Pretty Girls who are Anti-Social?

February 13, 2012 12:26am CST
There's this girl who is GORGEOUS. Looks like she could be a model. I've even heard people ask her if she ever did modeling before. I've seen her walk into a room filled with people before & every guy AND girl will have their eyes on her for at least an instant. You just instantly notice her when she walks into a room. I thought she was a cheerleader when I first saw her (She has a little athletic body & everything) and she always seems to look perfect. Hair fixed, trendy style, cute face, everything. Guys seem to really think she's pretty, but they seem to show her respect (Some girls in college the guys treat like they are sl*ts, & show them no respect. The guys will grab at them & everything. This girl they open doors for her, try to talk to her when ever they can, make her laugh, etc. They don't grab at her, or push up on her at all) Some guys (Even jocks or player guys) won't even talk to her, they'll just stare at her, or say how hot she is every now & then to their guy friends. Girls seem to like her, or want to be her friend (There's been a few I've over heard say they don't like her because she's stuck up, but the only girls I've ever heard say that are girls who ex's or crushes would admit to liking her) She does seem like she has a lot of stuff, especially clothing wise, but she doesn't seem to judge anyone. She'll talk to people who DON'T have money. And she's funny. BUT she seems to have these random moments (And it's not like once or twice a month, it's like a few times a week, or even a DAY) where she will just with drawl from everyone. She'll go into her dorm room & stay in there. She's made friends with people who live around her, but every time they would make plans with her, she wouldn't even show up! She seems to only be around 3 particular people all the time. Two of them don't even go to our school! (Meaning she talks to them on the phone a lot) There are times when people, not always, but sometimes she will give them the cold shoulder (She'll talk to people, but if certain people come talk to her, she just seems to clam up & kind of look away from them. Most of the time I've noticed it when a guy would go talk to her, especially is they got within a foot or two from her) I'm sure she's a little shy, but is this even normal? A drop dead pretty girl being so anti social? (She's never even been in a serious relationship before)
4 responses
@timetravel (1425)
• United States
13 Feb 12
looks can be deceiving! sometimes those gorgeous girls are insecure, wondering if they are liked only for their looks. Plus, sometimes I think they tire of all the attention based on the way they look. Often a girl like that ends up with the nerdy, quiet shy guy who doesn't care about looks but sees her as a person. I think it's more insecurity than shyness. For one thing, looks eventually mature as one ages. And not everyone wants to always be surrounded by people. Sometimes someone just needs a bit of personal space, so the person might withdraw a little until she or he is ready to be with others. Isn't that preferable to the person acting worse? Then again, sometimes the pretty girls are stuck up and anti social. It's all an individual thing.
13 Feb 12
She has guy friends who are nerds, and also jocks. And girl friends who are artistic as well as cheerleaders (Which is why I thought she was a cheerleader). She's never had a serious boyfriend, but the guys I've seen her go out on a date with a pretty hot. It seems like she'll only date guys who have the whole package (Looks, personality, money, etc.) Her best friend is a loud frat guy (He's cute, but loud. You can tell he's a party guy. They look good standing together, look wise, but if you really take time to know them, they're not much a like) This girl will talk in front of a big group of people, and like I said, she's funny and caring. But she does like her personal space. There's only 3 or 4 people she seems to not mind ALWAYS being around. I've known this girl (Or known of her) since we were in first grade. She seems to get prettier every year, but yes, looks do fade with age. She has a kind heart, so that's a plus. I wouldn't say she's 'stuck up', but she can come across as stuck up at times.
• United States
13 Feb 12
It sounds like she grew up "knowing" she was pretty and this probably made her feel "special" in some way. Perhaps she grew up learning to set herself apart from others then. Who knows? Maybe she'll end up one day marrying a sanitation engineer (today's term for trash guy lol...)...or a struggling writer. Sounds like one of those Gossip Girls type t.v. series. She also seems to have lots of male friends - or am I missing something there?
15 Feb 12
I don't think I could ever picture this girl with anything close to a trashy guy! She has standards, that much I know. lol She can pick from nearly every guy at our school. Most of them seem to like her. She does seem to have quite a few guy friends, but then she did grow up with a lot of older brothers. She was a tomboy when we were younger, so I couldn't say she grew up 'knowing' she was pretty. I haven't met a lot of good looking girls that know about cars & sports like she does though. She has a good over all package; looks, personality, brains, etc. She just gets into a rut at times where she wants to be on her own. I want to call it being TOO independent, but I'm not sure if that's the words for it. She's well known, it's just she would have a ton more friends if she wouldn't get into these ruts. It's just odd to me.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
13 Feb 12
I guess you must like that girl a lot too right? Oh well, every pretty girl has her own particular personality I guess. Leave her being, and she has her own lifestyle. We can't make too much judgment on that. From your posting, you must jotting down notes about her everyday activities, and you must stalking her a lot then. Oh well, I hope that you have luck to talk to her, it seems that she is so hard to make friend with.
15 Feb 12
Not exactly, but I do think she's an alright person.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
13 Feb 12
Things are really not what they seem a lot of the time. Of course, that is really not that simple. And naturally, she might have a lot of deep seeded insecurities that can occur with people who are gifted in looks or money or anything. There are times where they almost wonder if people are being nice to them if they want something or anything. I'm sure it is more than normal. Then again, there are going to be times where everyone of all walks of life and all degrees of attractiveness will have one of those days where they don't feel too social. I know that there are just going to be a lot of times where I am going to be like this and I'm sure that looks are not going to stop people from having a bad day.
13 Feb 12
Very true.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Dec 12
hi, Never think of others views, make your own opinion and go ahead if you want to. It seems that you are having little interest in making friendship with this girl , then just go ahead and try to make it in friendly manners only. But mind well, in the first look you think that everything is perfect but afterwards you may find deficiencies,but ignore it being a good friend.Listen to others and do what your mind says and you will succeed. Best luck.