to hold on or to let go?

February 12, 2012 4:57pm CST
both seemed difficult especially if relationship is in crisis. which is which? to hold on or to let go?
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7 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
12 Feb 12
I guess every situation is different, and if there are children involved, although having children is not usually a good reason to stay if both parties are so unhappy, but as I look at it to a point the best gift you can give your children is their parents so long as things are not too bad. But if things are really bad it is best to move on.
12 Feb 12
i agree with you as well than staying in a very unhealthy relationship.
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 12
Some people do stay in a bad relationship for the sake of the children not knowing that by being in a bad relationship, they're setting an example for their children that people can be helpless when it comes to relationship. But some people feel that by staying in a relationship, they're trying to teach their children that relationship is something one has to work hard at and it's not easy.
@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
12 Feb 12
It much depends on the type of relationship. If it´s just a boyfriend or a girlfriend, I´d say probably most of the time it is better to let go. But if the relatioship is more serious with children involved or many years of living together, there are other things to take inot consideration.
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 12
Yes, considerations have to be taken into account of the effect of a divorce or separation would do on the children.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
13 Feb 12
You would have to provide additional details for anyone to be able to help. No one knows your situation or that which you are inquiring about. Therefore we can't really offer a solution for the matter. Good luck with whatever it is that you're going through.
@goodkat (63)
• Romania
13 Feb 12
I would definitely say "let go". Because something that requires a lot of compromise will break down in the end anyway, and you would only feel like you wasted more time than you should have. Which would generally be true. If you don't have kids, LET GO. Find someone who doesn't require as much compromise and sacrifice, and when you do find the (almost) perfect one, you won't need to ask yourself whether to let go or hold on. You will simply be together for good. If you have kids, LET GO as soon as possible. Maybe when your children are still young, so they will be less affected and more likely to adjust to a new parent, in case you meet someone. An tense environment is never a healthy environment for children, so there you go, the best reason to let go.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
if you think your relationship is worth fighting for then keep on holding on but if you think you will just wasting your time, effort and love then let go. it is very difficult to leave each day as if nothing is wrong. sometimes letting go is hard to do but its where you will find the peace of mind you have long lost.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
Do you mean crisis is lack of money?. I think if we really love our family or our partner we must still hold on. If there is lack in financial instead of leaving our partner we must help each other. Because when we love someone we must stick together for better or for worst. I think crisis is just a test in a relationship that need to pass. You need to guide each other and help each other.
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 12
Sometimes it's easy to just let things be the way they are. What's difficult is to decide what to do when a relationship is in crisis - to leave or to carry on. It all depends on each party. If only one wants to work through the relationship and the other refuses to do so, then it's difficult for the relationship to continue. Both parties need to decide together.