Girls feel shy to propose ~ why always guys~

Malaysia
February 22, 2012 12:21am CST
My dear friends, Why girls are feel shy to propose even they fall in love?? Is that must guys propose first? Any comment wanna share here?
17 responses
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
I think that girl feel fears to expressed her love.It is because they don't want their love not being treated and next maybe being rejected.Its embarrassing for her.Anyway don't you think guys should propose first?Be gentlemen..
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
Thats can be acceptable too, but not a entire truth. Girls are also a beautiful and strange heart hard to know, and not that much easy to understand them. They are have an unique heart and careful a roses with thorn.
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
Sure, they should be kept safe and carefully handle the thorn too.
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
roses with thorn?Thorn of roses is a safety for girls:)So be careful of that..Don't hurt them and don't get hurt..
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
Yes that is true but many women today are more aggressive than men in giving some suggestive actions.They are shy at first meeting unlike women before that they have so much body language that the knowing guy is very lucky to have her first kiss.They can not propose until now because they still believes that men are the ones who should say those words,yet they are more aggressive that can be seen in their eyes and even in their ways of speaking it is more suggestive that they like the person they are talking with.
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
I do not know their ways but action speaks louder than words could ever decipher.I find them cute and very attractive,easy to get in touch with and most of all they are very interesting to talk to.Their only difference is the ways they are knowing that women before are very choosy that they tend to be very small talker.They are very conservative.They like their guys to serenade them when visiting with the usual chocolates and flowers.These things are not done these days and courting can be done just as like an ordinary talking in the streets.Some girls are flirts at first yet are very easy to get after a few days of conversations.Some are very quite and acts as if not interested yet shouts when you are gone.
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
hi berting, A humble quite girls suddenly burst out aggressive is really unbelievable. Might be that is the real character inside them and only can show up when needed, is it?
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@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
Are you really referring to "Proposal" or maybe it's "Confession"? If it's confession, well, it would depend on the girl. I know quite a lot of girls who confessed their feelings for a guy. These girls don't mind rejection and are prepared for it. On the other hand, most girls are still the "conservative" types and waits to be confessed to. I'm one of them. Personally, I can't confess to a person I like because I'm afraid of rejection. I had a talk with a guy friend about this and according to him, males/guys can handle rejection well rather than girls since it's "socially acceptable". On the other hand, if a girl is to be rejected, it would affect her confidence and self-esteem. It's like she's feeling no one would have her since she's rejected before. As for proposal, I really don't think it's wrong for a girl to propose especially if the girl and her partner already had talks about marriage and having a family. Quite a lot of girls do the "Proposing" nowadays. Actually, I find it sweet and touching when a girl propose to the guy. It also comes as a surprise for the guy.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
it' very unbecoming for girls to propose to a guy. and the boy might think that this girl is kinda cheap or whatever. and in my personal opinion maybe boys will just fool the girls for they are the first to make action rather than them(boys). and boys don't girls to initiate first.
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
I just want to drop a comment here that not all of guys is doing that kind nonsense. Some are do and spoils a guys reputation.
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
Guys should be the proper one to propose coz they are the one to get for budgeting.Guys are theone who shoulder everything in terms of financing ,so theres no reason why they are the who will propose.........
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
You mean the leader of family is it, to manage the family. They priority in propose first and to choose the right life partner for them.
• Indonesia
22 Feb 12
I think coz girl always hide her feeling from guy.Sometimes girl didnt want if a boy know what shes feel to him.Girl have more ego than boy.So make a girl feel comfort with you.Touch girl exactly in her heart,so you can easy to find her love.Good luck.
• Malaysia
22 Feb 12
Is that a girl have more ego than a boy? might be, but i know girl is jealous than guys. It is easy to find love in someone but quite hard to propose it. That is a fantastic feeling i think. thank for joining.
• Indonesia
22 Feb 12
Yep your welcome.Yu right girls is more jalous than a guy.It cause girls didnt want lose a man that she love.Its mean if a girl fall in love with a boy.she will give her heart to that boy but maybe not all of her heart.
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I think it's because girls are taught to hold their tongues & let the guy make the first move.For me,as a girl,that looks kinda awkward but times have changed but I'd like it if the guy is the one chasing me not the other way around.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
24 Feb 12
It is a very deep tradition that has still not been broken. Women have managed to change many of the old rules that prevented them from being free but not the rule that men do the proposing. It is easier to live together than a woman ask a man to marry her. There is still a deep stigma about it. However, in Western culture there is a date, Feburuary the 29th, which comes up every 4 years on which a girl is allowed to propose. The tradition is one that dates back to the days when women had no power or money and were traded by fathers to husbands with a dowry, at least in Western tradition.
@GemmaR (8517)
26 Feb 12
I am not sure whether girls are too shy to propose or not, but I do know that tradition states that it should always be the man who proposes to the woman unless it is a leap year, like it is this year. I know of a lot of girls who are planning to propose to their partners this year because of the tradition, and this would indicate that they are not shy about it. If I were not already engaged to my partner, I do think that I would probably propose this year because we have been together for a long time and I know that we are supposed to be together forever now.
• United States
22 Feb 12
I think its jsut more common for the guy to propose then to have the girl ask for a mans hand in marriage. For me i want the ring he doenst need it guys arent so glitcy with things but i know girls are so i would want the ring not for me to have me give him one it just seems awkaward to me. I of course have thought about it. I have been with my boyfriend almost three years and i just dont understand why i dont have a ring yet.
• Singapore
25 Feb 12
It's not really about shyness. It's more about the roles different gender has to take. The girl usually has more to lose in a marriage since she can't be remarried as easily as a man when she got divorced and if she takes the initiative, she will have to try harder to retain the marriage. The guy will feel less commitment since it's the girl who initially propose it.
@sumatix (257)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Feb 12
well not very sure as now a days this discrimination has started fading. but yes most of the times it is so that guys are expected to approach as there are many attributes which are taken to be a manly thing and i think proposing is one of them where out of social thinking girls are taken to be shy and reserved so not accepting them to be the first one.Even if girl proposes first it is never taken as honesty towards ones emotions but it is taken as a question on her character.
@erjnsimon (1191)
• Makati, Philippines
25 Feb 12
traditions and culture. i think these two is the cause why this happens. it is not bad anyway that a girl will propose. the world is changing by the way. however i think this can only happen it the girl is very desperate to get the guy. :)
• Italy
26 Feb 12
The nature, our world is done this way. You are the man and the "hunter". The courage is yours and the attention should be yours too. If you pay attention the tell you the want you, but not with the words, but with the body. Anyhow for me the best way to understand it is this: one girl if she likes you will speak with all the other people except you because she knows you're a smart guy and you'll go and meet her. She's there for you ;) Am I right girls?
@totor_53 (223)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
Girls, also needs to feel special that is why the guys have to do most of the moves...
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
hello, It is not actually we are shy to proposed but we already grew up with the matter that guys proposed and not girls. Of course for the girls it is a big pleasure if the guy propose to you and not you.
• India
22 Feb 12
hm, yes its true howver i guess times are changing. even today we come across relations started my a proposal from the girl side...