hard-headed diabetic mom

@yunako (74)
Philippines
February 29, 2012 2:31am CST
My mother has diabetes. This disease runs through her family. She had her medical check-up and had been explained already what are the foods allowed and prohibited to her. She's been taking her maintenance medication regularly. But it seems we are having a hard time making her understand that too much sugar and salt are not allowed for her. She really loves sweet and salty foods. Every time we gonna explain to her the situation, she always has the excuse that she's been taking her meds and she'll gonna drink one pitcher of ampalaya decoction to lower her blood sugar. she's such a stubborn mum and we dont know how to handle her with this stuborness.
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• United States
29 Feb 12
Having a husband who is diabetic I know how hard it is for you to take care of someone who wants to eat sweets. What I do is go to the splenda web site and look for sugar free recipes. Splenda is a sugar substitute. Read the American Diabetes Association web site and that will give you a lot of ideas and things to do to make sure that you are doing the right thing for your mom. As for exercising, is there anyway possible you could join a gym or walk with her. I am not sure if you are diabetic or not, but if she has someone who is willing to eat healthier with her she may stick to her diet. where can you buy ampalaya decoction? is it something you can find in the US?
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@yunako (74)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Ampalaya decoction? You just boil ampalaya leaves with water. The boiled water is called the decoction. One glass a day or dividing a glass of it for the three meals. It's a traditional method of lowering sugar level. I don't know if you have garden in your backyard with ampalaya. I'm from the Philippines and we have the plant around us.
• Canada
29 Feb 12
My grandma has diabetes too and it is very difficult for us to explain to her to watch her diet and not eat too much sugar as she needs to watch her blood sugar level. She just doesn't want to give up her sweets and desserts. We are explaining to her the consequences of not changing her diet and the doctor does the same thing. So, now she is slowly trying to modify her diet and planning her meals. She is subtituting the sugar with a sweetner ("splenda") and having more sugarfree products in her house. You can also ask your mom to try a sweetner and see hoiw she likes it. Also, just be patient with her and give her time to modify her diet and habits after this change in her health condition...
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
29 Feb 12
ya i know what you mean, i have a friend like that and her blood sugar is often around the high 20s and she doesnt seemt to care. maybe you should get a big basket of snacks that she can eat such as dark chocolate, etc and sit down with her and tell her you want her to be around for along time so she needs to take care of herself.
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@wanted123 (121)
• India
29 Feb 12
Yea that's true..! Even my mom is diabetic and she keeps on eating items which contains sugar.! i have told her so many times but na na no response.the best idea to reduce their habit of having sweets is that family should completely drop out sugar items or prepare sugar free items.
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@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
29 Feb 12
Just be patient with her. Try finding an evident about the bad result of eating food she is not allowed to. Your advice without real proof will not change her attitude.
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29 Feb 12
why do not you try to use traditional medicine as it very good for especialiy for the parents to the disearse
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@Kowgirl (3490)
• United States
28 Jul 12
I am a type 2 diabetic and I have learned there is no foods we are not allowed to eat. We can eat sugar but not a lot of it at one time. It's not just the sugar but foods high in carbohydrates that have an affect on our glucose. We can eat rice, preferable brown rice and in a reasonable proportion. We can eat potatoes, preferable small red skin potatoes. If it's sweets and desserts I have learn to adapt most so I can eat them too. Once you have learned what amount of carbohydrates you can handle without elevating your blood sugar then you can adapt your meals to keep it level. My tolerance is around 45g carbs per meal, 15g per snack. My blood sugar stays around 95 to 101. I have a Squidoo lens with a lot of recipes for desserts, snacks, meats, vegetables,salads, and other foods you may want to try. Just be patient with her and explain why you want to help her with this disease. Take a look in her pantry and exchange the bad foods for the good ones a little at a time. You can even get rid of the meds once you know what your body can handle. P.M. me for link to lens Best of luck Shirley
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 Feb 12
If that is the case then I think you must plan a mean that can substitute to what she is eating. If she likes cakes then find something that is for diabetic. If I were you start to cook that is less sweet and salt. Keep her stay away from the food that can harm her like chocolates, candies and junkfoods. If you want to help her then do other ways as well and don't show it to her that you are eating the foods that are prohibited to her chances are she will be having temptation with it. It is a matter of strong conviction and inspiring her, because simple advise and reminders wouldn't be really a big help for her especially if you guys are eating those prohibited foods in front of her. Just face the reality it is hard to resist from temptation and that is what your mom feels right now. Again inspire her to eat healthy food and don't buy anything that she can see then grab it. For example as much as possible don't buy juices. You must drink water together with her.
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@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
1 Mar 12
I think its the same story for all of us with someone diabetic. My husband is now on insulin. Don't we think that would have given him a clue? But no matter how I feed him if I feed him portion then he will get up and major snack. If he gets all he can have at one meal then not half an hour later he has his hands getting a snack. I finally gave up. I can love him but I would lose my mind trying to do the control part. I don't eat that much myself. Just never seem to be hungry. had a father that was diabetic too. he too had to finally go on insulin. I guess if they like eating that much a needle does not bother them. Now I am gonna get mad if I get diabetes and don't eat that much and have to have insulin I hate needles! LOL Good Luck with your mom. I just beat my head against the wall and see if I feel any better cause I sure know my husband does not listen to me either.