husband joined us of course) eating it in the kitchen. They still had me to supper on the right day!
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
26 May 12
Hiya GM,
Your Friend being so rude to his Mom would have made me feel quite angry although I would not have said anything not being my place to say it at all.
Very difficult to find yourself in such a situation you don´t know whether to go home or stay and try to help and just see it through do you?
I think that you handled it very well and his poor Mom with a raging toothache on top poor woman.
Once a certain person invited me to her House to eat and I gladly accepted.
I got quite dressed up as I had not been out in ages as well and looked forward to it.
Was I the one wishing that I had not even bothered to go a while after I got there to her House.
What she did was to serve the Supper but at the same time she started picking flies with her Husband and asking me is´nt that right Sue?
To tell you the truth I did not know which way to look apart from the food being practically cold anyway she was trying to get me into an argument against her Husband and me trying to save the situation was making light of it all I could.
Every minute she was insulting him verbally and being sarcastic I just wanted to crawl under the table.
Luckily I managed to get her to change her tune. I decided that they must have had a bad night and put it down to that.
Of course I never ever wanted to go there again under those kind of circumstances not on your nelly.
Was one of the worst nights out I have ever had and don´t want to repeat it.xxx
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
27 May 12
Hiya GM,
You know I do believe that she did do that but I cannot understand why she wanted to do that because we were such very good friends.
I say we were because she turned funny and strange and from that time on it was really hard to please such a friend all the time so in the end I gave up.
I wish her well and all the luck but to go to eat at someone´s house you don´t start dragging out all your dirty washing do you I mean in front of everyone you know.
I felt sorry for her Husband as well it was because of him I went as soon as I could in the hope she would leave him alone.
You sure had to put up with a lot that night really unusual thing to happen as well.xxx
@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
12 Feb 12
When I read "we made our escape",I come near laughing.I can imagine how awkward you were at that time when the host argued with his Mum about cooking.I think the farce stemed from the host having a bit to drink.He seems to be a slavish drinker and he obviously forgot himself in his cups at that point.To be fair,your friend is the type of person that keeps open house.
@GreenMoo (11833)
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13 Feb 12
I couldn't get out of there fast enough!
But I didn't mention this bit earlier ..... our friend actually followed us out to the truck as we were loading up and asked if he could come back to ours. He did of course, but I claimed I had to put the kids to bed and left him outside with my partner.
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
11 Feb 12
A long time ago when I was a kid my dad had this cousin who was married to a woman I think was half nuts....We went for dinner and the food was aweful...we tried to eat it but just couldn't for dessert she served stewed tomatoes with whipped cream on top...our mother let us take them outside where we all promptly dumped them behind the barn...it was gross.....we didn't stay long after dinner...my mother was too stressed and we were all hungry as the food was so bad!
@Blondie2222 (28610)
• United States
11 Feb 12
Sorry you had to experience that last night, that must of been horrible not just for you but for your kids as well. I'm sure your friend feels bad as well for the way he and his mom acted while having you guys over. Has he at least apologized to you yet? Hopefully next time he invites you over things will go much smoothly and less dramatic. Sorry you had to go thru that.
@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
11 Feb 12
A relative once invited us to her house. When we arrived she was surprised to see us. Seems to me that she forgot. Being polite, we didn't said a word and left around an hour after that (mom couldn't help to chit chat and she really love to talk). Of course we're hungry so we stopped at a stall nearby to grab a bite.
Then, a different relative this time suddenly called asking us to come over to her house to eat. She only live near my house. So I went earlier with my younger brother. Turn out she's having a party. Not a small one. I was need to help to prepare and serve the food. She should've told me earlier! I help to serve some of the food and then excuse myself.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
12 Feb 12
That's a funny story GreenMoo! A bit uncomfortable, specially in your case being the guests, but quite funny.
The only dinner invite-story I have is from our neighbor (it isn't quite as funny). Every year at around Christmas time they would invite us for dinner. It's become sort of a tradition. But in the past few years, their family has become 'healthy', and I think they may have banned salt in their house.
I couldn't say no when they invite, but my kids would always complain because 'the food doesn't taste good there'. It's a bit comical trying to smile, and trying to convince my kids to also smile as we eat our food.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
11 Feb 12
I remember a vacation at the seaside years ago with a friend and out two kids. It turned out that a guy that I knew had a summer house in the same village. He was there with his little daughter, a friend, and his mother. Later I understood why his wife was not there. One day he invited us to have a dinner in the house. It was a nice evening, we chatted and laughed on the terrace and the kids were playing around. Suddenly the old lady appeared and said that it was time for the little girl to go to bed. She was feeling good with our daughters and the father had no problem with this. His mother made a terrible scene and finally he almost chased her in the house.
But your story seems stranger. Why don't you try to sell it as an idea for a scenario?
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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12 Feb 12
this story was hilarious! i actually really did laugh out loud haha. i've had some bad and uncomfortable experiences but this was amazing lol! and one of the funniest stories i've read on mylot. i could actually feel your uncomfort through your words haha.
could i ask one thing though? what did you end up eating? lol!
@mariab2000 (740)
• Canada
11 Feb 12
Thank god I haven't had any such bad dinner experiences so far. I can understand what you must have gone through and felt last night. However, it is nice of your friend's mother to be so tolerant and hospitable even with a bad toothache and not being aware of any guests coming over beforehand. I guess your friend should have been a better host if he had decided to invite you and your family over for dinner. Anyways, it is good that everything eventually ended nicely and you had a nice amusement on behalf of your friend and his mother.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
Oh yes, once. She invited us in her home to eat, coz its fiesta. But when we get there she has no reaction, she only asked, why are you here? And then she left and went to their neighbour house and watched TV. In that moment I want to burn their house ! Arghhh
