You helped - you contribute?

Always both of them need to contribute till the baby have get some Maturity. It's the Good parenting, need to take care of our child is our important part of the parenting. We must to share this work in all contribution.

Honestly I can't understand about it but then are you married with the father of your kid? It is so nerve for him to say that it is your choice to have kid not his, unless you adapted it.

hi glitznglittre I think there are a lot of other mo ms like you who are not getting the child support the weaselly men are supposed to send and some help out the deadbeat dad. I an interested too'is seeing if others also have the same problems on mylot.

No. I think both parents should contribute financially to support the child. The system is broken and definitely needs to be fixed. Have a wonderful day!

The system is broken and no one is breaking a sweat to get it fixed. There is the no payment problem such as you have and it works both ways. If the dad is raising the child, there are deadbeat moms, too. Women can accuse someone of rape and may get sympathy from all sides; the same with physical, mental and verbal abuse, but when a man says it happened to him, he becomes a laughing stock. The justice system we have is not perfect by a long stretch, but compared to the countries that give no trials, or wait years before a trial, or stick people under the jail for saying anything against the government, we still have the best. We just need folks in charge who are honest enough and attentive enough to make the system work. Hugs, Maggie

Where do you live? I would suggest a better lawyer and then calling frequently to make sure payment is made. My brother in law is in and out of jail on a bi monthly basis for not paying his support. He was ticked when it happened but the state and fed. taxes all went to his ex via a court order whether he liked it or not.

I don't have children so maybe I should not comment but I think it should be something a man should want to do for their child, but seeing as he is the way he is then it is sad, sad for the child as I guess everyone wants to know a nd be loved by two parents, but if it was me and as I see the way the world is today I would bring the child up by myself and be the lucky one as the father doesn't know what he is missing but know human nature the way it is the father will probably come back and want to be in the life of his sons life when he himself has selfish reasons... I wish you and your son a wonderful life, and always remember you are the lucky one to have your gorgeous son.

Of course both parents should contribute, it does take two! I have a child (now adult) whose father wasn't interested in being involved, I did eventually get some child support, but it was his loss as far as I'm concerned. (Not being in his child's life, I mean.) Are you saying he has managed, more than once, to get his child support debt erased? Do you live in the U.S.? I thought that even if they never paid, the debt remained in place just waiting for them to potentially get some type of income it could be withheld from. I have heard of people who finally get some past-due support long after their children are grown. I know that's not very helpful now, when your child needs it, but it's somewhat gratifying to think that they don't all always get off scot-free, just the same.

I think that system stinks! There are too many women having to raise their children alone and then some people wonder why we have wanted equal rights and why we want to work outside the home. Well..what are we supposed to do? Let our kids starve? Now see..you have me going now. You have me talking about rights. Anyway..I completely understand where you are coming from. I have seen the system work really good for some people and then for others...it has been a complete flop. I think that all children deserve the financial and emotional support that both parents can give but what can one do if the other doesn't provide neither? Your doing a great job with your son. Try not to dwell too much..that's what I had to do. I just enjoyed my kids and give them everything that I could when I could do it. Take care.

My ex never cared about his children, my ex bf never cared about his, was even seldom there. He started to show some kind of interest 2 years after I ended our relationship and his other gf kicked him out. He even never accepted them as his kids so official mine have no father at all. He is just interested in me and tries to abuse the kids for that, my friends etc etc. I don't care if the dads pay and my kids don't care about the fact if they have a dad. They are very happy kids and that is the only thing that counts for me. As they say here; the one who is getting them can keep them.

Yes the natural way it does take two people to make a baby but not all two people want to have a baby that is why its important to use protection till you know for sure that this person wants a kid with you and will be staying with you or at least helping out in some way shape or form. Some men lie and say yes just to get into a someone's pants but that isn't all men. Good men no matter what if he's with that women or not he'll always want to help out with his kids if not seeing them at least money wise. There are some men that want kids but doesn't want to deal with the mom so they will do water they want to do not deal with the women that some times includes the child. But it doesn't really need to take two to raise a child to a child really its no different if they have two parents or one parent a mom can do a dad's job and dad can do mom job's in raising a kid on there own. I think all single parents with the person that they have a child with would help out in some way or another and it can be hard for some them to get anything for there kids from the other parent. Me I'm lucky I know if something happened to me and my husband he would always stay in our children's life and help out in what ever way he can.

My husband had a friend that had his wages garnished to ensure that his child support payments were made and also I understand that they courts can take away the guy's driver's license too if they don't pay. Anyway, perhaps you could check into these things, ask a lawyer, maybe, Good luck, my lot , friend.

You are absolutely right, it is the responsibility of both parents to raise the child and provide for their needs. They both need to contribute for the upbringing of their child including financial help for paying for the child's needs. The system is definitely defective and needs to be fixed. There isn't much one can do to fight with this system. It can be very difficult to raise a child as a single mom. I just don't understand that how can a parent not care about their own child and pay the child support for their child's needs...

i feel very sorry for ur current status. let me tell u it is not easy going through the courtroom for this kind of of a case wherein one life is in question. i am sure u r doing ur bets for ur son, however the system has its own papers to be completed before anything can be finalised. in between it is for the poor victim to suffer. every counrty have flws in legal cases. It is always very difficult to prove truth ...in ur case it was some alimony...have faith in god and move on

I think you are not the only one in this Earth suffer such situation from an irresponsible man. Many single mom also has to raise their own children alone. The system definitely is defective, but we can't do nothing about it, until some new legislators might pay attention to it. Until then, we just have to work in the hard way. By the way, didn't you and your ex talk about whether he likes children or not before your guys absolutely committed to the relationship? Now, he is back out.

The man caused the pain, the woman felt the pain. The one who caused it is more responsible for it. Still I think both parties should pay equally (unless it was forcefully) as they were the ones who decided to go on.