I hate it when other people disappoint my kids!

It's a shame when kids are let down by other people (especially grownups!) You can use it as a learning experience for your son, depending on what happened. She may have had your number wrong, or her phone might have gotten broken... who knows? My opinion is that you should respond in the way you'd like to see your son respond. If you give her a piece of your mind, you can expect him to handle other people by giving them a piece of his whenever they let him down, which could be a good thing or bad one, depending on how tactful he learns to be.

I feel really sad for your kid. I know the feeling of such disappointment. I have felt it many times when I was expecting someone. We are living in advance technology now - a single sms or even a minute of calling you just to say they have cancelled it is better than just make people hope and wait for nothing.

Rude and hurtful. Not sure what I would say.

Oh...that burns me up. My children have been disappointed by others like that too in the past. I consider it very rude and would never do that to a child. I mean...at least call. I know that things come up but unless their fingers are broken I don't think there is any reason a child should be left hanging like that. When I saw her again, if it were me, I would just say..very nicely...that he had been very excited about the trip and was disappointed not to have had a call. I might also let her know that you were worried because people usually call when something comes up out of respect so you knew it must have been very serious. She'll get the picture. It might even be a lesson in manners that she will take to heart and perhaps not do it to another child.

Grrrrrr. These are the kinds of people I say "talk out of their butts". They say they will make plans with you, but they're just saying it . . . they don't really intend to follow through (and they don't see anything wrong with it). It bothers me to no end when my own friends are like this, but I hate it when other people do this to my kids. Sometimes my daughters friends will come up to me and say they want her over to play today or Friday or whatever - and I simply tell them to have their mom talk to me and we'll make a plan. Well, most likely nothing comes out of it - but at least I didn't make any promises. But I've seen it where my daughter does the same thing - she goes up to another parent - but some will say "Yes, yes, you can come over on Friday" - but then they give me this look like "yah, right". My daughter tends to remember these little details about plans, so she will get disappointed. I hate that some of these parents just think and hope that the kids will forget about these plans that they make (one parent even told me that - that he just says things just to appease them at the moment). I don't like that at all. So what happened on Monday? I guess if I saw them, I would have asked (calmly) about what happened . . . that you did wait for the call at noon and that you did try calling them after that . . . and hey, that IS the truth! They could have called - even just to say it was called off or whatever - that would have been the polite thing to do.

Children love to celebrate,have fun and enjoy with other kids.We can't guess what might have happened to those people's proposal.They might have stuck up with some emergency and had no time to inform u about the change of plan.But whatever may be the reason,it would have been nice if u have called them instead and find out what happened actually...Kids get disappointed for even small things,we need to explain them and make them better understand the situations.We can try to bring them out of that disappointment by planning for something which interests them a lot.

I'd keep it simple and to the point, 'the kids were really disappointed when you didn't get in touch yesterday. Have you decided to reschedule the movie?' I'd be cross too.

I hate to say it, but the way it sounds maybe the mother invited your son a bit hastily and the son of the mother who invited your son told his mom that he didn't much like your son. Now I'm not saying that's what happened, but that's almost what I'd be thinking, okay well that is what I'm thinking. Either way there's a polite way to say "oh well we've changed plans" or something!

I have gotten to the point where I do not tell my daughter about anything unless I know it's a guarantee. Not only is SHE disappointed if something falls through, *I* am not just disappointed, I am ANGRY because people should never make promises they don't keep. If things come up, yes, you SHOULD definitely contact the other people you are letting down and explain why and apologize. These days, people don't even RSVP and that's a huge pain when you plan a party where the total cost is dependent on the number of guests you expect, or you have to give the venue an answer prior to the event on the number for catering purposes. Nothing is as frustrating as having extra people show up that you could not accurately plan for because people did not mention they were bringing extra children or perhaps several additional adults came - not having ENOUGH food or goodie bags is just as bad as having TOO MUCH because you expected 20 people and only had 12 show up! If I plan to do something with another person and I commit to it, I will do it no matter what unless I'm dying of something. If I'm running late, I'll call or text the other person and TELL them I'm running late. If I get lost, same thing. There is no excuse for not following through, and ignoring the fact instead of apologizing is only adding insult to injury!

I do hate this sort of thing, and it has happened to me so many times I lost count. It started when I was like 5 or 6.. a friend arranged a sleep over. I got dropped off at her house, and she wasn't even home. She ended up sleeping over somewhere else. Then when I was like 12 or something a friend was having a party and going skating first. Apparently they left for skating early because when I got there everyone was already gone and I sat at her house waiting for them to come back. I'm so used to these sorts of disappointments that I've grown accustomed to never telling my kids anything before it happens. If we make plans to do something, I don't tell them until we're there. If someone tries to set up a plan or play date, I don't say a thing until moments before it's supposed to happen when I am absolutely positive it's a sure thing. I have one friend who's so unreliable about these sorts of things. She doesn't normally break play dates, but she is forgetful and always late. Friday she promised to come visit me at work and open an account with us and never showed.. but I expected that. Normally when we make plans with the kids, we will plan to meet at a playground or something. So I'll go and not tell the kids we're meeting them.. we just go and play. She's never actually not shown up when we've made these plans.. but she has always been late each and every time!

that is not so nice. i would definitely get disappointed, too, seeing how it affected my kid. the next time we see each other, i would ask if they went to see the movie. from that point you will hear the reason. you can always say all the niceties but i think the person has to know how it affected your son.

It is life that people will disappoint us and yes the kids need to learn this and how to deal with it. I think sometimes it is harder on us though. Yeah they are upset but we are ticked that we let others do something to upset our kids even when it is no fault of our own.

Being a parent herself she should know that it is so bad to disappoint a kid! What if her kid is the one at the receiving end of such treatment? I would say try to sort things out with her and find out what happened. If it's because she didn't know the impact of her action, or due to some misunderstanding, she should personally apologize to your son and try to make it up to him. Whatever the case, I hope you yourself are taking this opportunity to talk to your son and make him feel better, you will increase the bond between yourselves.

I really hate it when people, much more parents, do something like this to children. Kids are so pure-hearted, innocent, and some (I would like to think, most) really hang on and believe to every word that adults and parents say. Failed promises and the consequent disappointments only lead to kids slowly thinking that things like appointments and promises can be broken. Not such a good thing in my book, if you ask me.

When someone dissapoints a child it really makes me mad. Its one thing if someone dissapoints me but when they do it to a child it really is awful. I've had this happen to my kids a lot and it really makes me mad. I understand where you are coming from. I'm sorry that your child had to go through this. Next time if this parent says they want to get together tell them how disspointed your child was last time and that you dont want that to happen again.

Awesomely rude of them if u ask me, sweetie. I won't give them the benefit of the doubt at all. I find it disgusting when people disappoint others like that. Sorry, just my way of thinking.

For me that is unacceptable. Not just kid but for all people. Whenever we can't make it, we should call and not make the people wait for us. We don't have time to wait for people the whole day. Let me share something that happen to me last week. I put my single door refrigerator for sale at the price of MYR300. So this lady call and want it for MYR280. I agree and she tell me she will come and pick it on Thursday night to pick it. I wait for her and for more than an hour and she didn't even call me. So I text her if she coming, than she told me she couldn't make it that night and she will come the next night. So the friday night I wait for her again. I ask her if she will come, she tell she will call. Then, the whole night didn't get a news from her. The next morning she want me to sent the refrigerator to her home, I just say I sold it to other people because I'm angry already. Than on Sunday I manage to sold it for MYR300. It is my gain and her lose.

Every parents will hate those people who disappoint our child. But sometimes we may not know what will happen so before we hate those people we must know their side too. If you feel that your child was disappointed then you should've make it on your own to make your son happy.

Aww, that's so sad and what makes it worse is that there's nothing you could've done. The parent who invited your kid should've made an effort to call and let you know if the plans were cancelled or not. This put you in a position where you couldn't do anything but sit by and watch the disappointment. I'd definitely bring it up the next time you see her. Maybe not be too rude about it because you don't want to ruin a friendship for your kids. But just let her know that your kid really wanted to go and waited around all day to hear something.

I hate it also when my kid is disappointed like this too. I can understand your kid was all eager and excited to go watch the movie and have fun but he must have felt sad when they didn't call. Even if there was something that came up, they should have given you a call so that you could explain it to your son and so that you din't wait for them. That would have been the right thing for them to do but they didn't do it. I would certainly talk to them once and ask politely if everything is ok since they didn't call to go to the movies. You could say that my son was looking forward to the movie but I'm sure something must have come up for you not to call us and inform us of the cancelling of the program. She would get the idea...