How can you help your ex to get over you?

Well I could that each person has his or her own unique personality, what may be applicable to one person may not be apllicable to another. It would actually depend on the kind of person she is, they way i understood by the way you described her is that she is one persistent person and i think you would have a hard time getting her to move on. In some similar cases like this, what other people do is that they would have a closure and make everything clear first before splitting up. Well i could say that it would also include talking about what really went wrong and why the relationship won't work out. Having a clear communcation does not mean that you would be adding insult to the injury but each one should see it as a way to improve each one's personality. In some situations some people were able to move on even when maintaining communication with their previous partner but only as a friend, but there are also cases that it won't work until you stop communicating with each other. For me there are two ways for a person to move on. One is a quick fix and another would take a long time to recover. The first way that could help a person move on is finding someone new and special in their life but this would require the person to open up him/herself to the people around, well that would include taking the possible risk to get hurt and finding the right peson for oneself. The second way would take a lot of time becase you would just be waiting for time to mend one's heart. It may take months or even years for one to recover depending on the kind of relationship you had and how long you have been together. I think it would be nice if you could make it clear with her about your thoughts on why it won't work in such a manner that you won't offend here and that you won't also hurt her self esteem. In a way, if you would like to maintain your relationship as close friends then you could try encourage her to explore ang mingle with other people. In anyway you're the only one who could decide on what is best thing to do because of all people you are the one who knows her well more than anyone. Good luck and happy mylotting.

I think whatyou are doing is quite okay. just remain firm with that and make sure that you are going to stick with the decision. You owe it to her to have moved on because if you still care about the person, at least not romantically you would still want her to be happy, even not with you and the best is for you to make sure that she knows there isn't going to be you and her anymore. openly tell her if she insists that there is someone better for her.

well this is very difficult situation in life when you can not decide what is wrong and what is right.but in this case i would suggest you that , you need to go through a period of time when you cut off as much communication with your ex as possible. It will be the last thing you want to do,but being with them WILL hurt, and will not help you get over them.If you do not have mutual friends, don't meet up with them. Either way, you can still do these things to limit the communication shared with your ex: Don't comment, message or email them. Don't initiate conversation on msn/aim. and you have to tell her that you are with other girl and there is no possibility that you could come in her's life again for any reason.

Getting over someone is a process that takes time and no one can really help her with it. While friends and family can do a lot to soften the pain at times, in the end it has to come from within. Unless she accepts that it's truly over she won't be able to move on. The only thing you can do is try to make yourself as clear as possible and consequently avoid contact with her (at least for a while).