Will You Called It As Love?

Indonesia
March 4, 2012 5:47am CST
I cancel my wedding about 2 years ago. I cancel it because I realize that he don't really want me / love me. He just want to used me to earn money, I realize it coz he ask me to borrow money from bank. after I cancel the wedding, he sued me with a reason I broke a promise. and sue me for much money. and when we talk, he said that he love me and can't live without me.. I can't consider it as love by seeing what he did to me in the past. and till now, the case haven't been settle yet.
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10 responses
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Yeah definitely, i think was only taking you for his advantage. What thing i am curious is how did he sue you for a promise that has been broken? Was there a written contract? If there is none, then that would be unlikely as you can't sue someone with just verbal contract or verbal promise. Can you enlighten me on this one.
• Indonesia
5 Mar 12
I never have any contract with him.. especially written contract.. actually i don't really want to get married in this age. but, he say that he is already 32. it is suitable for him to set up a family. that's why i agree to marry him. just that. my dad ever sign a paper that he say is a cancellation for restaurant, but the fact that is a letter of cancellation of our wedding. he lied to my dad. but this happen after i cancelled the wedding. and using this letter, he sued my dad, mom and me. actually the one who broke the promise is him his-self. I let him choose whether want a business or want to marry me. he say he want a business. it's hurt my pride, so I cancel all the wedding preparation.
• Canada
4 Mar 12
I can understand cancelling a wedding because the love just isn't there but to have him sue you for breaking that promise of marriage? Did you and him have this loan from the bank in progress prior to you cancelling the wedding? I have never heard of such thing that you can sue for breaking off the engagment as many people don't break it off they just don't show up at the wedding and leave the other at the alter in complete embarrassment. I hope that it all works out in the end.
• Indonesia
5 Mar 12
many people don't believe of this thing. but when i saw them the document that is send by the court they will surprise. actually my wedding will be on July and i cancel the wedding on may. coz when we have already take a prewedding photo. he ask me to support him to do business. and ask me to borrow money from the bank. he ask me to borrow around $10,000. he got angry to me coz i don't want to do that. we fight for it, and i let him choose whether he want to marry me or he want the business. and he choose business. It's really hurt my pride. I leave him and go to find a friend in Malaysia, who knows my friend can find me a job there. but when i'm in Malaysia, he sue me. and i go back to settle it, but i lose the court for 2 times and now it is in the third court. I also not understand about Indonesian law.
@ekoytyas (4679)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
too bad, i never think there is a man like your boyfriend. i hope you can find the best for become your husband.
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
I hope so.. but now, i think it's really hard for me to have a relationship. i was so shock.. maybe i will never married..
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
4 Mar 12
It is the first time I hear someone can sue you because you are not marrying him. Sorry but it's hard to believe for me he has a case. Especially not because most men run out of marriage, break their promisses, leave women and their children behind. You were not married and it was a good and brave thing to do to cancel that marriage. I wonder why you are still talking to him. Ignore him and start a life of your own. You are right, he will do everything to lay his hands on money. No matter if you are married or not he wants money and will find/try everything to get it from you. This guy is an abuser and scammer delete him out of your life! Don't give in, don't feel pity with him, don't let him manipulate you! first he will say he loves you soooo much he can't live without you, next time he will tell you are a heartless woman and you are the fault of everything. This guy will always be a loser and if you don't give in he will find an other victim.
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
many people said so.. whoever is that if i told them, their reaction will be same like u. not only u guys, for me too. I never seen this case before but so pity once i saw it, it happen to me. actually i'm not talking with him anymore now. i mean, i talk to him when the first time i receive the document from the court. the funniest thing he told me is "that's not me.. the one who sued u is not me.." can u believe what he say? In that time i really stress. and the craziest is, i lose the court for 2 times already. and now, it's in the third court. maybe it is the bad thing for me to be an Indonesian.. :(
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
I cannot even connect the dot why you are still communicating with him. He sued you because you break a promise to loan him money. That is clearly not love. He is just using you to his advantage. Take all your money and then leave you behind empty handed. Try to read all the advises clearly and emagine yourself if you will marry him. Then you will find the answer if whatever it is good luck. But don't be left a loser.
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
umm... maybe there is a misunderstanding.. i mean i talk to him when the first time i receive a document from the court. i need to know why he is doing that... but that's the last time i talk to him. thank you so much for your advice..
@mauve02 (133)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
It is the first time that I heard someone so has been sued just because you canceled your marriage. Wow! LOL! Well, I think you are right, he is just using you to earn money and I want to congratulate you from discovering that before your marriage. At least you have opened your eyes for the truth.
@espoir (184)
• China
5 Mar 12
It's definitely not love. It is all about money.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
good for you that you have discovered it before your wedding. it is better to stay away from that man because he might do something bad again. i was surprised to hear he sued you because of a broken promise? what are his evidences? maybe is just frustrated over a cancelled plan and now he is up to something again. be careful dear.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
5 Mar 12
Good thing you made the right decision. He is damn so crazy for doing that. Why does he need a money in the first place? How could he sue you from that? I mean just because of the breach of contract? I don't think he can do that unless he spent much for that then you were the one who broke that promise or runaway. I think that is case to case basis.
• India
4 Mar 12
hi, its my kind request kick that idiot out of your life . Marriage is not fun or money it includes not only both of your life but also the future innocent child who as done nothing if he create problem in future regarding money what will you do and what wall that poor little child do ? pls think before you act am sure you will surly get a new man with whom you can surly start a new life