Is my thought right or wrong?

Vietnam
March 5, 2012 10:20pm CST
My neighbor has two sons. The younger son is in heart disease. So, we usually give him gifts or nutrition food or milk. However, I don't like the way his mother care him. She feed him a little, if the son doesn't eat, she'll give all for the eldest son or she and her husband will enjoy! The little son is very thin! He looks poor! But we begin to stop giving him anything. Because we thought that they don't help him. His parents don't use the gifts for him properly. Is my thought right or wrong in this situation?
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11 responses
@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
7 Mar 12
I think maybe you should invite the kid over to you house alot and that way you now that he eats. I would still continue to give the giftsto the boy
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• Vietnam
8 Mar 12
Thank you for your advice. I think this idea is good. I'll do what you said :)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I don't know..Maybe the one child that have disease did not eat much so he eat little. Or maybe the mother don't want to waste the food and just give to the other child to eat it. Or maybe other reason, can judge that because i did not see..
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
I don't know the reason for mother's works. I know that she loves her son, of course. Maybe because she doesn't like caring child or she's lazy.
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I know you're just concerned with the younger son's ailment, but mind you. There's a reason why the mother won't feed his son with too much food. I just wanted to let you know that his son has a HEART Disease. If her mom will feed his son with a lot of food. Chances are the mom is killing his son. You know, why? Patients with heart diseases are not allowed to eat too much. There body can't take to eat a lot of food. The son is very thing because there is no enough fluid on the child's body. If the son is too fat, it will be an additional danger to the child. I'm sorry to say this but your thoughts is wrong.
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
I thank for your sharing. You said frankly. But you know, I didn't said that the mother doesn't allow her son eating much or little. You can imagine : she feed her child. But patience is not. She tried to force children to eat fast. Finally, the child vomit all the food out. These foods, just eat the boy refused, she would immediately rushed to his eldest son or her to eat them instead of comforting the child can eat a little more. This story repeated every day since he returned from the hospital. I can not get angry when seeing these things!
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
6 Mar 12
i think that you should confront the mother. It sounds like you care about this boy alot just tell the mom that you want to help in anyway you can. The trick is not to sound judgmental at all just act like a concerned friend
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
I used to think like you. I shouldn't judgmental the mum. However, I can't stand what she do with the little son. I feel angry. So, I must share here to get some advice :(
@beenice2 (2967)
• Sackville, New Brunswick
6 Mar 12
It is hard to say, living close by you see there coming and going probably well enough to say if something is the matter,if the kid is skinny he doesn't eat well enough, yes, but does he want to eat much,you have a lot of things that is involved in that, but it can be that the parents are not doing their job,you have to know what is going on.
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
I don't understand your means much. However, I think that the mother is lazy in caring her little son. The father doesn't know how to care him well!
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
That is awful. No kid deserves to be treated that way. Though giving food to the sick one would create jealousy from the older one I sill believe that it is the responsibility of the parents to take care of their children sick or not.
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
I think that his parents don't care him carefully moreover he's sick. Other parents care their normal kids more carefully than them. I don't know why. But I feel uncomfortable with them when I see the ways they care the little son.
• United States
6 Mar 12
Oh tkonlinevn! I think definitely they are using the gifts and food wrong. If he can't eat it all at one time they should store it up for him until he can eat more since it is good for him and you are willing to help them to help their son in this way. I'm sorry they are abusing their gifts this way. God will bless you for what you have and are trying to do.
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
It's nice to hear your sharing. I'm wondering that I should give the little son more or not. This thoughts make me feel uncomfortable...
@macowtdy (116)
6 Mar 12
Hi..! I feel sorry about that boy..! That mother might be very rude..! If she don't use gifts for the benefit of that boy,its useless of giving gifts.
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
I think so. However, I still poor the son. I want to help him and caring him.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
7 Mar 12
Well, the mother should try and find out why the boy isn't eating. Is it due to the fact he is ill or just doesn't want the food. She has a responsibility to the son to feed him properly, and does she seem concerned about him? There shouldn't be anymore gifts if they are not giving it to the boy, I agree. They should really be reported if they're not taking proper care of the boy however, he might have another underlying illness thats causing him not to eat. I worry about that poor little boy, I wish i could do something for him.
@vimal1990 (116)
6 Mar 12
it is really awful to see a mother who doesn't care for his kid.i think they are using your gifts in a wrong way and that gift is not helpful to that kid too. if parents are wrong, we can't help. one day they will regret for this attitude and hope that the kid will get well soon. our prayers are with that kid.
• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
Are there any other ways to help the son directly? I love him. But I don't love his parents !
• Indonesia
6 Mar 12
omg,,i know what u feel to that boy.maybe his mom crazy didnt give him many food and didnt care with him much.But i think if you wantt o help him thats no problem.you only help him not his mom.i know you have mean only help him coz you told he look soo thin like poor.so my suggest dont stop your help to him,maybe he will feel sad if you stop it,it cause he didnt get much food and care from his mom.in his heart he feel happy coz you help him.dont care about his mom,good luck ok.
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• Vietnam
7 Mar 12
He's only 18 months. I don't think that he can feel happy or not :( I think I'll look for an other ways to help him directly more.