parents being strict to their son/daughter

Philippines
February 18, 2012 8:17am CST
why do some parents are strict specially on going home late from school ?. i was once like that, i experienced being jealous to my friends who can go home late and going to drinking sessions. a day after you cannot relate to what they are taling because you went home early. maybe because of their upbringing also when they were at our age. can you share your experiences to guys ?
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19 responses
• United States
18 Feb 12
wellllll, jayjay to start off my answer for your discussion sadly i was one of those kids who got to do whatever they want without any restrictions at all and i got to drink with my parents at a young age it ddnt turn out so great. i was suppose to be a senior this year but i messed all that up by getting drunk and high during school got caught and kicked out of every school for life and was only allowed to go to a like detention school or a school for the challenged i wanted neither so i dropped out at 17 now im 18 have no diploma or job or anything to support myself so your best bet is that strict parets are the best even if they are to strict just know that they love you verry much and dont want you to end up like me. its the truth im not afraid to admit im a failure but im tryin my best to get out of this part of life make something better of it. hoped this help?
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@maezee (41996)
• United States
18 Feb 12
I guess parents really just want what's best for their kids, which is usually to do good in school, stay out of trouble, and succeed in life in general. I can understand why parents might hold a tight leash on their kids. Kids (especially teenagers of course) can be swayed easily - by what's "in" trend-wise, what their friends are doing (peer pressure), and so on. Someone has to keep their kids in line. Luckily I don't have kids so I don't have to face this dilemma. I know what a bad teenager I was, I couldn't imagine trying to control my kids...
@swirlz (3136)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
You're right. His situation has peer pressure written all over it. Sometimes the kid has to prove to his parents that he can make right decisions for them to allow him to decide for himself.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
Parents are being strict sometimes because during their time their parents had been strict to them too. Other parents however are being strict as part of their responsibility to their children to let them grow properly without the influence of some not good friends. More especially when children are at their teens. Also for the children to be used of going home on time and not to learn to have vices that would affect their health or their life. When children are at their right age already however some parents are no longer strict. Some parents trust their children however and when come home late, they would listen and understand. By this way the children value their parents' trust that they themselves never does something that would disappoint their parents.
@swirlz (3136)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
True. When you've earned your parents' trust, you would be afraid to do something that would break it.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Mar 12
Some parents are being over protective because nowadays crimes are really happening almost everyday. So they are just being particular in terms of safety that they are worrying if you are late. But then there are some parents who are in generation gap that can't even understand and relate about what is new today that you must have fun with your friends.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
20 Feb 12
Parents doing that for the sake of their children,they all have a heart that wanna their kids being top of the class.However,maybe some methods are not that right,but anyway,i think that having good relationship with kids is really imporant and communication is absolutely necessary.
@Raffay (23)
19 Feb 12
You should be proud of your parents because in my opinion your parents care a lot for you. Some people have parents which do not care them so the can go home late or can go anywhere without informing their parents. Just because their parents do not care for them. I also got jealous but when I understand this thing I became very proud.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
18 Feb 12
My mom and dad had times when we should be home and if not home by then we got in trouble. More so for my sisters and brother. I personally could go more places and stay the night at friends house on a school night and so on and so forth. Why? because they trusted me because I never gave them a reason not to trust me. If more parents would be a little stricter with their kids today we problem would have all the problems we have with the younger crowds. Less teen pregnancies, less of a lot of stuff.
• United States
18 Feb 12
i am strict on my children, as i want to make sure that they are safe. if they go out with friends, i know who they are with, where they are going, and how long they will be gone. if their plans change, then they call me to let me know and we negotiate. it helps them be independent and it helps me keep them out of trouble.
@yanzalong (18982)
• Indonesia
19 Feb 12
No, that's not true. Parents want their children to be well educated, to be the right people parents dream of. It's not true when we say that it was because of parents' childhood being strictly watched. I remember when I was a child I was told not to go out in the rain, while I watched other kids my age were there out in the rain. My mom did not allow me to go out till late at night, while my other friends had a good time being outside the house playing at night. Now I realise that my parents were right. Those kids did not even finish their elementary school.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
I do experienced it in my life way back as a kid.Parents are really like that,it is their way of protecting us into things that my hurt us.It is for our own good.They say that we just understand them once we become parents too.
• Canada
18 Feb 12
I think they are just trying to do what they think is best for their children. They are trying to protect their kids and they don't want their children to get in any sort of trouble and feel that their kids are the safest at home. They don't want their kids to mingle with the bad crowd or develop bad habits so they are strict with them...
@Raffay (23)
19 Feb 12
You should be proud of your parents because in my opinion your parents care a lot for you. Some people have parents which do not care them so the can go home late or can go anywhere without informing their parents. Just because their parents do not care for them. I also got jealous but when I understand this thing I became very proud.
@winston90 (296)
• Romania
19 Feb 12
It may be because they love their ofsprings, and they are concerned for them. It would be devastating to raise your child until he is 19 and then one night realise he is not coming home anymore. Also, do not mind your friends getting drunk. Most of them don't even enjoy drinking, but they are doing it for the sake of being part of the group. It is a stage which we all pass through, and those who can not get past it become notorious drunken people, that will have a problem with alchool altheir lifes.
• Ireland
18 Feb 12
As the daughter of strict parents, I can say that there is a fine line between being strict for the child's own good and going too far. There were times that my parents, mother especially, weren't quite sure where to draw that line. I did end up rebelling (albeit a little late) when I moved out at 18 years of age, but now when I look back I appreciate their efforts and they appear in my opinion to have raised a respectful, well rounded individual. Respect to them.
@swirlz (3136)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
Well for a good reason! They don't want you to go to those drinking sessions. If you prioritize being "in the crowd" more than the safety from keeping away from the sessions, then your parents are right to keep you home. When you can make correct choices, that would be the time they would trust you to decide for yourself.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
I always tell my kids the danger of not listening to parents and olds. They need to understand why parents and guardian wants them to be at home and never stays late outside home especially minors. I am thankful my kids never stays late outside or never come home drunk.
@06MLam (620)
18 Feb 12
I think those parents are just wanting their children to be safe as it is quite dangerous to be alone outside late at night. Children usually don't understand what their parents have considered for them but they will understand when they become parents themselves.
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
When I was younger, my parents would not let me stay late with friends.. At first, I don't understand the rationale behind the restriction. It made me even think that they don't trust me... But when I grew more mature and start to understand the reasons on various stuffs, I get to understand that it's not because they don't trust me but it's because they wanted just the best for me... Especially right now where you can hear from the news on the killings, rape, and other dreadful things that happen to some youngsters who stayed late outside their homes, it made me more realize that parents do know what's best for their children... Perhaps, we'll better understand this when we become parents too...
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
18 Feb 12
It is hard to tell someting abou it. It depends on every parents. I had same problems when I was younger, going to high school. But it was just matter of time persude them that it is not important to care about time when I come home. I can understand them that they are affraid of something bad can happend to you while being out. Probably you are teeneger, so no wonder. If they know that drinking session may happend in your enviroment, they are affraid of it.