Getting very angry with my friend

It seems that you and I have something in common. We both hate to see injustice. So what would I do... First, if its illegal, report it. I don't see that here. Second, and more difficult, never get involved in something when there's no possibility of a positive outcome from my involvement. Too many times I've jump into a situation believing I was standing against something wrong, only to realize after the damage was done, that nothing I did, ever had a chance of improving anything. Now sometimes there was a chance of something good coming from it, but the choices of others ruined it. That's not what I'm talking about. I mean like jumping in and saying something, which only made me the enemy, and the situation didn't improve. So in those situations, I just stay out. Jumping in where you can succeed at nothing, will only gain you the reputation as a busy body, who jumps into other people's business. This will actually hurt you later on, when you really can do something good, because everyone when they see you coming will automatically assume here comes the busy body. Your credibility in future intervention will be harmed. Third, if you can do something positive, are you sure you are fighting for the right cause? Another humbling experience was defending people who should not have been defended. After being told things, I stuck my flag in the ground so to speak, and only after defending it found out that everything I was told, wasn't true. We don't know what this babies mother is really like, or what situation we would be defending that baby to be in. Unless you know for absolutely certain, it's possible some actions made lead the baby to a far worse life. Fourth, are you prepared for the consequences of stepping in? This is a sticky part. Some people jump into a situation, and then when the heat turns on, try and back out. You can't do that. Like a one-way door, once through, you can't go back, but you can ruin your reputation and gain many enemies. A person who jumps into a situation will always make an enemy. But if they stand for what is honorable and true, they will gain friends. But a person who jumps in, creating enemies, and then tries to back out, will gain no friends. Who wants to be friends with someone who once challenged, backs down? Conclusion If you determine what you are doing is right, and that perhaps something good will come from it, and that whatever consequences that come you are willing to deal with... I would do the following: Confront April. How would you want to be treated if the situation was reversed? I personally would want someone to come to me first before running around talking about me. Just tell her that you are uncomfortable with what she is doing, and that you wish that she would stop. That what she is doing is evil. If she refuses, or rationalizes her behavior, I would inform her that your friendship is over, that you will call the mother of the child, and assist in whatever way possible. Even if you determine that you should not interfere, it seems clear that she is being evil, and I would end the relationship with her. Not as punishment on her, but rather it is the best for you. Research shows that we end up exactly like our closest friends. Evil rubs off. We like to believe that we are so much above the influence of others, it simply isn't true. Try and remember that April is a scared little girl, holding on to whatever she thinks will make her happy. She does not understand that her actions are the cause of her pain.

I think it's wrong to shout to the world that she's the mother of the child. No matter how you look at it, the real mom has more right than hers. And based on what you said, calling twice a day to check the baby is a sign that the mother really cares for her child. It's a mother's natural instinct. On my opinion, since you guys are friends, I think you should first tell your friend that what she is doing is wrong because she's not the real mother and that you are really concern for the baby. Make her understand what you really feel and the consequences of what they are doing right now. If it fails and if you want to take a risk, then go try talking to the real mother and tell her everything.

hi xmichelletarax please get to the babys mom and tell her what you have told us.nobody has the right to take a two week old baby from its mom at all unlesss she is infut and thats not been decided,Help the mom to get a good lawyer and to fight for her rights. those two do not sound like fit parents for the moms little baby.I think a judge with any brains would find for the baby's real mom. No its not horrible to save a good mom from losing her baby to an unfit woman like April.when she acts like that how can you still call her friend.Help her the baby's momn please and let us know how this turns out. I amn rooting for the mom. I