I object about what you think of me!
By almightybong
@almightybong (186)
Philippines
February 26, 2012 10:44am CST
Do you care about what people think of you? How much of your actions are driven by the desire to satisfy what you think people think about you?
This is in a way related to the previous posts by one myLot user, but this is quite the opposite. Since we have established that it can't be avoided to have prejudgments on people, we ourselves feel the desire to be thought of the way we would have wanted to be. This is why sometimes we feel the pressure to modify our natural behaviors, and upon doing it regularly, it also becomes innate in our nature.
There was one time that me and my group mates on a certain project are working together. I was sitting and thinking on how to improve what we are working on. Somehow, they thought I was procrastinating and that I didn't mind. When they confronted me, I was surprised because clearly, what they think I was doing is definitely the opposite of what I am really doing. I know that I should've been more vocal and transparent about my thoughts so that there won't be any misunderstanding, but by the time I reasoned out, they just felt like I was making an excuse. Apart from being thought of as a person who's making excuses, I didn't want to be thought of as someone who procrastinates. It troubled me. And as someone who finds more ideas when working alone, I learned to be more transparent. And so for the next projects, I just outright say what my ideas are, until someone thought I'm being a "know-it-all" person. So I sort of stayed on the middle-ground. I think right now, a lot of my actions are subconsciously designed to make sure that I am not thought of differently.
You could probably relate. Have you ever acted against your own preference just so you could assure people won't think of you the wrong way?
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8 responses
@trinkabelle (432)
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26 Feb 12
i have never worried about what people think of me and i never will, waste of time worrying over people who have a low opinion of you, if they don't like you, that's their problem
@magester1 (148)
• Argentina
26 Feb 12
Heh, that's something I hate too. If you don't come up with anything fast then you leeching, if you do then you think you're smarter than all of them. Why can't people stop being like that?
I always say it doesn't matter what others think of you, in most cases anyway.
Unfortunately, we are all influenced someway or another by what our friends and relatives think of ourselves.
@almightybong (186)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
True. I mean you really can't help it. You keep telling yourself that you can never please everybody and that you shouldn't care about what people think about you but the truth is, if you find yourself misunderstood, it is just frustrating, especially if they're the people you care about.
@kat_princess (1522)
• Japan
27 Feb 12
I used to but I'll just say to them to mind their own business.In Tagalog say "Pake mo?Pakelaman mo sarili mo!Huwag ka matulad kay Boy Abunda."
@GemmaR (8517)
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26 Feb 12
I don't care about what many people think about me, but sometimes you will hear that somebody thinks something of you, and you just can't help but wonder what you have done to them to cause them to have this opinion of you. There is a girl who I went to school with who doesn't like me, and I genuinely don't have a clue why this is the case, and things like that will bother me because I honestly don't know what I have done wrong to make that girl not like me. It just isn't fair in the slightest to be honest, and that does bother me.
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
I do know that people near me think very badly of me. That's what I get from being a true friend for more 9 years. Now I've learned that people only think good of us when they are earning something out of friendship, but if they saw that you don't have anymore value especially financial value, then everything is just a waste. You cannot count on them in times of problem, much worser, they would pinned you down. Though it would be a bad experience, I would rather say that it is a blessing, that I rather know them well now.
Do you think that I cleaned my name? NO, let them think what they wanted and be poisoned with their own malicious and dirty minds. I know that time would come that I don't need to say sorry nor did they have to apologize too. It would be better if they tell a lot of things from us, but in the end they would ask for apology after learning that things are not what they think.
Take care and just be happy with your family and true friends.
@deodavid (4147)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
Hi there almighty bong,
Most of the time I do because of my line of work and my character, i wish to pick times were i can be confrontational with someone and avoid any sort of disagreements and I am also the type of person who likes to keep things to myself when clearly someone else's opinion outweighs mine. But when i want something done my way someone else's toes might hurt but at that particular moment i don't mind stepping on any.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
26 Feb 12
Like the saying goes "we can never please everybody".
That's it, why try to be someone else then.
No matter how we give or show our best, there is always a negative impact to others.
So, be yourself and let them judge you according to what they thought you are.
As long as you are doing good and not harming anyone else...i wouldn't care who they think I am.
Have a good day and enjoy mylotting
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
26 Feb 12
I understand your situation, It's because I've been there too. I can probably say that I'm one of those group mates of yours who had confronted someone who's been procrastinating. I think the situation of my fellow group mates is different from yours anyway,
As what the common proverbs says " What they think of me is none of my business". It's their life and It's their mind and It's you whom they've been thinking. This is life. People will always criticize us for what we did.
