Do you enjoy when someone you know is in trouble?
By winston90
@winston90 (296)
Romania
February 28, 2012 9:11am CST
It does not have to be your friend.
Just a person you know, let's say a friend's friend, or anybody not that close to you.
I've seen it first at little children, always giggling and holding their laugh when someone in their class is in trouble.
Maybe not all people are the same, but definitely someof them enjoy, even if they don't want to, when they know they are safe and sound, and someones world just crushed on his shoulders.
Now, I know it is not a good habit, but neither is talking behind someone's back, or lying about something to get out of some trouble yourself, but it is human nature, and some things are really hard to give up on, even if you hate.
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@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
29 Feb 12
The last time I did was when I was at school, when it turned out that some classmates didn't prepare for the lesson...
Now if someone who has hurt me a lot gets into trouble, sometimes I feel that maybe he or she deserved it, but I don't enjoy it.
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@winston90 (296)
• Romania
29 Feb 12
It is not really enjoying.
I can't describe it. It is like, you feel he or she deserved it.
Moreover if you thought in your mind that that is coming for him, you feel some kind of fullfilment. Like a "point to you".
It is not necessarily enjoing that he is in trouble.
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@champoy186 (1638)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
I admit I am a bitter person sometimes. If I see a person whom I don't like is in trouble, I feel quite happy about it because it makes me feel like I am the winner and I did my revenge. I know that this is not a good attitude. Right now, I am trying to give them a helping hand. I don't want to be a bitter person anymore. Happy mylotting!
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@winston90 (296)
• Romania
29 Feb 12
I don't think it is bittertness. Maybe it's just the way you are, and you can't change it. Yet, maybe you can.
I also have to admit that I sometimes enjoy seeing someone in trouble. Maybe I am enjoing because it wasn't me, so maybe I am happy that I am OK, not because that person is having problems.
If I don't like that person than maybe, besides enjoing taht I am not having problems, I also am glad that that person was punished.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I do not enjoy seeing anyone in trouble. it doesn't really matter if they are a friend or not. It really doesn't matter if i even know them. it does not give me any kind of good feeling to see someone else hurting and in trouble. I believe that everyone deserves a chance at happiness and the opportunity to leave our troubles behind.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 Feb 12
Call me bad but I really have to admit the fact when someone I don't like is in trouble then I feel it is already my victory because it is like I already did my revenge against my enemy or the person that I don't like.
But most of the time if I had seen someone is in trouble as much as possible I want to hand a help with that person especially if he or she is my friend.
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@winston90 (296)
• Romania
29 Feb 12
Me too. Even if sometimes a feeling of joy runs through my body, after acknowledging that it is bad to feel good about somebody's troubles, my first thought is tohelp that person.
It is not that I enjoy that feel of joy, but I can not help it. I also know that it is bad, but it is my nature, and unfortunately I can't change it.
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@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
29 Feb 12
If someone makes a big deal of his problem and complains and has bitterness , it can make me laugh about it secretly. If I know someone who deals with his problem like it's a regular procedure , I will not laugh at it.
It is also depends on the seriusness of the problem : If someone is in deep problems , I will not laugh at all , I will feel solidarity.
Whene me and my brother were younger , sometimes we had problems and one of us laughed at the other. It depended on the size of the problem and the way we deal with it. If one of us had to do some small tasks and complained about it , the other could laugh.
Also , many people see life as a race and want their rivals to lose no matter how. I don't see the life as a race , I rather want to help and feel solidarity.
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@winston90 (296)
• Romania
29 Feb 12
Yes, I guess you are right.
That person's atitude about his, or her, situation is important.
But prevoius experience, even if no direct contact was made with him, is also important. Maybe you've overheard a talk in which that person was involved, and you didn't like what he said, so now you do not share his bitterness.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Feb 12
No I never did. Quess I was way too serious already as a kid for that and had my own problems (parents beat me up day and night) to stay alive.
I can't stand people who enjoy other's missery and I will never understand what is funny about that either or how it can make anyone feel better. But I guess it does since many people love to watch a soap as well or love to gossip.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 May 12
hi wa keupkitty and some laugh at americas funniest home videos all showing someone taking a bad fall. I do not as its not f unny as lots of times a fall causes majot damage to ther person falling.
I hate to see someone hurt and I feel for them, I spent most of mylife working as a nurses aide on surgical floor and the ER and
nothing I saw or worked with was funny at all but sad, tragic and mind numbing. a person who enjoys others suffering must be seriously mentally ill.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 May 12
winston hi no no no I do not enjoy it when someone I know is in
trouble at all.I am an adult and also I know the pains and the fears one has in a troublesome situation,. I would never ever
enjoy another person's trouble.little kids may do that at first until they learn empathy and sympathy but good decent people do
not enjoy another s troubles.If I can offer any help at all I will'do so.I believe in the Golden Rule do unto othesr as you would
have tghem do unto me.If this is human nature f or some it is not for me. I do not laugh when someone has a bad fall. I do not laugh when some one is being pickled on by others.My human nature does not bend to glorying in someone elses troubles. I like people not hate
them.
them. @GemmaR (8517)
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28 Feb 12
I guess it would depend entirely on what kind of trouble they're in, and whether they're upset by it or not. When I was at school, the type of trouble that people would get into was a little bit funny, because it would all be forgotten about by the end of the day, however when we are adults things can get a little bit different and we have to think about the fact that getting into trouble now can have a lot more of an impact on us than it would have done when we were younger, so I probably wouldn't find it quite as funny these days.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
I admit when I was in college, I used to be a bitter person. I hate someone because I wanted to them and I hate her because she do have a miss-know-it-all attitude. There was a time when I heard that she failed in a course, I was so happy it's because I new that she will brag on how she pass. I know this is not good. I had changed for the better.
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