Between parents and children
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
February 14, 2012 4:34am CST
The other day I asked a young woman what college will do. Her response was: "My parents told me to give the medicine." I looked at her confused and I asked "What do you want?". She hesitantly said he would like another college. I looked in pain and I asked her why does not the faculty who would like to do. He promptly said that parents money.
Each of us have hobbies. People who have come forward, reached for what they did, made with passion. If you do what you love, life will feel that you are fulfilled, that something is missing in your life and find no reason for living. Should not be. I was the luckiest daughter in the world because my parents were so loving and encouraged me to work what I love. When nobody believed in me, they thought. I have provided all necessary conditions to follow my passion and I gave all their best to be happy. There are many parents who could not follow their own dreams, thus seeking to fulfill these dreams through their children. In this case, it enters a vicious circle which is difficult to come out. It destroys lives, and people feel more unfulfilled ...
You as a parent, as you invite your children? Respecting their choices and passions that you have? Or looking to live your life that you could not you a living through your children? Young, are supported by yours? Or feel that you live any life, not just yours?
2 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Feb 12
Hi didi
Well there are two different scenarios for this one (as I have been a teacher for past 16 years) - Many a times, the parents cannot afford what the child wants to pursue - I wanted to do Astronomy but we couldnt afford as that time it was expensive. I think I should skip this category as these are more about the financial issues.
The next category is those who can afford. Many a times, the parents are too occupied with their own thoughts and desires. My dad wanted me to join his business (which I did not). But he wanted me to do MBA (I did Political Sciences). The other times, they dont look into the fact that the child will do best in some subject of his/her choice - maybe social views or kind of - ah, it will not be a well paying job.
I have worked in positions and jobs that I always wanted to. I never compromised on what I wanted to do and what I did. Yes, financially I am not that sound but I am better and more important HAPPY and have a Peace of Mind... something rare as I find many suffering and lacking with Peace of Mind.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Feb 12
My daughter is only one so I don't have to worry about college yet. When I was getting ready for college my parents picked school for me to look at that where right for me and my learning disability. But they didn't tell me what one to go to or not go to. They didn't tell me what my major was going to be. I picked that out myself. I love kid's working with them being with them. I wanted to help kids there where like myself. Out of the school's my parents suggested I picked the one that was right for me. My parents didn't think I was going to choice the college I did but they where still pleased with the one I went with. With my own daughter its what ever she wants to do. She'll be 18 when college comes around I might suggested something but I'm going to make her do what she doesn't want to do. If she doesn't want to go to college that is fine with me. It is her choices and I will always remind her if she changes her mind it'll always be there you can always go back you can always change your subjects and your major as well as minors. If she doesn't go to college she'll be working for sure.
